When passion rises, dfk is a natural response. If it's outa the box the minute the envelope hits the dresser, it's not quite the same. I like both with the "kisses planted gently, teasingly all over the lips with little shallow tongue explorations" being more prevelant.

You're on the mark.

For me, DFK helps simulate the relationships from teenage years, where it was the buildup towards hopefully getting further.

Bad DFK is like most anything of poor quality.  A bad BJ is better than none, but not nearly what a good one is.

Just my .02

I associate DFK with unbridled passion and arousal. When a woman wants to press every inch of her skin against mine, and that isn't enough, DFK is another form of intimate physical contact.

I agree that DFK is not necessarily sensual, but when your arousal level is over the top, DFK is an appropriate way to communicate that fact to your partner.

It is one of those things that is not really a turn on, unless you're turned on.  Besides timing, it is important that the person is doing it right.  I can think of only a handful of things that are worse than a really bad, sloppy kiss.  Like most acts that are as passionate and intimate as DFK, working up to it is always the way to go.  

You've got to love it when you haven't seen someone special for a long time and when you finally meet again, after much anticipation, you push her up against a wall upon her opening the hotel door, your tongue deep inside her mouth and vice versa.  Kissing so hard that your lips are swollen, red and even sore by the end of the evening.  What's better than that?

Best,

Kate

The answer, for me, is that it is exceedingly exciting if it's done correctly.  But that is the key, and it seems that people will take criticism about their kissing about as well as they do about their driving skills, LOL.  (Hence the offence taken by that girl.)

You are right, I think, that generally the sensation is all in the lips rather than in the tongue, at least initially, which is probably why your encounter with that girl didn't work too well.  It was all too much too soon.  That might work better with someone you already know and are anticipating with relish.  

I guess what's most sexy about DFK is that it mimicks sex itself and so it's a primer for that act.  It's part of foreplay but requires its own foreplay.  It can also be timely and right within sex, of course.  But, thinking about it, the use of tongue like this is maybe an expression of the drive for sex, rather than a simple sensation.  This is why the kinds of light kisses you describe are more erotic, and form part of the tingling, anticipation and sensuality that comes from foreplay, and which heighten the mood overall.  

There is nothing better than enjoying that first kiss, when it is revealed that things are going in the right direction.  And have you noticed how tricky but exciting it can be to kiss and smile at the same sort of time?  LOL.

Aphra

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Impossible to answer except from a frame of reference (my physicality, my psychology) that is impossible to explain due to the unique way that each human experiences life.  It is the ineffability of human individuality.  Personally, I like the feeling of wetness, the feeling of a woman's tongue but most of all the incredibly deep sense of connectedness that DFK provides.  One can disconnect from a great many things or participate in them only passively, perhaps even DATY.  But with DFK every sense is involved simultaneously--you are there and so is your partner.  And you're wrong about women DFKing each other.  The best girl-girl porn features this--check out Private's all-girl offerings or FTVGirls.com.  In fact, I'm learning how to DFK better by checking out FTVGirls.