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MizzThang6089 reads

I am scheduled to meet someone for the first time tomorrow, and from what I have heard from another provider, this gentleman always uses dental dams.

I will be honest and say, that the very idea of using a dental dam, turns me off, completely. I would rather him not perform daty, if this turn of events, are to be true. To me, the reason why a gentleman would perform daty on a woman is to also get her in the mood.  

I have the opportunity to talk with said gentleman on the phone, but I have been a little afraid to bring up the dental dams. BUT, we eventually got to that subject, and I told him that I have never used them before. I never told him, that I was reluctant to use them, but he assured me that he would bring them.

Should I be upfront and letting him know, that the idea of a dental dam is not a turn on to me, and that I would rather then skip the daty, but do everything else?

Or, during our session, when he tries to do daty, put him off on doing daty, by making up an excuse?

I am very confused.

I do want to add on that I enjoy DATY very much!!!! But the idea of putting a barrier from his tongue to my muff, turns me off. The thought of me putting a barrier (a rubber) from my tongue to his pogo stick turns me off, too. I love giving bj's, but I hate the taste of rubbers (but he is not asking for that).

Help!!!!!!!



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The Wadd2392 reads

I am someone who loves daty.  I love watching a woman squirm with pleasure. Its really erotic and does wonders for the foreplay.  In the back of my head I'm always concerned about catching something.  I don't know for sure if you can or can't catch something from daty, but it always a concern of mine.  

This client is obviously concerned about the possibility of catching an std.  There is no other reason for the use of the dam.  If you aren't comfortable with the use of the dental dam, tell him.  I would rather know if something I was doing wasn't getting you excited.  Even if I really wanted to daty, I'd get over it real quick with a great session.

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little phil2592 reads

What if you said that you doubt you'll enjoy it.  That way, he should understand.  He can opt out, or go ahead.  You may be surprised and like it, but if not, he's been informed that he may be wasting his time.  For that matter, maybe he doesn't care if you like it.  But that's another issue entirely.

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argoldst2346 reads

I would be direct and tell him before hand.  If you do it on the spot it might kill the whole mood.

Although I am not disagreeing with you, I can only imagine what would happen if a guy posted that he didn't like getting laid or a bj with a condom on.  Lots of women would jump down on his back.

Sadly, these seem to be the times we live in where you have to protect yourself :(

Personally, I hate the idea of dental dam (just as I hate condoms) but to each there own.

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sweetnsoft2290 reads

Fake it till you make it. If you are sure you can't do so convincingly, don't take his money. Better to turn down an appt than make the poor guy feel inadequate and put a ding in your reputation for good service.

He obviously does it for health reasons and I think he should be applauded.

That's why you make the big $$$$

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HerrZunge2073 reads

A couple things occurred to me.

First, you said you have never used dental dams before (neither have I), so you don't actually know what they feel like. One of our favorite west coast (now east coast) escorts once told me that she loves showing guys things they've never done before.

Second, this guy just might be the maestro of dental dam DATY. You never know!

Just let go and have fun.

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SheerUtopia1442 reads

Why would you be so sure your not gonna like it, the saying goes " dont knock it till you try it."  It's really not that bad and actually safer for the both of you.  Just sit back close your eyes and enjoy the guy, he may teach you a ting or two.

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A Different Viewpoint1627 reads

Basically what you are saying is this:

"If he wants to use a dental dam, then he must think I am diseased"

What he thinks OTOH is:

"If I always use a dental dam, then I will not have to worry about catching anything"

So just relax, let him try, and as others have said, you might actually enjoy it!

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Landem1888 reads

I realize it is he not you who is insisting on the dental dam, which makes you uncomfortable, and hence this thread. But, from the other side of the fence, my view of dental dams can be summed up as follows:

While I am not a fan of CBJ, I might consider seeing a lady who only provides CBJ if I found her extremely attractive and otherwise very intriguing. But if a lady were to insist on a dental dam, that would be an absolute deal-breaker - not gonna happen, no how, no way.


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MizzThang2093 reads

He ended up calling me last night, and the subject of a dental dam came up. I was honest with him, and I told him that I do enjoy my sessions (yes, I get totally into them), and that I would prefer not to daty, if a dental dam is going to be used. I explained to him that I also get caught up in the fantasy, whenever I met a gentleman, and I would not want to do something, which would make me feel less excited, during our time together. Also, as one suggested to fake, sorry that is not my style :( If I have to fake it, then I would rather not go with the session, regardless of the idea of receiving a donation. I would rather be honest with myself, and save him his money.

He actually laughed, and thanked me for being honest, and even still wants to keep our appt. We agreed that the dental dam would stay in suitcase, and that there are other wonderful things that two people can do, with one another ;)


Thanks all for the suggestions of being honest with him!!!!!!  

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