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Thundercloud 1358 reads
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As a person who has never been with an escort and who is retired, what do I have to do to be with an escort? Tried three things already. Called an escort, for a visit to my hotel, and she never showed up and never called. Called an agency and they wanted me to jump through all sorts of hoops to see one of their escorts including sending a money order by mail. Called DateCheck and asked them how I would get verified. They told me, sorry, we don't verify retired people. I was willing to provide them with all sorts of ID, photos, etc. Even personal references. I had ongoing top secret clearances in the Navy but somehow can't qualify to see an escort. Is this a joke?

I have no idea if any escorts require a verification process that does not exclude people who have never been with an escort and are retired. Obviously, if you are retired, you don't have employment references. Isn't a retired person one of the safest people an escort could see? And, I would think that a large percentage of the people seeking out escorts would be people who were retired. So, how do they do it?

I would seriously like advice on what I should do. Should I just call around to the TER rated escorts to see if any one of them will accept me? Are there agencies out there that would agree to verify me fairly easily? What type of verification would satisfy them? By the way, I'm in North Central Florida equidistant from Tampa, Orlando, and Jacksonville.  

I do believe that the Massage Parlors would not require a maze of verification. However, not sure I want to go in that direction.

Thank you in advance for any assistance provided.

They usually have screening methods for people who are not currently employed, and should be able to get you through the process with some other documentation/steps. P411 also lists if providers see clients with no references, one reference, etc, so look for newbie friendly providers. Once you get 1-2 references you're good to go!

I don't fully understand the ins and outs of verification processes of different agencies but I do understand WHY they do it.
I'm thinking that ANY veteran, retired or not, should be given special consideration  

Btw, thank you for your service

D.

There are many who never came back or came back in pieces. I feel very lucky to have come back in one piece. Unfortunately, I just don't think that providers or the agencies care one way or another if you are ex military. And, if the truth be know, they probably shouldn't. There are an awful lot of people who make sacrifices in other ways.  

Thanks for the kind words.  

Posted By: Demcc3
I don't fully understand the ins and outs of verification processes of different agencies but I do understand WHY they do it.  
 I'm thinking that ANY veteran, retired or not, should be given special consideration  
   
 Btw, thank you for your service  
   
 D.

Veterans can be douche bags too. They get screened just the same as any john.

jnforyou323 reads

Well said Thundercloud.  Be safe & enjoy the fruits of the foundation laid down for us by so many.

...The replies you've received here are good ones. I recommend you do a search on this board for all your previous questions and follow the advice given. P411 is one of the answers you received several months ago. Nothing has changed since the last time you asked about this. It's time to play ball or get out of the game. Had you asked something new I'd have more for you but it seems you just keep asking the same questions wanting different answers.  

Thank you for your service. It's time to make an executive decision using the decision making skills that served you well back then.

GaGambler313 reads

Many of us have given the OP very good advice for months, He is now must have at least a hundred posts, and never does he seem to take the good advice he has been given. Millions of us have served in the armed forces, simply being a veteran does not give you the right to be a douche.

Thundercloud, if you really want advice, please try following some of the great advice that so many here have gone out of their way to give you, otherwise please just go away and leave us alone. Sorry, but that's as much "nice" as I have left for this particular poster.

I don't know what advice you gave me that is specific to what I just stated. I called a TER verified provider and she never showed up. I called a TER verified agency and they wanted me to Fedex a money order before they would even talk to me. I called Date Check and they don't verify retired people. What other "good" advice am I supposed to take?  

By the way, calling me a "douche" simply shows the shallow individual you are. Kind of like a 10 year old pulling a temper tantrum. Now, if I could "leave you alone" I certainly would. But, just like STD's you keep coming back. I suggest if you don't like the messages that I post then, by all means, you can just "go away" yourself. You are not the board monitor even though somehow you seem to think you are. Now you all have a nice day Mr. Ga Ga Gambler.  

Posted By: GaGambler
Many of us have given the OP very good advice for months, He is now must have at least a hundred posts, and never does he seem to take the good advice he has been given. Millions of us have served in the armed forces, simply being a veteran does not give you the right to be a douche.  
   
 Thundercloud, if you really want advice, please try following some of the great advice that so many here have gone out of their way to give you, otherwise please just go away and leave us alone. Sorry, but that's as much "nice" as I have left for this particular poster.

...the free 6 months membership. You would need to have seen some providers in order to qualify but it's there. I don't believe you ever responded to me.

