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Re:I just read a provider's BLOG where she went off on the fact that a client had weird fetishes.
luvsgirls 13 Reviews 2357 reads
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Excuse me Trustno20 but what sort of respect are you giving everyone here?  First you brag about reading this blog where a Provider puts out to the world about a Hobbyist fetish.  

They you are caught red handed about your own fetish and then you want to protect a this Provider from what others seeing what is out for the whole world.

Something tells me it was YOU she wrote about on her blog, perhaps you wanted a pregnant Provider to change your DIAPERS. NAUGTHY BOY.

Suggestion next time don't even post if you cannot post the link.

That old saying put up or SHUT UP and in your case either put that link here or just shut up.  

It has been said already had she not wanted to do what the Hobbyist wanted all she had to do was say "NO THANK YOU" but she said come on over and let's do it.  

So are you man enough to post the link or a wimp who is hiding behind mommies aprons strings?

trustno206443 reads

Although I personally don’t have any fetishes, after reading this lady's BLOG, and seeing her express so publicly her disgust for a client, I'd be real uncomfortable visiting such a lady.

For the record, his fetish was definitely weird but sheesh! Isn't that what he's paying for? Why did she have to publicly express her disgust? What motivation would a guy with let's say, "special interest" have in visiting this lady. Or for that matter, even a regular guy.

For me, I liken the service these lovely ladies provide to services similar to my chiropractor. I book time with him and he makes my back feel better. Never does it enter my head that he’s thinking something derogatory about me because he has a professional bedside manner. Likewise with the providers I’ve had the good fortune to engage with, they made me feel special for the time I was with them. Sure it’s a fantasy and I have no illusion that it’s real. But at least for that hour or two it “felt” real.

To the ladies who do negative client comments either here or on a BLOG, have you considered that it may harm your business to be so judgmental of your client base?

Difficult to make a judgement with no information, no link to the blog, no mention of exactly what fetish it was.

Don't hobbiest have the same opportunity when they do their reviews that could harm the provider's business and client base.  Some legit some spiteful because they didn't get their way.

I think more info needed trustno20 to make accurate judgement.

She had a right to tell the guy "NO" but she chose to take the money and then to voice her "disgust" is the height of hypocracy. Unfortunately, there are many providers that think we are creeps and losers, but do your bidding for money and then complain. I am not into the real kink, but I resepect people who are willing to pay for what they want and if a provider does it, she should her heart into or not do it. My .02

trustno201724 reads

Let's face it. She might suffer backlash and I'd hate to have that on my head for causing it. My appologies to all for lack of detail. I had hoped that the subject topic alone would be sufficient.

But for arguments sake. Let's hypothetically say the guy was into golden showers or maybe scat. What would you say if a provider negatively commented on that?

While I could see why she may not want to partake, I'd hope that she wouldn't be overly judgemental about it.  It sounds like you're saying that she was...if that's the case, it's unfortunate, and bad business.

it were a private blog site just for the ladies. Sometimes we really do need to share our dislikes within the profession with our sisters. That can be the only way we find out about the not so nice gents.

Obviously this was available to everyone and I agree that this was a lack of professionalism on the lady's part since it was a public forum. However, if the fetish was that distasteful and he stated it beforehand she should not have made the appointment. There are some services that I cannot and will not offer. Very few but there ARE some. Either because I'm not good at them or I dislike doing so. If he did not tell her ahead of time, she still had the right to say no but don't discuss it in a public forum. Bad business judgement call. I think we should do all we can to elevate our services to the highest level of personal professionalism. Just MY two cents.

Sincerely,
Anneke

This is why I do not use blogs.  If I have to vent, I have good friends to vent with... in private.  

We all have choices.  This woman should have asked more questions about his fantasies, preferences, etc.    It was definitely a lack of professionalism.  Lisa of Boston

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The ladies should be making the effort to raise the quality of the profession.  Nothing wrong with "just say no" if a guy wants to "x" and you don't like to do "x".  If the guys check the reviews carefully, they should be able to find what they are looking for.

We all make choices and set limits and the providers do also. I wouldn't want to see anyone who wasn't into what was requested.

JadeSinclair2315 reads

But isnt a blog the very place for a provider to have an "outlet" for her self? Alot of ladies use blogs for therapeutic reasons. If you cant write for YOURSELF, who can you write for? I mean as long as she didnt say his name, what was so wrong about it?  I would never agree to do something I didnt want to , though, so in that respect, she was wrong, IM HO, but again, it is HER blog. Of course she will write about HER feelings!

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Excuse me Trustno20 but what sort of respect are you giving everyone here?  First you brag about reading this blog where a Provider puts out to the world about a Hobbyist fetish.  

They you are caught red handed about your own fetish and then you want to protect a this Provider from what others seeing what is out for the whole world.

