I'm surprised you haven't also found this wide disparity of responses in non-P4P sexual encounters too.  I know I have.

I've said it many times, and I'll keep saying it: men are a lot simpler to get off than women.  

Yes, I've licked my fair share of pussy (likely a few other peoples' shares too) and have found the same extremely wide gamut of reactions as you.  

Some women like to be licked with no finger action.  Others NEED fingers up their muff in addition to licking their clit just so....
There are women have an extremely sensitive clit so you can only stimulate above or around it.  Then there's those who have to have a vibrator in order to "get there".... seriously, we're difficult.  

I'm easily orgasmic (yes, that's a real thing) so when I was much younger I just couldn't understand why my girlfriends weren't as into sex as I was.  Then I had my first girl/girl experience and figured it out.  LOL.  

 
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I don't think some providers "prevent" themselves from getting off.
I imagine a lot of them just can't. I've only been on four "dates", but had two of them confess to me that 99.9% of the time they fake the orgasms. Swear to god. Don't ask how it came up, lol.

Debbie is correct in that women are harder to get off than men. What are the chances that a stranger you just met, who has no emotional connection to you, who probably is tired from the last few dudes, and thinking about the three after you, is really in the right place to get off?

And from civvie experience, no two women enjoyed exactly the same DATY experience.
This one girl I dated had me practically gnawing on her clit to O. The next girl I was with tried to kick me in the face when I applied the same technique, said I was monstrously rough...

If you get a provider who is into it, and gets off, or is an amazing actress, just be happy

Posted By: YI812

I'm under the impression that some providers react much differently than others when it comes to DATY.  I LOVE to go down on a woman and know what I'm doing but I've been with providers who react differently  as in night and day.  One provider just lays there.  Sure she spreads her legs a bit wider to accommodate me or get herself more comfortable but just doesn't react. AT ALL.  DATY with another provider is out of this world!  She really gets into it with me, squirming and moaning and breathing super heavy.  She grabs my head, my hair, gently grabs onto my back (shoulders) lightly with her nails, etc.  I've been with providers who are in between those two reactions as well.  
   
 So my question is, do some providers purposely prevent themselves from reaching an orgasm during DATY and others "just let it go?"  I'm thinking, "if you offer it, enjoy it!"  Yes, I know there are some providers out there who only allow themselves to cum with DATY OUTSIDE of their client dates.  When I go on a date I not only want to get myself off I also try to make sure SHE gets off too.  
   
 Providers and fellow hobbyists, please chime in

I think everyone has given u excellent advice on this thread.  
No two women will have the same reaction to the same technique.  Think of a woman as being a guitar. You have to get to know your guitar and break it in because no two guitars are the same.  Also, some women need digital stimulation. I need a finger inside me too.  I love it when the give of DATY knows how to find my gspot.  That's when the earth begins to move for me. Ask her what she likes before u start.

I know some ladies might be nymphos or just horny that day  but I'm willing to bet my paycheck most ladies do NOT get into it with out a deeper level of comfort with their clients.