To clarify something, the email she didn't respond to wasn't me asking for a reference, it was me asking to schedule a session as I was visiting my hometown at the time. Now I'm back at my new home and in need of a reference to see anybody around here.
I didn't even realize I had a whitelist from her; does that count as a "reference"?So I'm still new at all of this; I've only had 2 sessions thus far and both with the same provider. Due to a lack of foresight I never bothered asking her for a reference, mostly because I was so comfortable with her that I figured I would just keep going to her anyway. Our last session was roughly 9 months ago and I've since moved to another part of the country; one where I can't seem to find any newbie friendly providers I would be interested in seeing. To make things more complicated; I recently went to visit my hometown and tried to schedule something with her but she never responded to my email. I thought our time together went great; I was always kind and respectful and left a generous tip, and I never tried to communicate with her about anything other than business; I thought we had good chemistry for sure. I can't really imagine why she would ignore my email and am inclined to believe she simply never saw it for whatever reason.
Anyway, I guess I'm wondering if it would be in really bad taste to try contacting her again just to ask for a reference? It's been so long since I saw her; I can't say whether she would even remember me or not, and I don't want to pester her. Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with this predicament?
As for getting references, try a two-fold track:
1. Join a screening service such at P411
2. See a newbie friendly provider even if she is not ideal. It could be worth it for the reference.
Good luck, and I hope this works out for you
Many escorts will only give a reference if you've seen them in the last 6 months.
Anyway, I guess I'm wondering if it would be in really bad taste to try contacting her again just to ask for a reference? It's been so long since I saw her; I can't say whether she would even remember me or not, and I don't want to pester her. Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with this predicament?
There's a possibility she missed it, so a retry is ok. But, that's it.
...more time and remind her that you saw her twice but then moved out of town and that's the reason you haven't seen her for so long.
It's also possible she left the business but never bothered to take down her profile.
There have been several times that I have sent a second email to a provider after a no reply, and she's indicated that she never received the first email. But after the second attempt, cut bait and move on if she still doesn't reply.
If you feel uncomfortable about that, or if you think she might, you can always assure her that you're really looking forward to seeing her again someday. That way it's not like a good bye. Besides, after seeing some other providers you might feel like seeing her again once in a while.
Or join RS2K or P411. If you can do that, we really appreciate those memberships!
You say you've only seen one lady, albeit twice. You have one review of one lady so I'm assuming that's your lone experience.
That lady is a very popular and busy lady so your email might have slipped by. Also, "scheduling a real meeting" and "taking a meeting" are probably higher priorities than "providing a reference". So, don't take offense.
I am almost positive that the lady you saw is the namesake of a well known NYC agency (although she is, herself, indy). My longshot suggestion is for you to contact Courtney at that agency (by email or phone) and ask her to ask the lady to check for your request and reply with a reference or an actual "no". Now, maybe Courtney will say that she hasn't been in direct contact with the lady in years, but maybe they're still in friendly contact and she can help you out.
I don't want to post the agency or specifics so if you can't figure it out, contact me by PM for more info.
Other than that, I suggest you just move on and make a new start in your new location. Ask your local board for advice or recommendations for newbie (although you do have a Whitelist from a well known lady) friendly providers.
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To clarify something, the email she didn't respond to wasn't me asking for a reference, it was me asking to schedule a session as I was visiting my hometown at the time. Now I'm back at my new home and in need of a reference to see anybody around here.
I didn't even realize I had a whitelist from her; does that count as a "reference"?
...the white list can be a reference. Some providers consider a white list as a reference some don't and some will consider it as part of what they need to know when screening a prospective client. It can't hurt.
I'd contact the lady that white listed you and let her know you are going to use her as a reference. Put Reference as the subject of the e-mail and say your using her white listing as a reference and let her know she may be contacted by a provider regarding your appointment request.
Consider this too if the white list is more than 6 months old some providers won't accept it as a reference because they want all references to be more recent than that.
I do recommend as a previous poster did you should look into Preferred 411 (P411). Call the 800 number on their site and talk to them about being verified and then join. Look for the ones on the site that state they are Newbie friendly. See some of them then get them to give you OK's and go from there. Search here for more information on P411.
No PM from you so you must have figured out the agency she used to operate.
A Whitelist approval is helpful but not the same or as good as a direct reference. It is merely an acknowledgement that a date took place and the parties left and went their separate ways. It says nothing about your manners, appearance, body odor, comportment, punctuality, "size", hair / bald / toupee, bad breath, ... anything else that a potential hostess might want to ask about you ahead of time. A Whitelist is a non-specific "he's okay" without the details that some prospective dates want to know
I am leaning towards the idea of moving on since you're in a new area and it's been a decent amount of time since you last saw her. Also consider that she is a very popular provider and only having two dates with her she (no offense) may not remember you. However, contacting the agency how a previous poster suggested would work well too. Either way, good luck with things.
Here's something that I've been wondering for myself. After how many dates is it appropriate to ask for a reference?
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No one is the wiser, and no one can control it. It just is. Email is not 100% reliable
If you don't get a response, pick up the phone!
...is preoccupied with a pressing family matter right now so responding to your email isn't the top priority on her to do list