as a married provider it gos beyond boundries to fuck my husbands friends...when worlds collide it can get very messy...i hobby with strangers that become friends..i do not hobby with civvie friends that become hobbyiests
any man with repect for his friend or the woman would politely decline in the name of friendship
The poll today is about what one might do if you meet your best friends wife as a provider, and 70% percent said they'd go for her. And the conversation you'd have with yourself later about the integreity you feel for your "best friend"s feelings is, what? maybe call,your 'best friend' and ask him if he's OK about this? what does 'bestfriend' mean to a man?
is this guy with the hottest, sluttiest wife I know.
if she is a provider, why would you even think you needed to tell your friend? I'm certain she hasn't told her husband.
ashlee
The two of you still wouldn't need to tell...client/doctor privledge, so to speak.
But I look at it as a chance, if the husband knows his wife's profession, to have another friend to talk to about my hobby. It's very liberating being out of the closet to those you love. (It's kind of like our friend who showed us his penis at dinner the other night...you see what I'm saying? He's like the "husband" in this scenerio)
I'm gonna go get a taco.
and thank you again for the visual of the penis at the dinner table! This is such a different world and I am so lucky and glad that *knocking on wood* I have been accepted and welcomed into it.......lookout!!!
ashlee
The reason you do not bone the wife of your buddy is that there share a commitment.
But, uf your buddies' wife is a PROVIDER that means she has done plenty of other guys, so that whole commitment thing is already broken beyond fixing.
Why should you be the only one not enjoying her? At least you are willing to provide compensation.
as a married provider it gos beyond boundries to fuck my husbands friends...when worlds collide it can get very messy...i hobby with strangers that become friends..i do not hobby with civvie friends that become hobbyiests
any man with repect for his friend or the woman would politely decline in the name of friendship
Human beings are in heat all the time. Try to keep any adult male animal from sex when a female is available. Ever try to keep a male dog from a female when she's in heat? Face it. In our own way, humans are like this too.
This was one of the hardest polls I ever answered. After a long time, I said I'd run-- but if the opportunity were there, I'm not sure I would. I would hope that her ethics about it would kick in, because, with my hormones running, my fantasies racing, and the cash in my pocket as good as spent, I'm not sure I could stop the momentum, come what may after the collision.
It might well wreck the friendship, but turning down sex feels too much like death psychologically.
As Shafty so astutely pointed out - the question was NOT "would you do your best friend's wife if she came on to you?" Now that could/would wreck a friendship!
But the question presupposes a certain scenario - she is working as a provider - either with an agency or with an ad and website (presumably with blurred-face photos) - how else would she have turned up on your doorstep? And that changes all the rules.
If my best friends wife shows up at my door as the blurred face provider, my future conversations with him would already be somewhat strained. So, we might as well get on with the session.
I'll remember this thread when that happens, you dog.
I won't do your wife, and you don't do mine. The rest are all fair game.
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I'll ask her tonight and see what she says. Now that you're shaving "the boys" there might be a chance.
I can't imagine how hard it would be for a provider to hide something like this from a spouse. Nearly impossible, I would think, at least for very long.
I would talk to he wife first. Then, decide what to do after hearing her side. Who knows, maybe the husband is cool with her providing and would be cool with collecting a little of your cash. Things could get complicated, but there would be no betrayal of the friendship.
Equilibrium: It would have to be a VERY "Cool" openminded type husband or boyfriend.
So far, I havent found that! Im single and it's very hard to date as a provider, trust me. The reason? You cant be honest. If you are honest, you lose him......period, cant win!
Been there, done that. This is a lonely business, actually, because you dont wont to date nor get emotionally involved, nor hurt anyone! Does that make sense???? Well......maybe I will get lucky and find a man like the "Pretty Woman" movie......who hired an escort only for a night and wound up having her stay for weeks....only to realize that he really liked her and she him........ha ha ha lol......I am still a romantic you know.......lol Lisa of Boston 
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Are you the type who could have a romantic relationship with a female? Would that work?
I am not bi sexual so that wouldnt work for me and I am not the swinger type either so that wouldnt work for me..........so yes......this is a lonely business, but then again....you never know! Life is strange! ha ha ha lol Lisa of Boston
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... many with boyfriends who know. I've heard of some of the guys even acting as drivers. I'm sure it's hard to find a guy who's both open minded and strong enough to deal with the potential problems, but they're out there.
I think I'm open-minded enough, and I'd like to believe I'd be strong enough. I'm not a very jealous person. To me, being a provider isn't that different than being a swinger, and I don't see anything wrong with that. Of course, I've never been in an LTR with either, so I can't say for sure how I'd feel.
I understand that you might not be able to be honest at first, but I can't believe that you "can't win!" Boston is a big place. There might not be as many open minded people there as here in LA, but I'm sure they're around! Good luck!
I actually knew a couple that were swingers, and he drove her to work at her webcam job and to all of her porn shoots. It was weird for me to be in the room looking at him watching some guy doing her, but they were both OK with it.
So, people are out there, but is that what Lisa is looking for? I guess only she can answer that.
Heh...maybe hubby's in the closet filming you for his new site "Bros Gone Wild!" Then he'll make a gazillion dollars, drop your ass and go hang out with Tommy Lee instead 
Just acquaintances.
A very cynical outlook, to say the least.
I, for one, have several people I call "real" friends.
Yes, they are hard to come by, but they are real and true.
One I met "in the business".
She has since "left the biz",
but, we have stayed best friends to each other.
To say that you can never have "real" friends, that you can confide in, listen to, cry with, is a sad statement on your outlook on life.
I feel sorry for you. We all need good, true friends, and they are out there if you let them in.
Just my opinion...
B
...I have many friends...and I'm particularly fond of those with sexy wives.
I find it strange that "respect" was never mentioned here, but there again when sex is a possibility many lose the ability for lucid thought. There is an old African saying:" You hold a true friend with both hands." Of course the one on the other end of the spectrum is: "You have no friends and you have no enemies, only teachers." As always it's all about the choices.
...friends come and go, but notches on the bedpost last a lifetime.
Plus, as men we know that, were the roles reversed, our "best friend" most certainly would fuck our wives.
I did not answer because my option was not there. I would say sorry to her and let her know that we should both keep things quiet. Either way it would be costly because we are both married.
would you guys do your brother's wife? hmmmmmmm.....not me. the very few friends i have are my family, and i treat them better than my blood family. your best friend should be like a brother to you. why would you betray your brother even if he knew his wife was a provider? kind of goes along the same line as when we were all kids "hey man, your sister is hot! can i ask her out?" then you and you buddy would beat the hell out of each other. i'm sorry, but going after your friend's wife is an absolute no for me.
I saw a provider who's husband leaves their apt. when she has an incall scheduled. If he's cool with it, who am I to question it? It's a business remember.