...I meet the gentleman outside of the development, leave my car at a public parking lot, and the gentleman will drive me in.  Once I know the gentleman and have visited a few times and I feel comfortable for the most part, I will start going in on my own with him leaving just my first name at the gate.

Years ago, when directed to a gated community by a new client, he advised me that there was a keypad and he would give me the code when I got there. He never answered the phone and in return, had gotten a photo of my license plate from the security cameras therefore obtaining my name and address. He turned out to be an infamous scammer out of Orlando who obtained my name and address, etc. It was a very scary ordeal. Ladies are always a bit cautious when it comes to releasing names, licenses, or even having their vehicles viewed. Also, some have drivers, so make sure you address this issue when making the appointment.

Good luck!

it's not a deal-breaker for me, but I will typically only subject myself to such scrutiny to visit gentlemen I already know well.