The more the encounter resembles a real date (even though I'm paying for her time) the more excitement it brings and the more I'm willing to bend over backwards to see her. I once came across a semi-pro whose MO is to meet you at a bar to check each other out to see if there's enough mutual attraction before moving on to her apartment for a happy ending. If there's attraction, then you walk over to the apartment. If not, you say goodbyes after your drinks and part as friends. I thought that was pretty exciting and refreshing. We wound up spending an hour and a half chatting at the bar coz we're both having such a great time. Needless to say, we're thrilled to take the next step and move on to her apartment and spent another two and a half hours in the sack. She made it clear on her website that she did not expect to be paid for time spent getting to know each other at the bar. Too bad she retired early and got herself a professional job. She never required work number and other personal info. Before we wet, we chatted on the phone and the only info I gave her was my TER handle, fake name, and cell phone. That was one of the most memorable experience I've ever had in this hobby.
On the other hand, I'd never give out my real name and work number just to see a girl. Everyone has his limits.
And of course, a provider playing hard-to-get can be a huge turn-on. I once e-mailed someone who's providing part-time. She worked full time at a professional office. She's cancelled twice on me already. But I think I'm going to try once more. Maybe the third time is a charm. I like the idea that she's not doing this full time.
Would I fly 5000 miles to meet a provider? Yes, I would if I feel there's a genuine connection and of course, if I can find a business reason to be in that city.
-- Modified on 7/25/2005 9:44:47 AM
This is a post by a local guy in my area defending a provider who was difficult to meet up with. Are you willing to make several calls or emails until you actually are able to come face to face with each other? Would you drive a really long distance to see her? How much do her looks and/or reviews affect your personal limits with each lady? I’m not willing to go through this much trouble as long as I’m the one spending the cash! How about you? Enjoy:
I was unable to confirm by voice like (*hobbyist name*) but I drove up to her area just in case. She did not answer until 1 minute before the appointment. I was in position and was at her place in three minutes. Some people don't like all the rings and hoops but if the prize is (*providers name*), I would say it is worth it. Of course it is easy to see anyone average. It took me forever to see (*provider2 name*), I have been working for weeks to see (*provider3 name*). Patience is a virtue and it is required to see the best girls in town.
It may take several e-mails and other communication to make sure both parties are comfortable with meeting and working out the logistics to do so. In the end, only after the session will you be able to know if it was "worth it". If it was "worth it", then it really wasn't any "trouble" after all.
Oddly, I haven't as yet made a special long-distance trip to see someone (although that doesn't mean I wouldn't), but I've had a lady make such a trip to see me.
That's what frequent flyer miles are for. I think it just depends on how bad you want to see her. If she does something for you that nobody else does, then it's worth it. Remember, rationalization is the second strongest human drive.
The answer for me is it "Depends". On plans leading up to an initial visit, it is not unusual to have several back and forth communications for safety, verification, logistics and comfort level. This applies to both Hobbyist and Provider. I have been known to travel to meet a lady, that I've communicated with for awhile and really want to see. I'm fortunate that I can usually combine my trips with some other business and/or social activity. Also, I believe in having what I call a "Plan B". Simply known as a back-up plan if for whatever reason the meeting doesn't take place. After the initial visit, I would hope, if it was worth it for both parties, that future meetings would be less cumbersome to confirm. However, this is quite different from the proverbial "Stood up" situation. I'll forgive and give a second try, because things come up with us all. But two strikes, and you're out and time to write that person off and move on.
Also, I usually give between 3 and 5 days between the messages to allow for travel etc. Other then that, I'm down the road.
The more the encounter resembles a real date (even though I'm paying for her time) the more excitement it brings and the more I'm willing to bend over backwards to see her. I once came across a semi-pro whose MO is to meet you at a bar to check each other out to see if there's enough mutual attraction before moving on to her apartment for a happy ending. If there's attraction, then you walk over to the apartment. If not, you say goodbyes after your drinks and part as friends. I thought that was pretty exciting and refreshing. We wound up spending an hour and a half chatting at the bar coz we're both having such a great time. Needless to say, we're thrilled to take the next step and move on to her apartment and spent another two and a half hours in the sack. She made it clear on her website that she did not expect to be paid for time spent getting to know each other at the bar. Too bad she retired early and got herself a professional job. She never required work number and other personal info. Before we wet, we chatted on the phone and the only info I gave her was my TER handle, fake name, and cell phone. That was one of the most memorable experience I've ever had in this hobby.
On the other hand, I'd never give out my real name and work number just to see a girl. Everyone has his limits.
And of course, a provider playing hard-to-get can be a huge turn-on. I once e-mailed someone who's providing part-time. She worked full time at a professional office. She's cancelled twice on me already. But I think I'm going to try once more. Maybe the third time is a charm. I like the idea that she's not doing this full time.
Would I fly 5000 miles to meet a provider? Yes, I would if I feel there's a genuine connection and of course, if I can find a business reason to be in that city.
-- Modified on 7/25/2005 9:44:47 AM
It certainly depends upon who the provider is. I've set-up appts for months in advance where I've had to drive 300 miles just to see her. As for a local provider, I'd give 'em abot 2 emails or phone calls without a response before I'd give up & move on....too many fish in the sea.
if he is being made to jump through all these hoops? I was told by one provider that if she doesn't want to meet a guy she just makes her screening process more difficult than getting on Air Force One!
kc
-- Modified on 7/25/2005 8:22:17 PM