However, it's clear you were told about P411. As I said the same questions but wanting different answers. It's time to fish or cut bait.

I think that I had mentioned I have never been with a provider and I am retired.  

HOW TO BECOME A MEMBER
All client applicants are screened, either through escort references or very discreet employment verification.  

There is a yearly $129.00 US dollar membership fee.  

VERIFICATION PROCESS
Before approving your membership, we are going to confirm that you are a legitimate client. We will either check your escort references or discreetly verify your employment.  

If you are not prepared to provide this information, or if we cannot verify your information to our satisfaction, you will not be given a Preferred411 membership and your membership fee will be forfeited.

...P411 (but not just my posts) you will find information about P411 having an 800 number listed on their web site. You can call that number and actually talk to someone about what information they can use to verify you. P411 has the reputation of working with guys to get them verified. (Hell, most of us are retired. I'm retired and I had been for 4 years when I got screened in about 10 minutes to see my first provider at one of the Top agencies in my city.)

This information is posted regularly on this board. Search P411 (aka Preferred 411) here you can't possibly miss it. If nothing else search by my handle as author and set the number of days to something like 400, 500, or some such.

I can't believe you didn't find this info in all this time if you tried.

Please note nothing you said here is new and nothing anyone else here has said is new. You need to take the bull by the horns and get with it.  

If P411 costs too much then give your info to an agency that you have researched and is trustworthy and see some of their ladies. The agency you tried isn't among those I would consider based on their pay up front request.  

I don't know what city your in and it may be slim pickings there but there has to be an agency or independent that can work with you. Frankly if you're going to spend $300, $400, or more for an hour with an escort the $129 for P411 is cheap to be sure it goes well.

That's all I have. The info you need is here now use it or not, the decision is yours

Posted By: Thundercloud
I don't know what advice you gave me that is specific to what I just stated. I called a TER verified provider and she never showed up. I called a TER verified agency and they wanted me to Fedex a money order before they would even talk to me. I called Date Check and they don't verify retired people. What other "good" advice am I supposed to take?
First of all, thank you for your service.

One thing that transitions a hobbyist from a newbie to experienced is following instructions.  People recommended P411 to you, and said they do have a way of verifying retired people.  It's a robust, reliable operation.  Then why not try P411 for a while?  If you live in or near Chicago, or visit often, RS2K is another good, less-costly option ($50 lifetime membership).

And honestly, FedEx'ing a money order to *speak* to an agency sounds really fishy.  That's one instruction I would not follow.  (Unless they're running it like a private club, which I've never seen before).  Talking to an agency has always been free, in my experience.  The only payment came in the form of the donation to their provider upon arriving at her incall.

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Appreciate your thank you, however one never needs thanks for helping to protect their country.

The money order shipment was to be sent to their home office and was part of the verification process with no guarantee of verification. I just didn't think that the hassle was worth it and the possibility of losing $500.  

I believe that P411 costs $120 for one year membership. The fact that I didn't need it for one year and not being sure that they would verify me. Don't they have the same policy on not verifying retired people? I'm in Florida where there are fewer options than the larger cities have.  

However, I will do an in depth check of the P411 requirements for verification.  

Posted By: I_like_escorts
Posted By: Thundercloud
I don't know what advice you gave me that is specific to what I just stated. I called a TER verified provider and she never showed up. I called a TER verified agency and they wanted me to Fedex a money order before they would even talk to me. I called Date Check and they don't verify retired people. What other "good" advice am I supposed to take?
 First of all, thank you for your service.  
   
 One thing that transitions a hobbyist from a newbie to experienced is following instructions.  People recommended P411 to you, and said they do have a way of verifying retired people.  It's a robust, reliable operation.  Then why not try P411 for a while?  If you live in or near Chicago, or visit often, RS2K is another good, less-costly option ($50 lifetime membership).  
   
 And honestly, FedEx'ing a money order to *speak* to an agency sounds really fishy.  That's one instruction I would not follow.  (Unless they're running it like a private club, which I've never seen before).  Talking to an agency has always been free, in my experience.  The only payment came in the form of the donation to their provider upon arriving at her incall.

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Do you have a strong online presence that can be verified?  For example a solid profile on LinkedIn?  

One of your mistakes was calling an escort and expecting them to show up.  It takes time to verify someone.  Find a provider you are interested in seeing.  One that is newbie friendly.  Provide them your real name, phone number, etc.  Give them time to verify you.  It is really not that difficult.

