I remember meeting you at a MnG at the FtL HardRock a few years back. I had brought Sabrina from WPB (she got pretty drunk that night). Sorry we didn't get a chance to play before you moved.
LLAP,Swim
Ok what is a good way to talk with a provider when setting up a date with her? If its via text, email or talking with her. I not asking what form to use just how I should talk with her. To find out what she is offering when we do meet in person. I am asking this because the area I live in there is not much choices to chose from. When I do find somebody that I do like and want to meet, I don't want to say the wrong thing and miss an opportunity because I said the wrong thing and offend her. Plus I have a hard time finding any reviews of her to find out more about her. I have meet with a few lady's and so far been disappointed with the encounter I would like to know on how to avoid this in the future. I don't want to show up and expecting more when she is only offering a cbj and that it. I do like the total gfe or as close as I can get to that. Just wondering on how I can pass this on to the girl I would like to meet that way I wont be disappointed with the encounter.
First of and more importantly, you should always be seeing highly reviewed and established ladies to avoid any surprises. Sometimes, the argument is what makes someone a highly reviewed and established person? At least 5 reviews from established reviewers preferably recent reviews, a website, photos and enough information to make your decision making process easier.
In regards on how to contact he lady, remember that you can always ask if she has any reviews and if so on what website. In order to determine the best way to contact her, you will need to read her website, reviews and do research, most information should be readily available. My personal preference is gentlemen who provide as much information for screening as possible so we won't be going back and forth or who simply complete my form and those who do not disclosed anything explicit (you get extra points with me for great spelling and perfect sentence structure), here is an example:
Hi (insert provider name here)
My name is (your name and age) and I am interested on setting up an appointment on (date, time,length, city, incall/outcall request, if outcall location/hotel).
My recent references are:
(insert references here)
My TER handle is (Insert handle here)
Please confirm your availability for the above date and let me know if you require any other information for my verification.
Regards
Thank you for your reply. But the only problem I do have with it is that I do try to do my research on her but if I can not find anything about her either here or some other place it is hard to know how she will be. I the area I live in is a small town and the few provider that does comes to town don't have any reviews to check out.
So if I may ask you what is the best way to find out what service you provide with asking without coming right out and asking you. I do understand that most girls will not answer that question because of many reason mostly for their safety I do respect that. I just don't want to offend a girl with dumb question about the date I am trying to set up. But I do want to make sure that when I do show up that it I will get everything that I would want out of the encounter.
When making your introductory email to a woman with no reviews this added line of language might be a segue into asking about her "Menu"
"BTW I have searched but I have been unable to find any reviews of you. I know it is rude to ask a lady what to expect BCD, but before scheduling an actual session with you, can you guide me somewhere to find out what I can expect during our time together? There are certain things I really enjoy when spending time with a lady and I would hate to be disappointed if any of those activities turn out to be "off limits" to you"
That is really about as overt as you can be and still expect any other response but silence from any reputable lady. The more explicit you are the less likely you are to EVER her from her again.
I'd keep looking. Paloma gave you some good suggestions, but your research is your best protection, just as her screening is her best protection. Asking her if she has any reviews is a good idea as this is not the only review site around. Due to TER rules, I can't mention them by name, since they are competitors.
Sadly, you can't come right out and ask for specific activities, so you should follow Paloma's advice and look for well-reviewed ladies. If there aren't any in your immediate area, you may have to do a little traveling. Even though I live in a large metropolitan area, I still have to drive up to an hour to get to anyone.
LLAP,
Swim
I get to the Chicago area few times a month, and I have meet with some wonderful lady's there. When I am home and have the chance to play and looking for some company it is hard to figure out what they provide with out asking them. I have meet with a few in my home area all of them been a big disappointment. I thought that if I book one hour that I would get a full hour from them but it was one pop then out the door I went.
It is alright to asked them if they are or will provide a total GFE with me, and if will allow a second pop (I do hope the most girls understand what that means) If not then how should I tell her what it means?
unwilling to accept, is that NO. You can't ask about GFE, or specific sexual acts like multiple shots on goal, pops, or whatever phrase you use. And no, you shouldn't take it in yourself to "tell her what it means" unless you want to set yourself up very well for silver bracelets.
What Swim advised is absolutely your best bet. Find reviewed ladies, and then travel to them if you must. That will be much cheaper in the long term than trying unknown quantities, risking saying the exact thing that will get you arrested in a sting, or worse.
Don't let the little head take over
I do agree with the advice from all reply and I do fallow them when I get to Chicago area to the letter. I am a member of P411 and I have been with a few women from there and I did enjoy their company.
I was hoping maybe there was a better way to discuss with a girl to find out more about her. I do understand on why's and the why's not to go into detail over the phone or text. I guess I just have to wait until I get back to the Chicago land again to play.
Thank you all for the good advice and input on this
I'll just add my voice to the others. If you were to ask me those questions, I'd tell you that you were making an illegal proposition and I don't do that, then I would blacklist you.
Whatever city you are in, you might need to travel to a bigger city that has some reviewed ladies in it.
If her website or reviews mention MSOG or GFE, then you should be good to go. If not, then find someone else. Asking those questions directly is likely a recipe for crickets.
In this game, you cannot force things. If you find that one town works for you and another does not, stick to where things go well for you. If you have valid reasons to go to Chicago you can always establish a rapport with a number of different ladies out there and have a rotation.
I remember meeting you at a MnG at the FtL HardRock a few years back. I had brought Sabrina from WPB (she got pretty drunk that night). Sorry we didn't get a chance to play before you moved.
LLAP,
Swim
Talking, or asking, about such things isn't a bad idea just because they state you shouldn't or because you might give them the wrong impression, it's also for your "legal" safety. There's nothing illegal about "awkwardly" asking a woman to meet her at her place. Anything beyond that, however, is merely you building a case against yourself should you be discussing that info with the wrong "lady." I'm not saying you're safe otherwise, only that there's no reason to load their guns with your ammo for your execution.
Beyond that, though, it seems to me that when you're looking to play at home you're seeking the company of the women who (this is harder to describe without being allowed to mention that one site . . . but I digress) tend to be "high volume," or who have "hh specials" etc. You're unlikely to get the kinds of services you're looking for (GFE, multiple pops, etc.) from such providers. You might get lucky and stumble upon one that eventually after a few repeat sessions might start be open to such things, but I wouldn't count on it.