Let's not delude ourselves.
I was out of town and on my one free night I was looking for a bit of fun with a provider. I selected a provider and we exchanged emails. She verified me, we confirmed date and time, etc. This was a couple of weeks before the session. The day before the session I confirmed we were still a go, the time, meeting place, etc.
I arrive at our meeting point. I wait about 5 minutes and email her. We are meeting someplace that it would be easy to miss each other. After another while I pull up her number and call her. The phone acts a bit wonky so I text. Repeat this a couple of times but after 45 minutes I finally give up. It was a nice night and I figured I would enjoy the weather and have another drink.
How long do you all normally wait past a scheduled time and without any response from the provider?
80 minutes or so after our scheduled meeting time she finally got in touch with me. She said she had not been feeling well, took a nap, and did not hear her alarm (or she did not set it correctly). She offered to see me the next day or evening if I wanted. My window was closed so I could not take her up on the offer.
I understand things come up however letting me know in advance would have been appreciated.
my dog ate my homework, and just as truthful. She had a better offer and played you.
15 minutes is the least amount of time a provider should be given before it's a no-show, and 30 minutes the longest at least without some contact.
In the past 12 months I've had three reputable providers oversleep and miss our appointed time. Without going into further detail, yes I know for sure that they did indeed oversleep. For two, it was due to exhaustion from travel, the other just partied too hard the night before our morning engagement.
All I'm saying is let's not imbue the newbies with too much suspicion - let's give each other the benefit of the doubt at first. I do agree that I wouldn't wait longer than 30 mins with no response.
Being a provider is a workout, so I tend to believe people when they say they fell asleep. 
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Let's not delude ourselves.
I tend to give the benefit of the doubt unless it's a pattern.
Unless the gal made some valiant effort to undo the harm done, I would tend to lean towards being cautious with my time and not trust her again
I also think she played you. Unless she was number one on my wish list, I would not give her another chance to stand me up.
LLAP,
Swim
My first thought was that she decided the drive was further than she really wanted to make. Although it was a 2 hour appointment.
There was no plan to see her again.
To be honest I am actually kind of happy that she did not show up. Based on the reviews I am sure it would have been a great time. However she does not qualify for my must see list of providers. In this case I think I am happier to play with one of the many quality providers in my home city.
I've only had one first-time meeting where the provider didn't contact me within 30 minutes after our start time. I left, and never heard anything from her again.
A provider I've seen multiple times has never been on time in her life. The least amount of time she's been late is half an hour. The worst was four hours, although two of those hours were because we had to wait until a certain time to check in (the hotel wouldn't allow early check-in, which she usually manages to do with her charm). The first two of those hours? Who knows/
At one point in my brief hobbying experience, it seemed like the best ones were always late. Then I had a true 10/10 provider who was exactly on time. I was shocked.
I guess it boils down to what you're willing to put up with.
after locating the call point some minutes in advance, I withdraw to the corner coffee shop to wait. I estimate how long it takes to return to the call point. If it's someone I've seen before & the call point is close, I might call from the coffee shop lot. I'd call at the designated time.
I'd wait 10 & call again. At 20 I'd call & state the obivious, that it's now 20 past so the date is off. I'd not go past 30.
leave in a shorter time period. Back in the day when I was in college, we had an unwritten rule that if a prof was late you would wait at most 20 minutes (doctorate) but less 10 minutes for others. If the prof doesn't show, you bail.
I also agree with mrfisher. I use the same rule of thumb for a provider. If there is no contact in say 10 minutes after the designated time, you try to reach her if unsuccessful you move on. I too have limited opportunities to P4P so I do understand your frustration of missing out on a time to play.
Hope your next time is much better.
I waited 45 minutes not 80. The only reason I waited as long as I did is that it was perfect weather outside and I decided to enjoy another adult beverage.
If I had been "sitting in a car" or it had been crappy weather I would have left after 20-30 minutes of no contact.
This is the first time I have had a NCNS.
My rule for professors was 15 minutes
Your 45' wait was more than fair. I meant that the fact that she called you 80' after the time is suspicious = got a better offer, spent 60' + cleanup with him and then tried to see if you were still interested.
If I had been "sitting in a car" or it had been crappy weather I would have left after 20-30 minutes of no contact.
This is the first time I have had a NCNS.
I imagine it works the same way. I typically wait 30 minutes after the scheduled time, if no contact by then, I'm done with it.
NCNS = No call, no show. (You can't review an NCNS but you spread the word by PM or other means.)
I agree with mrfisher that 30' is fair. You waited 80 minutes before hearing from her. 80' is suspiciously equal to an (guaranteed, he just rang the bell) incall showing up for an hour + cleanup rather than risk a two-hour drive to "Who knows if HE will NCNS me?"
As keystone said, if you get more contact, it does change things, but I've been burned that way, too. "I'm running 5' late." is a polite update. "I'm at the intersection of AxB and almost there." also helps. But I've been in situations where 5' became 50' and my time was up and I had to bail. That's not an NCNS, but it is annoying.
My favorite was "It's raining so I'll be an hour late." Huh? "It's raining for me, too, so I left early in order to arrive on time for you!" (And she was one of my MUST SEE! girls, but that was the end of that.)
Welcome to the club
15 minutes..then color me gone..