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the risks are larger on the provider side!
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Yup, for just about everything, we face greater risks.

Oral transmission rates are lower than for regular sex, but who is more likely to catch something? The woman! However, if she does catch something, she can pass it on even though that's considered quite rare (and to be honest, the stats are really terrible... because most don't ONLY engage in oral so the numbers are kind of hand-waving estimates).  You have to decide what you're comfortable with.  

DATY for a man is one of the safer sex acts, and to make it safer, get the HPV vaccine.

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Reading reviews, DATY and BBBJ seem to be just about standard with most providers.   Even CIM is not that uncommon.    I'd really like to try that, especially DATY, but I'm worried about STDs.   So what is the deal, are all those public health messages just for prudes?    Or is there some secret sauce that providers use to stay clean?      Or should I expect that most providers that offer that are probably not clean.

for most of us, but it is not zero, so your own feelings about this is the real factor to deal with.

There is no secret incantation that will protect you, just condoms, basically.

If you want to look up the stats, I hear that they can be found on the website of the CDC

Typically, the chances of getting STD from DATY or BBBj is small to nominal; however, the established providers from this site do take precautionary measures to protect themselves from STDs. However, I can't vouch for the BP or other routes. Even with those measures that the providers do take, its up to you to do what you are comfortable with.

If you are interested in trying those things, it is best to do it with someone you are comfortable and established a relationship with. That way, the provider can take it slow with you until you build the courage to try more stuff. Also, you should still get check even if you go through the safe route as well

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I would like to see an independent, peer-reviewed study on this topic. Does anyone know if something like this exists?

...There are discussions in the Self-Help Center. Some of the info in the Self-Help Center is dated but it gives you sources you could check for up to date info.

As such, it is frequently discussed on this board.  You can do a search for this to read many varied opinions on both sides of the fence. Do your own research regarding oral transmission of STDs/STIs.
   
In the end, only you can decide whether or not the risk is worth the reward.  :-)

 
Now, having first answered "nicely" , I am now going give my true smartass nature free reign to further respond to your questions.  Just to give you a different perspective, of course.  ;-)  

Posted By: banshee9982
So what is the deal, are all those public health messages just for prudes?
Yup, you got it.  It's a giant campaign of misinformation aimed at repressing everyone's sexual nature.  
And, of course, at hurting the sex industry.  :rolleyes:
 
Posted By: banshee9982
Or is there some secret sauce that providers use to stay clean?
OMG you figured it out!!  Sssshhhhh, don't tell anyone, it's a trade secret!  We don't want civvies to find out about it; it's strictly for professionals!  
I buy mine from Madame Ruth.  You know, that gypsy with the gold-capped tooth? (Bonus points to anyone who recognizes that song without looking it up!!)

I'd like to add that both this question and the previous one COULD be interpreted as a passive-aggressive way of saying, "What the hell is the matter with all of you!?  Don't you know that you're going to get an STD by doing those things?!  
I mean, all of these hookers are obviously riddled with disease; how can you even THINK about doing that?!?"
Again, that's just one possible way your words could be interpreted. :-P

Posted By: banshee9982
Or should I expect that most providers that offer that are probably not clean.  
Ugh.  Are you TRYING to suck my soul right out of me?  Because THAT will definitely require a dental dam.  LOL.  ;-)

 
Ok, snarky reply over.  Back to playing nice. :-)
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NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.  

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Debbie, you are too funny.  have you ever considered doing standup.Lol

I love Oldies music.... the cornier, the better!  

2 more right answers and you win a gift card to Hooters.  ;-)

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Yup, for just about everything, we face greater risks.

Oral transmission rates are lower than for regular sex, but who is more likely to catch something? The woman! However, if she does catch something, she can pass it on even though that's considered quite rare (and to be honest, the stats are really terrible... because most don't ONLY engage in oral so the numbers are kind of hand-waving estimates).  You have to decide what you're comfortable with.  

DATY for a man is one of the safer sex acts, and to make it safer, get the HPV vaccine.

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a car accident. The chance of getting hurt or killed is much higher and yet I see people talk/text and drive all the time.

...I weighed the small risk and decided that it was worth it. Each person has to decide for themselves how much risk they can accept. If you find yourself up nights worrying aboit it and constantly gargling, it might be time to reassess this hobby. It's definitely not for everyone.

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