Now if you have minimal online presence and are retired.  That might be a bit tougher but others have given you suggestions.

The escort that I called talked to me for a couple of minutes and verified that I was staying at the Residence Inn under my real name. Had both the hotel number and my cell phone number. She made an appointment to come to my room by 8 PM. Never arrived and never called. I did not call her back because I'm not going to chase after an escort that apparently doesn't want to see me.  

I have made contact with a private escort agency in Tampa that knows my situation and says they will work with me on verification.  

It just gets my goat that it is such a difficult process. In the days of Google I can't imagine it's very difficult to research someone, especially if you have their full name, address, and home telephone number.  

This weekend I am going to do what you suggest and call some TER verified escorts to see if any will accept me. I will let you know, OK. Thanks.

Posted By: WilliamKidd
Do you have a strong online presence that can be verified?  For example a solid profile on LinkedIn?    
   
 One of your mistakes was calling an escort and expecting them to show up.  It takes time to verify someone.  Find a provider you are interested in seeing.  One that is newbie friendly.  Provide them your real name, phone number, etc.  Give them time to verify you.  It is really not that difficult.  
   
 Now if you have minimal online presence and are retired.  That might be a bit tougher but others have given you suggestions.

Prepayment to get verified is a red flag -- avoid! Given your difficulties and the comments here, I'm guessing that you either haven't inquired much at all or you're limiting your search to your rural area which doesn't have many options. Cast a wider net by searching and booking in a major metropolitan area.

Actually Orlando is a pretty big city. However, I may be going about this all wrong. Think I should just get on the telephone and call the TER reviewed escorts, that I may be interested in, in the Orlando or Tampa area. I've been very reluctant to do that as I did not have all of my T's crossed and I's dotted. I also have to be careful as I have a family.  

Posted By: cocktail-party
Prepayment to get verified is a red flag -- avoid! Given your difficulties and the comments here, I'm guessing that you either haven't inquired much at all or you're limiting your search to your rural area which doesn't have many options. Cast a wider net by searching and booking in a major metropolitan area.  

Forget the phone it is not your friend initially.  If you look most providers say they prefer an email or to fill out their online form.

Find a provider or two that you are interested in.  Go to their website.  Go to their booking page.  Provide the requested information.  Wait for them to confirm or reject you.

You mentioned that you provided your name, phone, and hotel information to a provider.  How is this verification?  This does not show that you are not trouble or LE.  It simply demonstrates that the name you gave them and the name you gave the hotel are the same.  You can check into a hotel under a pseudonym.

Just to reiterate.  FORGET THE PHONE.  Nobody uses them to talk to other people anymore.  Having a family is even better of a reason to use online forms and email.  Just remember to setup a separate login or VM or utilize some other method to secure your actions.

Posted By: Thundercloud
Actually Orlando is a pretty big city. However, I may be going about this all wrong. Think I should just get on the telephone and call the TER reviewed escorts, that I may be interested in, in the Orlando or Tampa area. I've been very reluctant to do that as I did not have all of my T's crossed and I's dotted. I also have to be careful as I have a family.    
   
Posted By: cocktail-party
Prepayment to get verified is a red flag -- avoid! Given your difficulties and the comments here, I'm guessing that you either haven't inquired much at all or you're limiting your search to your rural area which doesn't have many options. Cast a wider net by searching and booking in a major metropolitan area.  

If the ladies your are most interested are among the the most in-demand in your area, then it's likely that they will have more stringent screening standards. You may have to see a few ladies further down the list in order to get the requisite references that will open the door to a broader playing field.  

It's a fairly simple process to get in the door, and I still scratch my head when I read about some of the difficulties some experience. Simply check whatever availability she has posted and send a polite, friendly and brief(!) email stating something to the effect of, "Dear ____, I'm interested in scheduling a (duration) appointment with you at (specific date/time). If that's not available, I'm flexible to meet at (alternate dates/times). I'm retired and this would be my first ever meeting. Are you willing to meet with me? What might you require for screening? Thank you!"  

That should be enough to elicit a response. Not asking for a specific date or writing a long personal essay may get your message dropped in the junk folder.

Thanks to all who replied with usable information. However, I think I'm irritating a couple of people so, will take the advice I've been given and get off this TER forum for good.

If you plan on seeing professional and hot providers then I would sign up for P411 and get a VIP membership for TER. This allows you to PM (private message) ladies directly as well as communicate with hobbyist who can provide you with some background and help. Good Luck.

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