You may want to stick with providers who ONLY offer CBJ (no BBBJ) as to avoid any potentially awkward moments.
Posted By: fungeek
How can you say that early on while being sufficiently subtle?
If you do choose a provider who does BBBJ: Only ask in person, once you've gotten the preliminaries out of the way and are starting to feel comfortable. I highly recommend waiting until physical contact has gotten underway and simply be direct.
As soon as she starts heading south, just ask, "Is it ok if we use a cover for that?" She may say no, so be willing to accept either no BJ or BBBJ in that event.
Posted By: fungeek
........ even though I feel like it should be good from a provider's perspective.
If you're looking at it just from the point of view of what's safest, then yes, CBJ is good from anyone's perspective. But as a provider, I will tell you that I HATE the taste of condoms. The little tip thingy tends to tickle the back of my throat and make me gag, too. So although I will do CBJ when requested, I don't like it. It's fine for you to ask, and I wouldn't object, but my enthusiasm may be noticeably diminished. :-P
Oh, and some providers use condoms with spermicidal lubricant; I can tell you from experience that there are very few worse-tasting things than spermicide. Tough to get that taste out of your mouth, too. 
Posted By: fungeek
I do enjoy DATY, but the one time I tried to give it with protection, I'm told it wasn't very good. I suppose maybe the best plan with respect to that would be to come prepared, and ask the provider what she would like?
If it were me, and someone said, "I brought protection for DATY; what would you like?" my response would be, "Whatever makes YOU feel comfortable!".
I've had someone bring a dental dam to use exactly once. He didn't ask or mention it at all: he pulled it out, removed the wrapper, and proceeded to use it. Yes, it dulled the sensation. And to be honest, it made me feel a little awkward. That may just be me, though.
But again, if you want to use it, just say so. If she doesn't want you to use one, for whatever reason, then be prepared to do it sans-protection or forgo it.
Hope that helps!!
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And if he wanted to use a dental damn it would not be a waste of time for me....I am delivering a service and my needs do not come first.
Seriously, it would be like you not liking carrots and having someone tell you, you don't know what you're missing...actually you do know, something you know you don't like.
The OP is most likely very comfortable with uncovered acts with a real life girlfriend, just not in the game. I find it amazing that others feel the need to push their likes and even their dislikes on others.
I know you said you respect his preferences but everything you said after kind of negates that as far as he is concerned or is your personal choice and nothing to do with his.
I certainly know what BBBJ and DATY are like. I've had girlfriends, and I'm married. (My wife decided to give this her blessing.)
Obviously to me, BBBJ isn't as big a deal as it is for you. Even so, you're right that the experience won't be as nice as it could be. That's a sacrifice I'll gladly make to prevent the outside chance of having any new, unpleasant experiences, and potentially inflicting them on my wife too.
this board is supposed to help you get your questions answered in an environment free of judgment. NOT a place for people to tell you what you should like or dislike.
As H+T said, don't worry about what the ladies "prefer" you are paying for a service, not "making love" If this is what you want, you shouldn't have any problems finding it.
