I only agree with number 10. I would marry her again. The rest is from men of some other planet.
Article titled "Surprising Truths FROM Men about Love, Marriage, Sex and Commitment" and gives 10 Listed items (www.redbookmag.com). Almost all of these 10 listed items conflict greatly with anything I've ever seen here, or in life. (Be sure to read all 10). What are YOUR thoughts?
I only agree with number 10. I would marry her again. The rest is from men of some other planet.
They say men like married sex and then say 27% say its fun. That's 73% who say otherwise.
...(not so say "self-selected") population from men who shop for women and use TER as their L.L. Bean catalogue. Not surprising that the "truths" would differ, too.
I answered true for 8 out of the 10.
The only ones I answered false were 5 (I'm obviously not faithful) and 6 (Infidelity by my wife would not be a deal breaker.)
With the exception of 5 and 6, these are the kind of obvious things most folks would expect out of marriage, and should be easy to get if both partners try hard enough. Items 5 and 6 confuse love and sex, I think.
I was in a very long line at the store yesterday and one woman (2 ahead of me) was saying to the lady behind her, and me that she saw that Ben & Jerry's had come out with an ice cream flavor called "Caramel Sutra" - wasn't that hilarious, creative? The other lady looked at her, and me with that Carole Channing wide-eyed, clueless look and said she didn't get it. Like Kama Sutra! She still didn't get it. We explained it. She'd never heard of it (I'm guessing she was in her late 50's or older, attractive Country Club looking woman). Gee, I'll have to ask my husband she said..Wonder if he knows what it is..
"The 1,055 husbands who answered our survey understand just how lucky they are to have found a life partner."
There are many women's magazines a guy might look through (to see hot women), but Redbook is NOT one of them.
If a man is filling out a survey from Redbook magazine, you can bet your ass his wife is standing over him while he's doing it.
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Magazines will do whatever it takes to make money. Just most of them don't stretch it as far as the National Enquirer so they can ensure they keep the more intelligient audience.
Odd they didn't ask any divorced guys what they thought. Where do they hide these elusive happy husbands?
I don't actually know any hobbyists, except one who is retired. But I also don't know any "men" who ead Redbook. The only time I'll glance at a woman's magazine is to see if they have any clue when they're giving our wives sex advice (sometimes they do actually). So I'm not sure who actually responded to this survey and if it would hold up to any scrutiny. But I can think of 2 guys I know who might answer those questions along with the majority in their study. Most of us would not have answered that way.
Human sexuality is difficult to study at any rate, and requires a lot of scientific discipline to get any facts. The main problem is that people aren't too truthful about it and most scientific studies are based on the assumption that they will be truthful.
I consider this survey to be worthless for real information. Not only was there no science to it, but Redbook also has to appeal to their readers, the vast majority of whom need the fantasy of the wonderful monogamous man and will buy magazines en masse to have that fantasy confirmed or bolstered.
Also, since it wasn't scientfic, there was nothing at stake if they deliberately biased the survey to that end. I mean, nobody is going to cite Redbook for lack of journalistic integrity over this article.
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of crap. I'm not just talking hobbyists, I'm talking all the men I've ever known, ever worked with, etc.- don't equal this survey. And I'm curious. What kind of survey? How do these men take the survey? I agree - wife must have been standing nearby, tapping her fingers. One of my sisters shared that with me because I'm always saying otherwise and so she sent that to me as I'm sure an "I told you so", but AS IF this proves anything!
It's sold as "science" and it's the opposite of scientific. I have posted before how the media will first encourage women that monogamy must be their goal, and then support the illusions they need to feel always that it is the right, if not the only choice. This is an example.
When social conservatives complain the media is liberal, they just don't see how much they owe the media.