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You want to contact the woman you plan to see. In your initial E-mail to her you can say: "Hi Joan (provider # 2). I am writing per the recommendation of Sally (provider # 1). I'd love to set up an appointment with you on Thursday at 1PM for an hour session at your NYC apartment." Joan will most likely confer with Sally and you should be all set. If she needs another reference or additional screening, she'll advise.
What you don't want to do, (here and in life) is rely on someone else to make the connection for you. Step up to the plate and do it yourself. Suppose you send Provider 1 an E-mail reminding her of your conversation and requesting that she introduce you to provider # 2. What if this introduction never happens. Now what? You're going to continually bother Provider #1 to introduce you to #2? Maybe # 1 is no longer interested in helping you because she is jealous and wants your business or doesn't want to waste time handling this. Who knows. You are now frustrated because you haven't set up a date with # 2.
You are trying to placate both ladies. I get it. You are worried about burning bridges with #1 (whom you want to see again). So the best thing to do is leave # 1 out of the process and contact lady # 2 directly (treat it like any other initial contact) and go from there.
saw a provider a month ago in a very high end apartment in NYC. When I said nice digs she said she shared the apartment with four other top end high class independents. We had a laid back fun date. Session was worth a repeat visit. She asks what I'm doing the rest of the day I told her I was going to Shake Shack and she asked to join me. While we are eating she asks me casually who I want to see. I give her three names and one of them is one of the other four girls that share the in call with her.
She told me she would make the introduction.
I was just looking at my very short to see list and remembered the conversation
I plan on seeing this girl again just don't know when.
Should i send a request for a time slot to the roommate or should i send an email to the girl I saw and ask her to make the connection. My guess is by her making the introduction she will have to bring her A game and the session will probably be better with no paper work or filling out the online application.
I don't want to burn bridges.
What's proper etiquette in this situation
My etiquette skills might be off kilter in this situation, but may I offer how I'd like
to have the situation handled if I were either of the two?
First, communication is key! Lady 1 offered to help with the intro... That's generous and an easy "in" (generally). You'd have a certain - stamp of approval - yes.
Would you be interested in a 3-some? If they're down, that's a good route!
If not, I think it's critical to make sure girl 1 knows she's not being replaced... Meaning, let her know that you're into girl 1 and 2!
Second, why mix the bag when there are plenty of options to choose from where you won't risk the drama/loss of a fun provider?
Krist
ou want to contact the woman you plan to see. In your initial E-mail to her you can say: "Hi Joan (provider # 2). I am writing per the recommendation of Sally (provider # 1). I'd love to set up an appointment with you on Thursday at 1PM for an hour session at your NYC apartment." Joan will most likely confer with Sally and you should be all set. If she needs another reference or additional screening, she'll advise.
What you don't want to do, (here and in life) is rely on someone else to make the connection for you. Step up to the plate and do it yourself. Suppose you send Provider 1 an E-mail reminding her of your conversation and requesting that she introduce you to provider # 2. What if this introduction never happens. Now what? You're going to continually bother Provider #1 to introduce you to #2? Maybe # 1 is no longer interested in helping you because she is jealous and wants your business or doesn't want to waste time handling this. Who knows. You are now frustrated because you haven't set up a date with # 2.
You are trying to placate both ladies. I get it. You are worried about burning bridges with #1 (whom you want to see again). So the best thing to do is leave # 1 out of the process and contact lady # 2 directly (treat it like any other initial contact) and go from there.
Thank You
You want to contact the woman you plan to see. In your initial E-mail to her you can say: "Hi Joan (provider # 2). I am writing per the recommendation of Sally (provider # 1). I'd love to set up an appointment with you on Thursday at 1PM for an hour session at your NYC apartment." Joan will most likely confer with Sally and you should be all set. If she needs another reference or additional screening, she'll advise.
What you don't want to do, (here and in life) is rely on someone else to make the connection for you. Step up to the plate and do it yourself. Suppose you send Provider 1 an E-mail reminding her of your conversation and requesting that she introduce you to provider # 2. What if this introduction never happens. Now what? You're going to continually bother Provider #1 to introduce you to #2? Maybe # 1 is no longer interested in helping you because she is jealous and wants your business or doesn't want to waste time handling this. Who knows. You are now frustrated because you haven't set up a date with # 2.
You are trying to placate both ladies. I get it. You are worried about burning bridges with #1 (whom you want to see again). So the best thing to do is leave # 1 out of the process and contact lady # 2 directly (treat it like any other initial contact) and go from there.
You wouldn't be burning any bridges, you always contact the person you will be seeing unless the say provider is recommending you a friend and she can set it up for you other than that always contact her directly.