look for is if he looks and smells clean. I never know what the guy will look like, I just try to have good energy for both parties. I will usually welcome a client with a smile/hug maybe more depending on his body language towards me. Usually, he will place the donation on the counter so the fun can begin.
When meeting a client for the very first time, what does a provider look for (or expect to see) when the door opens? In most cases, men will have done research and know what the woman looks like. For the woman, she may not have any idea what her date looks like but must instantaneously make a judgment and proceed accordingly. It's obviously an acquired skill in assessing human nature and the best providers have perfected it. Anyone care to share?
Someone who knows how to use a shower and isn't afraid to use it. Someone who is respectful of her and her time who doesn't ask inappropriate questions and knows how to count so she doesn't get shorted on her rate. A breath mint is a nice touch too.
In my personal experience, anyone who's prettier than I am is someone with whom I usually don't click.
The conventionally-handsome men have usually been very difficult, but maybe that's just me.
A couple of other ladies have told me they don't like doing appointments with someone to whom they are very physically attracted, because that is someone they would want to date or hook-up with IRL. And that's just an uncomfortable feeling
it means I'm heinous looking
The conventionally-handsome, or pretty-boy types, have a higher probability of being "difficult", in my own personal experience.... but that doesn't make the reverse true.
My favorite clients are my favorites because of their personalities, the fact that we have stuff in common to talk about, and there's that certain indefinable chemistry that has nothing to do with looks. None of them are models, but none are bad-looking, either.
As to the chemistry thing....I just met someone yesterday where the sexual electricity was just ON from the moment he walked in the door... and we were going at it like horny teenagers who couldn't get enough from each other. Average looks, we didn't really talk so I can't speak to his personality or whether or not we have anything in common, but man oh man it was HOT and I hope I see him again sometime. There's just no faking THAT. ;-
In my case I want someone that actually have read the etiquette page on my website. Arrive clean, (or willing to take a shower), leave the donation with out me asking for it, leaves with out me kicking them out. LO
Those things are pretty easy and should go without saying.
I would venture to include arriving right on time and taking a few moments to introduce yourself while looking into your eyes. Also, be smiling (but not too much, lol).
Mostly, be sincere and "yourself". Don't put on airs or try to impress the lady in some unusual or unnatural way. Also, of course, be respectful, kind, and perhaps have a lite tone and some humor in your conversations. I think most girls like a guy who can make them laugh (among other things).
look for is if he looks and smells clean. I never know what the guy will look like, I just try to have good energy for both parties. I will usually welcome a client with a smile/hug maybe more depending on his body language towards me. Usually, he will place the donation on the counter so the fun can begin.
And I applaude and appreciate the women that are willing to put themselves out there to the gents who show up. Yes, we hope we know what will be behind the green door. We can do the research and photo searches, but the women don't have that option. And for them to accept us, and get intimate with us, is a true blessing.
I know I could not be a provider, willing to pleasure any person that showed up.
Thank you Ladies.
We may have a picture in our head... but for most, it is the conversation before. We tend to be skilled at relaxing anyone.
I don't truly care if you are 40 or 80, long as I enjoy you and you enjoy me.
As long as you are clean and polite, we don't care!!! I'd give a nice guy over any guy that could please me anyday!!!
Clean, respectful and on time, I am totally fine with him! I do not judge based on clothing because I know that the richest man can be in rags, just as the poorest can be dressed up in a suit. What I expect is to be greeted with a warm, inviting smile and a hug that insinuates that you are excited to be here and looking forward to spending time together. That's all I ask for.
I always make sure I shower and shave before meeting a provider. I'm not a sharp dressed looking guy. But make sure I wear clean clothes. I put the provider at ease and make sure I watch what I say. I respect her limits and never do what she's not comfortable doing.
I do get a lot of ideas of how a person might look from their board persona, and I have been dreadfully inaccurate far more times than I can count. For one, I thought this Chicago guy who posts a lot would be an ethnic guy under 30... he was a 67 yr. old white dude lol. For another, I assumed a muscle bound hot head would show up and he looked more like the guy from Full House (Danny).
Areas like NYC and Cleveland are famous for ushering in guys who show up in suits to the appt. and nothing turns me on more... I love a man who can dress! Regardless of how unattractive a man might be, if he can dress well the point scale just went from a 6 to a 9. Not that it matters here, but just saying.
I get guys from all walks of life... some have to show up in Gym or Golf clothes because that is how they got out of the house, some right after work, some actually coming from a run, etc. I don't much care as long as they are shower fresh.