If you have to ask...you probably wouldn't understand the answer.
The other day I was with a 19yo and the little W* cut the session short because I whispered in her ear while doing her
“You like this you little W* don’t you”
She got pissed off and cut the session right there and there.
What I don’t understand if they are W* why would they dislike being called W*
Haven't you watched Pretty Woman? You cannot call a W a W.
Are you serious with that question.
Let's see, how about if she came back and said, "Yes I do especially with pathetic F'ing loser like yourself."
In the sex for $ world, there is a hierarchy, and I believe w* refer to the street walkers. Some ladies are really sensitive. Some like to talk dirty and are turned on by being called a w*.
You can't go wrong treating them like a lady.
If what you want is to talk dirty, then you should make that clear in advance.
It saved you the humiliation of watching her dissolve into fits of laughter. I imagine that after you left and she was stuffing your cash in her wallet she was probably mumbling something to herself like 'oh yeah baby, i'm really loving all this cash'.
Honestly, have you no shame? Must you resort to the lexicon of 70's porn to get yourself off? Perhaps it may do it for you, but to a 19 year old, you'd just come across as some sad, ageing weirdo.
Guys, My alter ego (yes I have a secret identity that I must maintain to protect the innocent) has written - IN HIS REVIEWS - that to go into a session acting with anything but respect and a clear regard to the ladies boundaries is foolish, but more importantly just not in good spirit....
I know that there are those who get off while degrading others.... but ya know what - you should ask before - and maybe some providers out there will say, "OK, what they hey, I don't mind, cause I know it is a somewhat twisted game in your mind, not mine." But for most, they take this as a statement of how you view their value as a person.
WJG is a case in point, this "Saul on the road to Damascus turned Paul" is now "Defender of the faith" "keeper of the truth" "Slayer of the wicked" Well - you get the picture. Disrespecful is not the way to go, with anyone, anywhere. AND for all converts, it takes a while to get over your prejudices with credibilitiy to the rest of us.......
I must say, what is wrong with treating this lady with a little courtesy - a make believe date?! why degrade her, You do that with your civvie friends? Wife - ??
She was enjoying herself so much she planned to return your money after the session. But you went and ruined it.
and your probably in this business because you "like what you do"
at least your post make it clear that your only in it for the money
thanks for being as honest as you always are
NEVER CHANGE
It's never been about anything but the money and if someone likes to do it for free (SOs notwithsrtanding) then they can add me to their dance card. The point of any interaction between provider and hobbyist must start and end with respect. If words and role-plays and other activities are consistent with what they chose to do then fine. Ultimately, whatever happens it's up to the agreeing parties to say when and if. All the rest is conjecture and borders on being a nuissance.
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Personally I find the use of the W word can cut both ways. While I agree with Emma that any provider has a right to be offended by the word, I've also had sessions where a provider has gotten very turned on and started using the word herself, which invariably turns the session into very high gear. One way I sometimes try to "even things out" is to use the word on myself, e.g., "I'm your whore." Used that way, the word isn't intended as an insult but as a reference to a state of "sluttiness" in which both participants are letting their guard down and cutting loose. But this is delicate stuff and I consider myself lucky that I've never gotten a negative reaction like the one described by the original poster.
PS. I don't think I'd ever use the word with a 19yo who might just be getting started as a provider.
Personally, I prefer;
"Hump me hard, you lecherous harlot! Verily, I shall plow thee unto next week!"
I could get into that. But only if we talked that way and dressed up in Renaissance garb for the whole session.
"Huzzah! Let me then at thy codpiece virile Sir, before I swoon from such divine heat that riseth unbidden from my honeyed loins!"
that you dislike being called an inconsiderate jerk, just because you are one.
Just my opinion...
B
and I say if I do something that I'm not supposed to, please say so because I want this to be good for both of us.
I simply would have responded "Eh, I'd like it a little bit more, if your dick was about three inches longer". I love to play dirty and rough.
If you have to ask...you probably wouldn't understand the answer.
and a S and a C and a B... let alone beast and an animal!! Sex is something that is beautiful.. and words that connect with it to me are wonderful things. And anyways.. it turns me ONNNNNN.. especially while he grabs a fistful of hair and SLAMMMMS!
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it's kind of interesting to see all the different types of people that exist among us. This kind of session would freak me out and be very unpleasant. I just wouldn't be into it.
That the word is an offensive one to the lady that you were with. She could have been working because she needed the money, not because she enjoyed working. If she was working to make ends meet, your use of the word "whore" when describing her as a person did not help her state of mind.
I feel that she was right to end the session with you, at the minimum. You should try to condition yourself to be more aware of other people's feelings.
From now on, you may want to disucss "DOs and DONTs" with your providers. Some may accept those words then you are in heaven and she is not in hell.
If she's just 19 years old, she probably isn't too experienced in the practice and has probably been mostly with guys who didn't need it's extra umph to cum within three minutes. At the very least, she hasn't been in the profession very long.
If nothing else, never start dirty talk with terms she might take personally. Progress to them, and meanwhile see if the dirty talk is revving her engines or causing her to stall.
And keep in mind that "whore" is a term of insult outside of dirty talk. No, some or most do not like being called that.
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