shit happens. It has happened to me too, All we can do is move on. There are too many others out there not to.
LLAP,Swim
This was a first, arrived at the location at the specified time, given the final piece of the puzzle on where to go and within a timespan of less than a minute - no response. Still trying to understand the why and maybe someone else has encountered this or can offer some rationale.
So the details leading up to this were that a lady whose touring in my area, whom I've seen before and had such a memorable time with, posted an ad. I sent an email to her with the time and requested during. She responded back within a short time that she was delighted to hear from me and to see me again. She confirmed the date and time and told me she would give me the location of where in a couple of days. Got the email from her requesting confirmation and I responded.
The day comes, I arrive on time and email her. She tells me the final info needed. I arrive in less than a minute and then...nothing. She completely vanishes. I send her another email letting her know my status and ask for confirmation on the location. Still nothing. I leave the area and wait for a total of 30 min before I send her another note letting her know I was departing. Nothing, not a single word.
Here it is 4 days later and still nothing. She recently put up another ad, so I know she's fine and still in the area. Just perplexes me that this situation occurred. I would have been fine if she turned down my request or even cancelled for whatever reason. But this was a first. In case you're wondering, she's got over 40 reviews, so its not like she not a well known and established lady.
I've had something like this happen twice before over the years.
You'll never know why most likely.
Shake it off, and get back on the horse
I did shake it off the next night and she more than made up for it too. Grass is not going to grow under my feet
I agree with mrfisher, shake it off and move on. She may have gotten a better offer, like a multi-hour date and blew you off. Put her on your do not see list and check out some others. Since she has posted another ad, it would seem to me that she really has no interest in seeing you. Move on.
LLAP,
Swim
I was a multi hour date which was one of the reasons I posted. Sadly she is now on that list. What a shame too, she was one of two women I've had the pleasure of spending time with and would have given a 10/10 had I been on this site when I met them.
shit happens. It has happened to me too, All we can do is move on. There are too many others out there not to.
LLAP,
Swim
I too found myself in a similar situation a while back, except I was told to notify her when I was ready to leave to get the first address. I did, but didn't hear back from her. Tried a bit later, but still nothing. She had been communicating with me all week and seemed very enthusiastic, even up to the morning of the date, but at the last minute . . . poof, she was gone. I met my current ATF that day and I haven't looked back since.
If a guy gives me the heebie jeebies or he says something to set off alarms bells, it is almost always in the first couple of contact exchanges and I then make a choice to see or not to see. I don;t go through the motions KNOWING possibly I will not see him.
Here's a thought, these types of hookers might book knowing it is money but not really wanting to see the guy and if they get someone else in that time slot, they bounce the place holder.
In the case of the OP hard to do in a minute bt for those other guys who have had this happen with more time, it might be a plausible but rude tactic.
She completely disrespected you and will likely do it to another guy.
Post it on the board she is visiting and post it on her hometown board.
If you can stand the heat from the WK's that may crawl out of their rabbit hole to defend her, have at it.
This just happened recently on the Philly board.
The guy called her out, she finally addressed it, she apologized and offered to make it up to him.
They were both praised in the end for doing the right thing.
PM me if want to discuss privately first.
Women will cut this shit out if called out on it.
I did give that some thought to calling her out for it, especially since this went way beyond the typical No Show. What would an apology do or accomplish? I simply moved on. As others have stated, it happens.
Or at least give her pause for thought.
This tyoe of thing hasn't happened to me yet, but if I continue hobbying long enough I suspect that eventually it will.
Fuggedaboud her. She's not worth anymore time invested in even thinking about her.
Carry on, soldier.
he worst scenario I've ever encountered, was confirming an appointment with the lady an hour before, then arriving at the right time at the specified location (to get the exact info) calling the lady, only to get no response. I called the next day to make sure she was okay and her response was "Oh, a friend stopped by to chat and I couldn't answer your call to keep the appointment". Who knows if it was true, and who cares if it was true. I never attempted to set up another appointment. But that was an hour in between the confirmation and the call from the location.
What you are describing makes zero sense. How can she "vanish" in less than a minute??? She wouldn't have gotten a bad vibe from you because you've seen her in the past. She couldn't have possibly set up an appointment with someone else in under a minute. In that short a time span (again, you communicated with her one minute prior) its almost impossible to concoct some reason for not answering your call. I can't offer you any advice other than move on and if you want to out her on the boards, go ahead....though I would do it by soliciting PM's from interested hobbyists. Your call
I've experienced the same thing as you described before, but not this. I didn't know if anyone else had this happen to them, this was a first for me. I'll just add to the list of things I've encountered along the way
Rude and unprofessional and I would not give her another thought. Not like she had not met the guy, so I am scratching my head on this one too.