For the past several months I have been seeing a lady 4-6 times a month, and each session has been scheduled for two hours but we never make that deadline.
We enjoy talking to one another about a range of subjects, we enjoy sipping expensive tequilas and she is a fantastic cook. She looks forward to our time together, as do I.
That is what it is all about, Alfie.
Two queestions for ladies -
Q1-1) A guy had a great time with a provider and he wants to see her as frequenly as his tank and wallet fill up (say every week). There is no "romantic" feeling about each other, whatsoever.
Would the quality of your service degrade if you saw him so frequently?
Q1-2) Kind of realted to the thread below - would you start making excuses to avoid him if you sensed that he is falling for you or would you still see him just for the sake of money?
Q2) Woud you prioritize a first timer over your frequent when your time is limited and they want to see you at same time on a same day? If so, why?
Just curious.. Thanks
-You start getting emotional
-You lose your quality by taking advantage of her time, decrease gift amount on your own accord.
-Because you are a regular you think you are king and do things with her she doesnt do with anyone else.
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Dont decrease your quality of being a gentlemen and she wont decrease hers.
However I have seen two providers over my years in the hobby that were VERY inconsistent in sessions, due to them having problems with their boyfriends. The first provider I ever saw had that problem, and was the reason I made up my mind not to see providers that have boyfriends. Married providers(or completely unattached), in my experience, are much, much safer bets. The second regular provider I saw with that S.O. problem was so bad that I wouldn't see her again if I got paid for it. She only got my business in the first place because she swore to me up and down that she didn't have a boyfriend, but after seeing her blog, and reading about her S.O. it is apparent she has been with him for years. Not all providers are good people Ciara, just like the clients
CS
Because we all have personal lives, boyfriends/husbands/children means we arent good people ?
I was saying that just because YOU are a good person, that doesn't mean all providers are good people. I did qualify it also by using the word "all". I also stated that it is similar to the occasional bad person who is a client, so I am not picking on providers as a group. The provider I spoke of is a bad person for being deceitful and the quality of the sessions were not consistent, the majority of them being bad.
Don't let it offend you that I disagreed with one small part of your post, I was sharing a personal experience that proves there sometimes is a drop-off in quality for "other" reasons.
In my case, most of the providers I have met, are GREAT people(better than good) and separate their business from their private lives very well.
1) Generally speaking, seeing someone for a couple of hours per week will hardly cause you to become sick of a person. I cannot see the quality of service deteriorating -- one would think it would only get better.
2) I would assume he is a big boy and could make his own decisions in regards to his feelings vs. seeing me. Of course, this depends upon his behavior. If he called and emailed me constantly and then spent the entire session begging for my hand in marriage or if he became angry with me for not accepting his amorous gentures, then no, I would no longer see him. I would most likely be honest with him rather than avoiding him.
3) Probably not. I try hard to never have to cancel or move a date. I am well aware that clients have limited time in their day as well and try to respect that.
Best,
Kate
I'm not a provider but have some thoughts. For Q1, the guy must establish limitations and boundaries as well as the provider must do so too. Doubt the service will degrade if dealing with a "professional" provider. Plus, stimulation of the mind along with the physical will only add to the intensity.
Q2. Be honest and frank. Don't make excuses to avoid. Know your goals. If it's money, keep it on the business level and let him know.
Q2 For the first timer over regulars, it's hard to answer because the first timer might become a regular. So there's another stream of income.
Q2, take the regular every time. They are the stead stream of income. If he doesn't get his appointment then he may find another steady stream of fun. The new customer may be only a one night deal. "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush", Hum, perhaps the old saying may not apply in this situation depending on how you interrupte it.
I think the saying goes, "a hand in the bush is better than a bird in the hand".
For the past several months I have been seeing a lady 4-6 times a month, and each session has been scheduled for two hours but we never make that deadline.
We enjoy talking to one another about a range of subjects, we enjoy sipping expensive tequilas and she is a fantastic cook. She looks forward to our time together, as do I.
That is what it is all about, Alfie.
Service gets better w/ time.
I would always take a repeat client over a new person. I already know what they want, and they are not wearing a badge. 
I agree totally with netmichelle. I believe service can only get better because of the familiarity aspect. Lisa of Boston 
I agree with your comments. Makes sense that familiarity will get better with time. Plus, the LE aspect is removed. When does the familiarity turn dull? One to two years of being a regular?
Jimboboxy
It NEVER has to get dull hun! Ever! Its all about passion baby, PASSION and familiarity!! Yes both can survive... simutaneously! So sweeeeeeet!! mmmmmmmm Lisa of Boston *smile*
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Been seeing my fav between one and three times a week for 3 and 1/2 years. It's always good, more often than not - great, and every so often - it's 'died and gone to heaven' unbeliveable.
Before you all start thinking it's just about the $$, let me tell you about rates. About 10 months into it, she lowered her rate for me from $2.75 per hour to $1 per visit. We rarely spend less than an hour and a half together, sometimes all day. She limits her provider activity to 2 or 3 days a week, and we only see each other sexually only on those days (though we often have lunch or meet for coffee on off days).
So, I for one can tell you that familiarity and passion do go hand in hand!
Ok, I found an ATF and hope this lasts 1-2 years. Thanks for the encouragement!
Q.Would the quality of your service degrade if you saw him so frequently?
A. No
Q. Would you start making excuses to avoid him if you sensed that he is falling for you
A. No I would not.
Q. Would you still see him just for the sake of money?
A. No - if there is no chemistry, it is not worth it there are plenty of nice guys out there that I can connect with that will pay me as well.
Q. Woud you prioritize a first timer over your frequent when your time is limited and they want to see you at same time on a same day?
A. Maybe
Q. If so, why?
A. It depends on who requested & confirmed the booking 1st! Whatever client requested it & confirmed it 1st would see me as I do not flip flop on bookings, if I set a 3hr appt for a new client and he had not confirmed, but at the same time I had a request from a regular for 1hour(+) I would see the regular as he was ready to confirm the booking.
Hope this helps.
- Molly
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with netmichelle. No, quality of service shouldn't degrade with frequent visits. As long as boundaries are set and aren't pushed....as in...Are you sure you won't do me without a raincoat...even if I become a regular???
As far as the second question, if emotions become too strong, it is time to tell him to find another provider. Gaining a little money simply isn't worth breaking someone's heart and scarring them emotionally. It is traumatic for both client and provider when these emotions occur. In all honesty, there are some providers that WILL play on a client's emotions just for the money. I'm just not one of those providers. Now, you'll just have to take my word on that...'cuz the type of provider that will play with people's emotions will never admit in public that they do that.
As far as taking a new client over my 'regular'...no way. I prefer a known quantity over the unknown everytime.
If the guy is nice, fun, smart, is a great fucker and can make me cum with his tongue and dick, I want him to come over anytime he feels like doing me. The more the better
Now, if the guy is none of the above, once in a while is enough for me, lol, (sorry to say) but I really love sex and I like to keep seeing the guys I truly enjoy.
Time flies when you with someone you dig...and drags when you with someone you don't.
integrity like you. Yeah, some providers do the acting job that is so insulting yet demanding respect for the lousy job performed. All things considered I love ladies who love sex and genuinely enjoy it. Nothing beats a cumming facial expression from the woman I could be partly responsible for. So how long do you need to find sexual chemistry with the new client?
-- Modified on 9/12/2005 10:30:22 PM