I am rather new at this hobby and so, please bare with me on my "newbie" question.
If you see a provider and she talks about seeing you as a friend "on her time", is she serious or just being friendly to make that "GFE"?
Everything in my mind says that is was all acting (for obvsious reasons) but I guess I kind of want to believe that she does.
Should I try to arrange an meeting "on her time" just to hang out or just drop it and move on?
I prefer "plain speak" when discussing this with a girl - If they bring it up, I just say "I know your time has value, but you tell me where and when. I'd love to get to know you as a person outside the profession" - I've done this with providers and strippers - infact one of my best personal friends is a beautiful 23 yr.old Jamacan stripper - We've been good friend's for a little over three years now.......No sex though! (bummer for me!)
on the girl and the situation. There are many variables.
But if you ask some certain other "ho's" they will tell you they are "Sincere".
If you want to hang out go for it. If you are hoping to make more of the situation, then walk away. You can absolutley be friends with a provider, but without that certain govenor on your emotions, it is really hard. You may be letting yourself in for some heartache.
~Gracie
It depends on your situation and her situation. Without know more about both people its hard to say. Like are you alredy married or in a commited relationship? If, so, Its most likely not a wise idea. My .02
Well, I am speaking only for myself here. If I say that I want to see someone on "my time" I mean it. I don't feel that I have to say that to make the session GFE.
I usually will make the first move so that the gent knows that I am serious. I will ask them if they would like me to treat them to lunch ( so that they know that I don't expect anything but their company ) etc. If I wish to extend the visit because we are having great conversation etc. (wink wink) I just keep talking or whatever normally. I always ask if they are in a hurry (gotta respect their time frames too).
I say go for it. Maybe she just simply liked you. It does happen you know 
Have fun.
So, if the (wink wink) happens, that's presumably back on the clock, correct?
I would imagine so. She mentioned "as friends" so I think that would be the extent of any relationship. Anything extra would probally not be on "her time".
No, if the wink wink happens on my time it would be unfair that all of a sudden it's back on the clock (don't ya think ?). Afterall, I did invite him (or her grins) over / out etc ( and no I will not pay him or her lol).
There have been times when the chemistry was incredible, the fun time fabulous and I was greedy and wanted it to continue for a little longer. It has been my choice to extend the time or invite. To expect the gent to pay for that isn't fair or right.
That, in my opinion is not the definition of a GFE - GFE is "on the clock." I suspect that she meant on her time. But you need to be sure that what she said, was what you heard... and what you heard, was what she said...
That is an ackward way of stating that you need to ask her... and as others have stated, please, proceed with caution.... otherwise you may hear the provider police, stating something like, "put the provider down and move away from the bed and nobody will get hurt.... !!!
I think Missypetite24 sounds like a nice person that would be worth spending some time with. Just my 2cents worth.
I get a little annoyed when gentlemen are perpetually suspicious of every word I utter and every sigh that comes out of my mouth, suspecting that I'm acting all the time. That drives me crazy! And, makes me defensive, ugh, which is not a pretty place to be.
I know *why* they think that. And the truth is that sometimes I DO have to act... but, thankfully, that's pretty rare. Certainly I don't act when I say someone is a nice guy... if I don't think so, I won't say it! The majority of things I do/say are the TRUTH or I wouldn't say/do them. Think about it... would you notice if I hadn't said that at all???? (
Now I have no idea what the lady you're talking about meant... only she could accurately answer that. I will say that for me, I've often had gents request hanging out with me "off the clock," and I really can't do that. For me it's like separation of church and state... LOL my personal time is very, very full as it is, and if I choose to spend time with a client off the clock, I'm taking time away from ten thousand other things that I need to give my time to. There are many, many clients whom I think are so awesome and I'd love to just hang out with... but my *personal* experience is that it's not usually a good idea for a zillion or so reasons.
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, to each their own, viva la difference, and females are changeable and entitled to change their minds at any given moment.
Boy that didn't clear anything up, did it? LOL!!!
Hugs*
Tamara
Thanks to everyone who replied.
I think I am going to attempt to setup some time for us to hang out as friends. If it works out, great. If I get blown off, I guess I will know if she was sincere or not.
Either way, I think it is best that I do not push too hard and only try it once. Depending on her reaction/reply, I will either go foward or drop the idea. The LAST thing I want to do is have her think I am a nut case or stalker.
To Tamara, I completely understand your point but I am sure that there are many girls who do say things to make a meeting more pleasurable. After all, I would think that a provider does want repeat customers. Sadly, until you truely get to know someone, you will not know if she is being honest or just making the meeting more memorable.
Thanks again to all!
A lady once made me much the same offer, and I accepted. The next thing you know she was yelling at me for seeing other providers.
Being new at the hobby, I would assume you're not ready to be tied down just yet, so I advise you proceed with caution.
Of course, YMMV, but fair warning. Be cautious, very cautious -- especially if the "non-service-related" money topic comes up. I should have known better, but I started seeing a stripper from one of Houston's major clubs on "her own time." Dinners, movies, etc. Time in my bedroom was great. But then we went shopping together. First mistake, because I wanted to thank her and spent way too much. Then, she wanted to go back to school, but didn't have enough for tuition (she never went back to school, saying her back injuries from a previous car accident flared up at the wrong time, but she took the money anyway. Then she wanted to help her sister with some outstanding traffic warrants. There were many other examples, but you get the picture. Money, money, money. I was too stupid until it was almost too late. Thankfully, I never asked her to move in with me, since Texas has a common law marriage statute and I could have put 50% of everything I own at risk. So, please, exercise some caution. If you happen to be in Houston, feel free to PM me if you want more detail.
