It sounds like your wife is taking the cause of the problem seriously. Instead of marriage counseling though, I do suggest you and your wife read John Gottman's "Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work."
After posting my message a few weeks ago, I never went back to check the replies until today, so I figured I'd provide an update. Writing the original note was incredibly cathartic and I owe an update to all those that posted their heartfelt and intelligent replies.
First, I have not been with a provider now for exactly 2 months. I've thought about it and have been tempted, but I still think the consequences far outweigh the pleasure. My wife and I have gotten things back on track and she has turned into quite a sex fiend, doing things that I never thought she was capable of. We are still going to counseling and spending much more time together.
There were some posts doubting my story. I certainly understand this sentiment, but all I can say is my original post was 100% truthful. One poster hit the nail on the head with the sequence of events. First my wife found out, then we reconciled and then we started having sex again. Finally, the STD scare. Also, I said my sex life was "virtually" non-existent. My wife and I did have sex every once in a while, but it certainly was nothing to write home about.
Regarding the credit card, I had a separate card I kept almost entirely secret from my wife. She knew I had it, but never knew the balance. Since no statements came to the house, she didn't know about the usage details. I used to take out large cash advances on the card, not actually pay providers with the card.
I am also happy to report that we both tested negative for STDs. I believe the stress caused our minds to play tricks on us. I was so convinced I caught something that I had a burning sensation in my dick until I found out I was ok.
One poster said he would "be at the doctor's office that day" if he saw discharge. Believe me, I was going to visit my MD after I saw the discharge, but since the discharge went away, I felt I was not in any sort of danger. Turned out, the discharge was due to a very enthusiastic BBBJ from a provider that caused the tip of my wiener to bleed a little.
Once again, thanks to all those replied, even those that doubted my story.
And toying with this board will only fuel you. You don't need us or our opinions. Would your wife be pleased to learn of your continued visits here? Be a good boy and go home.
You are very lucky and should get down and kiss your wife's feet! I got busted for just looking at the free porn sites on the web.... and downloading a couple of movies..... Divorce followed. And at least you had a sex life, ours was dead... Wow, understanding - sainthood may be the word...
Seriously, think about why you are on this board. Were I married - this board - no way cause you will get caught.
Just a thought.
It sounds like your wife is taking the cause of the problem seriously. Instead of marriage counseling though, I do suggest you and your wife read John Gottman's "Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work."