I am getting ready to stick my toes in the water. I have been on an off TER over the last year, signed up because I was intrigued about a provider that was in another city, and I have not had a chance to visit that city. In the meantime, I found someone who is as intriguing locally and want to ease into seeing my first provider with an hour long lunch or dinner meeting, 100 percent public. This would be a prelude to private time at a later date. I am perfectly willing to pay full service price to set up an initial public meeting, which may sound peculiar to some of the old pros, but I honestly think I would be be overwhelmed trying to meet the provider in private. I want to get to know her first before taking things furhter.
At any rate, is it possible for LE considerations to come into a meeting in a restaurant or other public place? Don't worry, we will be fully clothed the entire time
I would assume take the usual precautions about what is discussed in public.
Am I overthinking this? Or, are there issues that I may potentially be overlooking?
Ladies, what are your thoughts on such meetings? Do they make it easier for you during the next, more intimate meeting with the client
I'm no expert but I doubt that law enforcement would go that far to entrap you. you don't have to get details about any sexual services and your on a date literally paying for her time. so I wouldn't worry and yes it can make the private meeting go a bit more smoothly in my opinion
but we are talking about you, not us. If this is only way you feel that you can ease into this, then lets deal with your concerns, not ours.
From your own perspective, what you are doing is 100% legal and unless at some point you discuss "sex for money" YOU are on 100% safe ground. From her perspective, she is on 99.99% safe ground, her only risk would be a very remote chance of being charged with "escorting without a license" and I can't (and I am sure most women won't) imagine LE going through something so elaborate to catch a hooker not even in the act.
Your chances of running afoul of LE by doing this are essentially nil.
Yes, IMO you are overthinking this, am I correct in assuming you have had very little experience with women? If so, don't stress about it, I am sure she will put you at ease. I would recommend you pick an experienced woman and not some youngster as a more experienced provider will most likely be better suited to putting a newbie at ease.
Like GaG said, the LE risk is essentially nil on your end.
And good for you for knowing what makes you most comfortable. I think there's a big difference between "overthinking" and taking a little extra time to shape your experiences to your liking. Personally, I'm always thrilled when a client is more interested in the overall interpersonal experience rather than just getting a nut. Call me a sapiosexual, but everything is so much better when there's a chance to establish a connection of sorts.
because she must get dressed up & travel to meet you... which reduces her working time IF she's busy. On the other hand, she might be interested in a couple of hours for dinner... would make it worth her while.
I also suggest a mature lady...
...and it was a great experience especially since it was the first friend that I met, ever. When we established our appointment time, we already had a rapport and the session was amazing. He and I still chat over text just to say hi. I'd recommend meeting up just to calm the nerves.
I did not want a donation for our lunch meeting... My stance was that building rapport was donation enough!
All of that to say, I believe it's personal preference..
I'm quite sure it'll be a great experience for you either way!!
Best of luck! Let us know how it goes.
xoxo
Krista Collins of Atlanta
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I always meet for a drink first and it makes the whole experience that much better for the both of us.