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I am selective in who I see
escalade1964 65 Reviews 1525 reads
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So am I BTW

But when a provider says that; What the fuck does it mean?
Im always nervous to ask for a date!
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Two that stand out are:

1.  She is appealing to the snob factor in all of us that make us think we are the type of superior person she seeks.  (Thus creating an urge in us to see her and proving ourselves correct.)

2.  She hopes that some smelly bum will be dissuaded from contacting her.  (Wishful thinking at best.

Hey more power to you, you want to see guys that are 6'1, blue eyes and blonde hair and in their 20's go for it. I love the personality of a man don't get me wrong I have come across a lot of a**holes but even if you are selective it's very easy for a potential client to hide his/her personality on-line. I do agree with the other response, she wants to give the illusion that she is important. Oh brother, as a hobbyist myself I think it's pathetic anyone can open their legs.... show me character, show me personality, what makes you so different and what makes you so special for me to feel intimidated by your screening process. Please I know the game I am a provider so when I see things like that I'm like oh brother another one with the golden pu**y syndrome. Take that bone to another dog baby because this one ain't biting.  

Now the only exception to the rule is if she is a domenitarix then in that case yes I understand her being selective because she's more set in her sexual ways and won't bent, So when she says selective she means sexually selective so that the experience is a good one for both you and her. If a provider is into golden showers and that's what she's known for and that what she does with everyone then yes she should be selective not for her sake but for yours, if that's not your thing why waste your time and money if she isn't GFE. To me that makes sense anything other than that like what was your best friend's dogs name in the second grade or how much do you make a year or send me a picture of what you look like is bull. This is the sex industry his money is green isn't it. I like the ones that tell me yeah but I was rape by a black man so I choose not to see them because of memory OH please so why be in the sex industry if that's the case, rape involves sex doesn't it? Some ppl make my brain hurt.

In other words - it's meaningless.
And in many cases it can scare away good prospective clients

I have a certain type of guy I mesh well with and I have tailored my website and every word on there to attract that type. So I am VERY selective but only because the session would be an unmitigated  disaster if I had to entertain the types that make my skin crawl. Nothing to do with snobbery here.

Just trying to sound more high class and harder to attain most likely...or could just mean exactly that... Judging by the way you contact her,if your respectful and how comfortable she feels moving forward ect.. maybe some girls even go according to the guys looks or how rich they seem I don't know.....I don't claim that or state that on my website but you can pass every verification out there but if I have a bad feeling about somebody or they are doing weird behavior like dozens of emails or texts in a row with 50 questions acting super desperate then I will politely decline their business.... who knows  why some ladies state that but at the end of the day they have to feel comfortable with the way they want to run their business....

e ladies are in fact "really selective" in whom they see. They may not choose to see men under 40 or African American men, or perhaps they see only 1 client every other day at $1000 an hour. These may be hard and true boundaries that some ladies stick to at all times. In this case, the term "selective" would apply.

But I think at the end of the day, a lady stating she is "selective" in whom she sees, is simply trying to weed out the "loser" hobbyists.... The time wasters, the constant negotiators, the men who just want to see what they can get away with. Ladies don't have time to deal with this crap. So psychologically, posting that she is selective in whom she sees, is a way to hopefully attract more upscale hobbyists.  

The bottom line is if you present yourself professionally, give the ladies their requested screening information, show up on time/freshly groomed, with the correct donation, enjoy your session and leave in the same professional manner in which you came, you will most likely find yourself being "selected" over and over again.

I don't really say that I don't think... But if I do, it means I tailor to a certain type of guy. Not really color of skin or occupation wise. But if he's not someone I think I would be a good fit for, I would pas, as opposed to taking his or anyone within that style's money.

I.e. a guy tries to book, and all of his recs are subs/PSE/kink - I can usually tell he's into a different style than I provide based on her reviews.

There are also a lot of other factors in pricing, time minimums, screening requirements, amount of advance notice needed, and even web content/pictures that do the picking for us, and even hint that a girl is selective without her needing to say it.

everyone that I want to see will see me. If they don't someone else will. No biggie.

We're all adults and make what we think are the best decisions for ourselves.

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