I thought I'd turn this question around. Look at how many lives have been ruined by it! Going home and seeing the same woman/man every night for 30 years. If that's not a sign of a compulsion, I don't know what is. And the expenses to your life!
Monogamy resembles addiction. To many, monogamy is an attachment thatis strong enough to make a person be true to their mate. Then the counter question might be, is LOVE a form of addiction? What we do know when certain kinds of affliation create chemical reactions in all of us (that great boner when you meet a nice provider). Do you enjoy playing cards with your buddies more than a moonlight walk with your SO? The drug that gets moved when were in certain situations of affiliation may have more to do with how we respond to such questions; at least more than many of us want to give it credit. If love is an addiction, then is monogamy a genuine feeling, or just an effect from the ‘drug’ in our heads?
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A light little gem to take with you on a lazy Saturday is "A General Theory of Love" by Thomas Lewis MD, Fari Amini MD, & Richard Lannon MD. Only about 200 pages, so you can tackle it in an afternoon.
Can I borrow your copy baby?
Sure. Give me your home address and I'll make a delivery. 
Send me your e-mail addy and I will invite you over for tea and our first book club meeting. After we read a few chapters of 'Choke' with a little side commentary, we can hit the hotub, shower, and end our afternoon with one of your awesome massages. How does Monday sound?
that I may weigh 400 lbs and be covered in hives?? lol.
Sure, you can email me at [email protected] for non-commercial, purely friendly, social purposes.
You forgot to add that. Hehe. Just being helpful.
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I don't know...I was married for 17 years, and it just got better, and hotter, and sweetly funkier. I didn't know I was battling a coke addiction for way too long-it won!!
I rarely saw him in the same light, or move....spice it up, with someone you trust.
She can be your hobbyist-both parties can be playful. take an elevator up to a reallly high floor somewhere-lose the shorts, and whisper that in her ear!! or skinny dip at midnight as you camp around a lake.....freefall w/her!
Take care,
Erb
ABORIGINAL/Matriarchal: hunter-gatherer > limited prospects for survival> no acumulation of wealth = promiscuity the social norm[Kritayuga]
PASTORAL/Clanship: domestication of animals (cattle) > improved prospects for survival > beginnings of property accumulation = clanship marriage (Gotra)
Agricultural/Patriarchal: demise of the hunter gatherer> rise of the farmer> survival now is goddam easy!> lots of wealth and property accumulation that naturally belongs to the ones (males) who stole it = decline of polyandry & rise of monogamy [Mahabhara]
BTW - the rise of monogamy and marriage in the Hindu culture has nothing to do with love - a peculiarly dysfunctional western concept.
In case you are wondering - I am now happily married for 35 years to the love of my life whom I romance daily with flowers, candles, poetry, dance, sweet talk, foreplay (lots of foreplay!) and wild monkey sex. Everything of value requires a little elbow-grease - I guarantee that you will not become bored with that which you create and recreate anew!
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