Something tells me it was YOU she wrote about on her blog, perhaps you wanted a pregnant Provider to change your DIAPERS. NAUGTHY BOY.

Suggestion next time don't even post if you cannot post the link.

That old saying put up or SHUT UP and in your case either put that link here or just shut up.  

It has been said already had she not wanted to do what the Hobbyist wanted all she had to do was say "NO THANK YOU" but she said come on over and let's do it.  

So are you man enough to post the link or a wimp who is hiding behind mommies aprons strings?

trustno203970 reads

I generally ignore such posts but I do so love a good debate. So here goes.

Your personal attack here is precisely the reason I won't post the lady's identity. I didn’t want to make this a topic to flame the lady. I see her being guilty of indiscretion not deserving of public outrage. I brought the original topic up for discussion. This is a discussion board right? I do not see how this constitutes bragging.

The original comment by Jack Shack on my attraction to a pregnant lady was posted with a :) indicating he was ribbing me. Of course I took that in stride. I did not take it as being "exposed" as you put it but merely I guess I didn't consider it a fetish as much as more a curiosity. But call it what you will, I can’t be offended either way.

So calling me names like wimp and saying that I'm hiding. Well, that’s all very childish but I guess I should not expect a criminal defense lawyer to behave in a civil manner. However, you will not be able to provoke me through name calling or any other manner in revealing her BLOG. It just that simple. You being a “criminal defense lawyer” as you posted elsewhere on this board, surely you must be able to understand the ethical dilemma despite the fact that your craft required you to ditch your ethics years ago when you entered your field.

As far as not showing respect to the group goes. I’d like to know what others think. Should I sacrifice this lady to the likes of people like you?  I don’t believe that would be doing the right thing. Had you made an argument on that point of why I should, maybe I would have considered it. But instead you took the path of a personal attack and that simply convinced me that I did the right thing.

Ladies, Hobbyists, do I cave to this sort of flame? Should I give up her name? Let's open that topic up for discussion. What do you all think?

PS: Since you seam to enjoy personal attacks. I’ll leave all with a some humor.

What do you call 200 lawyers at the bottom of a pond? …… A good start. ROFL

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JadeSinclair1965 reads

Whether you should "sacrifice" her? I think if she has a PUBLIC blog, she does not intend to be private. But, I am curious what her indiscretion was? this is so laughable to me. It is HER blog! Who elses feeligs is she going to write about ? If she did not say who the guy was, the only person she exposed was herself! Please dont take m y last few replies as attacks on you , sweetie, I just dont think you are looking at this in a very realistic way. Maybe you dont understand the purpose of a blog, but it is to be able to write about how you FEEL. the fact that it is public, helps some poeple to be more honest, believe it or not. There is something very therapeutic for some people to open up like that in front of others. I think they think it makes it more "Real" if other people see it too.

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ChrissyStone2768 reads

We don't need specific links to discuss general topics, like why certain ladies don't see men of color, or is it a good business practice to flame a guy for his "weird fetishes."

However, being human, I must say you've made me curious about the details of the fetish and what happened in the session.

Perhaps next time you could give us more details in the original thread--enough to satisfy the curious--but not enough to expose the lady's identity.

not_blonde_barbie3242 reads

how much you're enjoying certain clients or sessions or doing xyz with so and so? that would probably offend or bother just as many clients who think they're favorite or atf clients..

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Anonymous Bald Man2094 reads

...here are a few of the juicy entries.

May 1st
Nobody called.

May 2nd
No calls.

May 3rd
Phone's not ringing. It must be broken. I think I'll call Verizon.

May 4th
Verizon said the phone line is fine, but the phone is still not ringing.

May 5th
I finally got a call today, but it was a telemarketer wanting to know if I'd by a time share. I said "no", but then asked if she wanted to have sex. She hung up on me.

JadeSinclair1751 reads

"For the record, his fetish was definitely weird but sheesh! Isn't that what he's paying for?"

Uhhh, NO. He is not paying her to "sit back and take it", lol..If you think that just because a guy is paying, that the girl should do whatever he wants, then you obviously do not mknow anything about GFE appointments! GFE appointments are about BOTH sides enjoying themselves. One of the reasons I have always gotten such good reviews, is that I never do anything that I am uncomfortable with , "just becuase that is what he is paying for!"..No, if I were to start doing things I did not like "just becuase he is paying for it", then it would become transparent to the client that I was having a bad time, and then, what kind of time would he have??!! I figure the day I start doing things I dont like (yeah, even IF the guy is paying!not letting you live that one down, am I ? lol) is the day I start hating myself, my clients AND my work. Not gonna happen. So my point? Just because a guy is paying, does not mean that the girl should do something she does not like.

HOWEVER, I do agree that if she was so put off by it, she should have told him herself.

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