Cuddling..holding each other.. You said other than sex.. so that's what I miss.. intimacy... and I find that is also difficult to obtain..really.. with the best providers.. I have a thing with one noow and we are sort of together.. texts every day.. & so on.. 1st time in years I have felt  complete.. nothing on the house and I don't want that.. then I would have no excuse and I would feel like I was cheating on my wife..

I suppose I analyze too much, While I do miss the intimate moments I always believed they could come if the stage was set properly. So for me I miss the adventures, the walks, the trips, the night out at a live theater. All the things where romance can bloom. The longer I go without the more I realize what a burden physical disabilities can be on an established relationship

It used to be fun getting dressed up, her with maybe some fancy lingerie underneath, going out on the town to a show. Now she views going out with me as no different than being with her girlfriends. In fact, I think she gets more dolled up for them.

It's clear now that a lot of the fun part for me was knowing what was coming later. She doesn't understand why I am no longer interested.