I'm sure it's frustrating for you, but there really isn't anything you can do. I wouldn't keep trying to contact her. Hard to say if your question was out of line since I don't know what it was. But if it had any sexual references in it, it probably was, at least in her mind. PM'ing her reviewers probably won't help unless there is one real recent review. However, since she saw him, he probably won't know anything about your situation.
LLAP,Swim
So I have a date set up for next week. I emailed her a question and she didn't reply. That's ok maybe I was out of line but I doubt it. Anyway I email her again to make sure we are a go for the date and no response. If she wants to cancel, I am ok with that but now I see that she hasn't been on p411 (where she schedules) since last Friday.
At some point should I be concerned about her well-being? I'm not worried about her cancelling but I'd feel better knowing she was ok. Am I being paranoid? I've looked in the city where she is this week and I haven't seen anything blasting her for a NCNS which I think I would if she missed appointments. I don't PM her reviewers do I? Maybe she is laying low to keep her cover?
I'm sure it's frustrating for you, but there really isn't anything you can do. I wouldn't keep trying to contact her. Hard to say if your question was out of line since I don't know what it was. But if it had any sexual references in it, it probably was, at least in her mind. PM'ing her reviewers probably won't help unless there is one real recent review. However, since she saw him, he probably won't know anything about your situation.
LLAP,
Swim
On P411 she checked the box for "Activity List Available" so I asked. I didn't say anything like "Do you do abc?"
I am more concerned about her being ok than the cancellation. There are many lovely women in her city.
...if she hasn't responded, then move on and stop pestering her. You'll just come off as needy. There are plenty of other ladies who will be more than happy to entertain you.
I totally understand what you are saying. I don't care if she cancels I just hope she is ok.
Two messages is enough. Unless you know her and have seen her several times, chasing her like this is pointless. There exists a line between fantasy and reality for a reason in the hobby. I learned from experience and you need to as well.
Thanks for the advice. I will follow it.
24-48 hours out from your date... Did you have a agreed date & time?
It's OK to message "I haven't heard from you, hope you are OK". It's OK to remind "We'd scheduled for Tuesday at 2." "Unless I hear back, I have to consider the appointment cancelled by her."
She'll answer or not.
I will say... one gal had her email shut down by the host for illegal services... she never did get it back. I called her, because I had her phone... but only after a long delay & we picked up again...
I agree with the others. They've all given excellent advice! It's good to be concerned over someone's well being but whether you've never had a date with her or you've had 100 dates, leg it go and move on. There are plenty of beautiful talented women out there.
I'm getting out of a somewhat similar situation. My former "go to" regular started to consider e as not just an ATF bug more like a ATM. We started to have disagreements and then things were texted to eachother (on both sides) that shouldn't have been said...that is why she is my former go to. Lol
Good luck with your quest
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