...though it's usually when I'm at the peephole.
[knock, knock, knock]
Provider: [looking through peephole] "Those lying bitches -- they said he was good-looking".
Me: "Excuse me? I didn't quite catch that. Hi, it's me, 'Lex'!"
Provider: "I think you have the wrong room, hon. I'm not expecting any company. Now go away before I call hotel security."
It's a good thing that I like Godiva chocolates.
I will keep this general, so as not to offend. I had a 4 hour appointment with a Chicago GFE provider who has excellent reviews. She promised to alert me with plenty of advanced notice in the event that she couldn't keep our appointment. She had my home tel #, cell #, Chicago hotel #, copies of my hotel and airlines reservations. I flew in from the West Coast just to see this provider, taking off an extra day from work. She was a no show for our appointment. She didn't answer her cell phone, or reply to my voice mail or email messages. She didn't offer an apology, or an explanation, or suggest a way of making it up or rescheduling. I even sent emails to some of the women with whom she works, just to find out if she's ok, but haven't gotten any response. Has anyone else ever had such a disappointing experience? Is it appropriate to mention such a provider's name? Ladies, do you consider such behavior acceptable? Thank you for your feedback.
Mr. Info, I'm not speaking for that particular lady, simply because I do not know her! I am speaking for myself and the ladies I know that are in the business. I don't agree that it was fair and she was right, but, sometimes not all, the time, you have to give the benefit of the doubt, just like us as provider or myself for that matter, we give men the benefit of the doubt all, I repeat, all, the time!
To make a long story short, anything could have happened, a decency of a phone call has no barrier, no excuse. Even at a later time! I would appreciate, just like you, an explanation and a decency of an email/phone call. I know a more than a few, not to mention any names, providers that had trouble with the LE or had troubles of some kind, whether legal or personal or simply automative.
So, finally, whether it was wrong or right, I say it was not right whatsoever! An email or phone call with an explanation in your situation was a must!
Hope that helps! Good Luck!
xoxox
Unforgivable-- if it happened.
I can't believe it from what you've written. Why would you give her that much information? Even your hotel and airline reservations? Why would you discuss something like alerting you with plenty of advanced notice? I thought that goes without saying. Does that really need to be discussed in detail, or did you have some forewarning that she may be unreliable? You don't otherwise indicate that, so this is inconsistent.
You say she has excellent reviews, as though that's mostly where you know her. Then you say you wrote the women with whom she works. So was your knowledge of her that detailed, or not? You don't say that you corresponded with her at length, but that's the impression I get here. So did you know her above and beyond her reviews? Or is this another inconsistency?
If this happened, I can't see any provider saying that standing you up as acceptable. However, the only reason I could see why all her coworkers would not answer you is if they don't know you or absolutely don't trust you. So, there's either a bit more to this story, or it's another inconsistency.
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I recently set up a very expensive appt. (specific hotel that she requested with 'extras') with an off the radar provider who was offering me a very discounted overnighter (I think she was just horny!).
In any event, she called 24-h prior to the meeting to let me know that something had come up. Unfortunately I could not just cancel the hotel.... so I was out that. and it was difficult to arrange for another rendez-vous. But you know what, stuff happens and she continues to stay in touch... and there are no bad feelings - cause I could understand - we are working to "make it up"
What is bothersome in your post is that you had a whole lot of info on this woman, that does not sound like any of the providers that I know.... Especially if they live in another city.... Was the paperwork you sent her redacted - such that she did not have your home address, credit card #??? I guess that there is more to this story than you are telling us, isn't there? Huh????? come'on let us in on the little piece of info that will close the loop!
Say the name. Cause im sick of freaks, fakes and girls giving us good ones a bad name.
Its getting disgusting..
As for him giving out all his info, I get it all the time from single men. It isnt any big deal.
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then she could offer an appropriate response if she chooses. Just the facts, no judgements.
Put it on the regional board. TER won't post that as a review. You never saw her, and no money exchanged hands, right? Unless you sent it to her beforehand. You don't mention that, and if you did, that's the critical information to give. Otherwise, no money exchanged, no session, no review.
This is more like a personal insult, but a very expensive one for you.
Some advice from someone who has travelled to see providers: observe them over some time first. Don't travel with so little intel. Know a lot more about them, read their posts and their blogs. If they don't have a history of these, don't do this. If you could ask her previous clients afterward, you could have asked them beforehand. Even without giving her any money, you seriously overcommitted yourself.
Correspond with her first if you can. This is probably not possible because most aren't open to corresponding. One lady I travelled to see after corresponding with her for five months. Travelling to see a lady is extremely expensive. Really make sure you know the person you are seeing. Otherwise, see your local ladies, or at least somebody in your state.
Another thing I would suggest is: have a backup. Somebody else you could see in that city if plan A falls through. If plan B falls through, have plans to visit the local sites.
If you don't do any of the above, it's better to say you're in town for business-- not for her. Otherwise, you do sound like a lonely guy looking for courtship-- not the level of vulnerability you want to have if you don't know her.
If she is the least bit mean or cynical, and this woman was, the fact that you'd travel to see her would have triggered her cynicism, and gave her the perfect opportunity do something mean.
I'm not excusing her, man. I'm just telling you that you that you can't assume from reviews that you're dealing with a nice person. Many of these ladies are very good people, but don't bet this much time and money on it unless you have more information about her.
For anyone who travels to see ladies, this story is a nightmare. A hole in the reviewing system is that it really doesn't tell you anything about stand-ups like this, how often she does it, and to who. Do post this on regional boards, with her name.
He posted the provider's name on the 15th on the regional board in question. Not sure why he keeps asking if he should post her name. Water under the bridge now.
Read the more detail on the local board, but something still does not ring true. Is it possible that you scared her?
...though it's usually when I'm at the peephole.
[knock, knock, knock]
Provider: [looking through peephole] "Those lying bitches -- they said he was good-looking".
Me: "Excuse me? I didn't quite catch that. Hi, it's me, 'Lex'!"
Provider: "I think you have the wrong room, hon. I'm not expecting any company. Now go away before I call hotel security."
It's a good thing that I like Godiva chocolates.
It has happened to me two times. In one instance the provider in question had a session go over. Another time the provider decided to go outside and enjoy the sunshine. I always have a shopping list handy. Always have a back up plan. One time I was suppose to see a freebe, the woman in question turned out to be a no show. I turned on the laptop and found a provider that was available.