Like everyone on the boards, providers and hobbyists alike, I am deeply moved and saddened by the loss of one of Chicago's providers.  While, it is true that this could have nothing to do with her business, there is a 50/50 chance that it does.  I lost a friend a year ago in Oak Park who came home from jogging (she was not a provider) and surprised a burglar who broke her back and then stabbed her and slit her throat.  Violent crimes happen outside our business.

I am touched by the outpouring of sympathy, support and well wishes for Cheryl and her family and friends.. clients and providers alike.  I personally did not know this wonderful lovely lady.  I know several other providers who were friends with her and are deeply and personally affected by this loss.   I even saw that her webbie has removed her page and replaced it with a memorial page.  (see http://www.cherylofchicago.com/ ).

Not trying to diminish the loss of a wonderful lady, the fact is that this has the potential to be a very dangerous profession.  I think that this sad event is a reminder of that fact and elevates the level of apprehension that many providers (including myself) experience when setting appts for new clients.  But, it also speaks to the subject of prescreening.  If you will recall, another visiting provider just this week mentioned a problem with a client when she broke her own rules  and did not prescreen thoroughly. She felt she put herself in a potentially dangerous position.

Like all providers, I get requests from gentlemen who look to provide inadequate information for prescreening fearing for their own discretion.  I define inadequate information as information other than what I require.  While I can certainly understand their hesitancy to provide personal information, they must understand our need for safety and ease of mind.  Most paramount Safety (with a capital "S").  

Each provider develops what she considers guidelines for prescreening clients that she feels comfortable with.  Even so, there is always some risk involved in meeting a new client.  To ask a provider to accept something less than what she considers to be her minimum information for prescreening is putting her in an awkward position and shows a lack of respect for the lady.  

In all honesty, the ladies requirements should be respected.  If you are uncomfortable providing that level of information, there are many other providers out there that accept less information and, sadly, some that require almost no information.  You, the client, have the choice of contacting someone else rather than pushing to meet someone whose requirements you do not wish to fully cooperate with.

The key is that mutual trust is involved in this profession.  The client must trust the provider to remainly 100% discreet.. verifying them without compromising their livelihood, lifestyle or family.  The provider must trust that the client will be forthright and honest in his dealing with her, giving her truthful information, showing up on time and with the correct donation.  As much as I love what I do, this is my business.. my livelihood and I appreciate good clients who respect me and are honest in their dealings with me.

The fact that everyone's first impression is that this is business related.. speaks volumes about the importance of prescreening and being cautious.

For my fellow providers out there, I would like to say.. please have fun in your erotic adventures.. but do so safely!!!



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