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maxdogooder 1248 reads
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What are some signs that someone is addicted to the hobby?

I am relatively new to the hobby, I have seen 6 providers since the beginning of May/2015. I am reading through this board quite a few times a day (every-time I touch a computer basically). I am an independent contractor so I could be using the times on this board drumming up business. I am averaging about seeing a provider once a week or once every two weeks. I have the urge to see them more often of course. After each session, I always want to see another provider right away (the next day). Luckily for me the stars usually do not line up for a next day meeting.  

I am not sure if this is just all new and like a kid in a candy store feeling that it would subside? Or should I set a limit for myself quickly?

If participation begins to create problems with the way you want to live your life in terms of running out of money, not spending time with family, and most of all, feeling a compulsion that is not driven from desire but from mania, then you are in too deep.

There are councilors and organizations similar to AA (Sexaholics Anonymous) who can help you if you feel it necessary.

With some people the desire fades, but then there are others like myself who are still going strong after almost 40 years of this.

GaGambler246 reads

We all know that you have been at this for OVER 40 years, just like me. lol

and yes, after over forty years of doing this, I not only feel like calling another lady the day after having a session, I usually do exactly that and call another woman within a day or two, Or when on vacation, later that same day.

Personally, I just don't see a problem with wanting to have sex everyday. I think most guys want to get laid everyday, just because I don't want a GF or SO to take care of my needs like most "normal" guys doesn't mean I should deprive myself of a decent sex life. (Ok, maybe a bit more than "decent") lol

Like any exciting new endeavor, it's easy to allow yourself to be consumed by it for a while. Try to set some limits re: time/money spent and if you find yourself continually compelled to overstep those limits, then you might have a problem. For example, this is "entertainment" - if you're missing your mortgage payment to see a lady, you have a problem. If you're skipping out on your daughter's dance recital to see a lady, you have a problem.

I wish my body could recover to 100% in 24 hrs ;-) lol

I was kinda curious about the whole escort experience. Used to be on TER everyday  to gain some knowledge but its been almost 6 months I came on to this board.  Depends on your personality. I loose interest pretty quickly and move onto different things... Have fun and stay safe  
 

Posted By: maxdogooder
What are some signs that someone is addicted to the hobby?  
   
 I am relatively new to the hobby, I have seen 6 providers since the beginning of May/2015. I am reading through this board quite a few times a day (every-time I touch a computer basically). I am an independent contractor so I could be using the times on this board drumming up business. I am averaging about seeing a provider once a week or once every two weeks. I have the urge to see them more often of course. After each session, I always want to see another provider right away (the next day). Luckily for me the stars usually do not line up for a next day meeting.    
   
 I am not sure if this is just all new and like a kid in a candy store feeling that it would subside? Or should I set a limit for myself quickly?

TheApe319 reads

Everyone gets real excited in the beginning.   At a certain point, you will slow down and have a rotation of favorites that you see.     I suggest that if you are married, this should be a once a month treat.  Have a line up of about five escorts you can rotate so you never see anyone twice in a row.    

If you are single, and making a good income you could do this like once a week.  However, I think that for it to make sense you would want to cut out some of your social spending in other areas and make sure your career and financial goals are not being thrown off.  

If I were single doing this, I probably would not date and party as much as I did back then.   Dating, partying and doing this hobby can prevent you for advancing professionally and financially.   Keep the priorities in order.  

Psychological tip is that you do not want the hobby to become routine.  You want it to stay exciting.   Overdoing can make it boring and you also run into the danger of getting into a pseudo relationship with a provider that will certainly go sour.  The beauty of this hobby is that once a relationship with a provider starts to deteriorate, you are not obligated to see or contact her ever again and she is not in the position to complain.   It is good to keep some distance.

GaGambler262 reads

while not everything you say is false, it's certainly not true for everybody

I have been doing this for decades and I do NOT have a rotation of favorites that I see

I am happily divorced and I see a LOT more than one lady a week, and I have not cut back on my other social spending. I will agree to NOT let this throw off your career or spend more than you can afford, My point is, you have no idea how much he can afford.

This hobby takes up a LOT less time than do dating and partying, that's one of it's great positives, you can work 80 hours a week and still get laid as much as you want without having a bored GF or wife up your ass for not spending enough time with her

and not all relationships with hookers are "pseudo relationships" and not all of them end badly. My breakups with  hooker GF's have been a lot less drama filled than with civvie chicks.

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