+1...pretty sound advice
Yeah, I'm a newbie trying to get my foot in the door. Trying to get some credibility. I work part time unofficially, so even P411 said I was bummin' without an employer. I have money! Doesn't that count? I sent some emails off to a few ladies hoping someone would give me a break. No luck, until one hottie did unexpectedly respond. So, I send an elaborate email with verifiable personal references, personal info, photos of myself and even a photo of my drivers license, this about wore me out. I never used any explicit language either, 5 days go by, no word, so I email her, what's up, did you get my info? She says yeah, real nice," She says she needs to sleep on it, but the answer will probably be yes". I haven't heard back from her yet. I send her another message, no answer, then one more asking her if I did or said anything wrong. Still no response. I was all excited, but now I'm just burnt. I put myself out there. Was she just playing me? Was I dumb to give her all this info? I'm really sincere about this, but this kind of stuff makes me just want to give up. I can try real dating if I want to get my head messed with! Anyone got any good suggestions?
and that might be making gals anxious. Giving out a driver's license for example, there's so much wrong with that.
Try this instead: Go to a massage parlor, and see if you can find a gal there you like. Go back and ask for her repeatedly, and develop some rapport with her. Not only will you develop a reference in the trade, but I think you'll get your sea legs which will help you to converse more appropriately with the gals who work as escorts.
Good luck in any case
+1...pretty sound advice
I really am.
Understand that there are a lot of flakey girls out there, just like flakey clients.
I, personally, have no problem seeing newbies and if you had sent me all the same info, you would have gotten an answer right away.
As for giving your DL info out...that's something I always ask for when a client who has no refs/is a student/has no verifiable job info, wants to book me.
But I always allow them to block out any info that isn't their name and picture. I don't need your address or DL number. I just wanna make sure you're who you say you are.
MrFisher has some good advice there. I don't personally accept parlor girls as references, but I know plenty of providers do.
Just be patient and keep on it.
Trust me...stuff is aggravating on both sides of the fence and you're not alone.
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also, try to seek out girls who advertise that they are newbie friendly. I happily see newbie with all the information you provided. I know it can be frustrating but also try to understand a lot of us are just doing everything we can to keep ourselves safe. I think once you see it from that side you'll understand why she's taking her time to make that decision. You'll find someone you're compatible with and accepts newbies. It's all fun from there because you'll have your first reference and that will make things somewhat easier for you.
-Eve
I'd say she sounds flaky. It's inconsiderate of her to not give you an answer. Try to find a lady who seems more professional.
I also agree with Mr. Fisher that you might be coming across as too anxious. Just explain to the girl that you're a newbie with part-time/unofficial/difficult to verify employment, but that you're willing to provide whatever information is necessary in order to make her feel comfortable meeting you.
Modified to add: I also don't accept references from massage parlors. Some girls might accept a reference from an established independent massage provider. An agency is another route to consider (some girls will accept agency references, some won't). Just make sure the agency is legit (girls reviewed on TER)
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I get it, it sucks "having money" but being labeled "jobless." Since you're a bit handicapped with your current situation, I'd take a deep breath, and approach the whole aspect more slowly. I wouldn't constantly email the provider up a storm if you don't receive a response immediately. They do have other clients to answer to and I've found out that an answer or so within a day or two is quite acceptable. Also, don't assume that you did anything wrong and machine gun questions to the providers, I personally feel that's a bit forceful and I'm sure these lovely ladies don't want to forcibly choose anything, especially a new client. (supply and demand in play here).
I really wouldn't send a scanned DL info to someone you never even met; a lot of credible providers ask you on their website to input your personal info and they do have a column where you can explain your situation in brief.
Good luck with the process and be patient, it's definitely worth it when you're in the pipeline. (all puns intended)