First of all, you really don't truly know this person that may accompany you for perhaps a week? Thus, it's a good idea to spend at least an overnight or a couple of days together to see how that goes.
Some people might be taking anti-depressants, insulin for diabetes, or any other type of medicine that you may not know about. That in of itself is not a concern for me, but she does need to manage those things without any major issues or problems. So a day or two together would be a good "test". Chemistry is a vague word often tossed about on these boards. But that concept IS very important. Specifically, ask yourself if you both enjoy talking to each other, are you able to make her laugh, and most importantly--are you able to just be yourselves and still have a great and w onderful time together. And it would be a good idea to talk about your expectations on how much sex you are expecting. But don't be surprised if she is expecting more than you. Thart part is minor in my opinion. Lastly, extended visits or getaways are be wonderful and your memeries of such will last a lifetime. However, when it's over and you both return to your "real" lives, be prepared for that sudden change. And that is only a problem if you makeit one.
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I'm new to the hobby and looking to get feelings and advice from the members on extended visits and getaways. Do you ladies like extended visits and getaways. In choosing a extended visit or getaway companion if the chemistry seems right, what other criteria shall I use in deciding to invite a provider? Any all input is welcome.
Thanks
To Clubie, before trying an extended date/getaway with a provider, you should have a few short dates with her. You need to be sure that you have enough chemistry to spend extended time together.
LLAP,
Swim
I am not one of them. I reserve trips for men I have seen several times and really connect with, or it can turn into a nightmare for both parties. Much discussion over 'alone time' and expectations (sexual and otherwise) need to be taken into consideration. It's not a given that she's on the clock 24/7 and can't have a moment to use the bathroom, get ready etc. and the same goes for the client. I do not take trips with men who are needy and want to be up my ass every minute but some women seem to like that. You need to do a dinner date or overnight before you just invite some provider on vacation for 3 days... trust me.
I agree that much discussion should take place in alone time, expectations and how many times you have been together. As far as men that are needy, this may be a whole new thread in itself. To begin, with if he is not needy, why would he be taking a provider with him in the first place? I believe the hobby is full of needy people on both sides of it. Yes some more than others, but needy none the less.
I have to agree with the consensus that you should be very selective in who you invite for any multi day trips.
You should also make sure that you are on the same page where it comes to "how much sex" "how much actual sleep" "alone time" and any other issues that might be important.
There are other things that can make or break a trip as well, things like "are one or both of you drinkers?" It's rare that a drunk and a teetotaler are on the same page where it comes to an evening out. Another thing to ask is are you/her a "wings and beer" or "champagne and caviar" type of person. Or can you float comfortably between the two?
First of all, you really don't truly know this person that may accompany you for perhaps a week? Thus, it's a good idea to spend at least an overnight or a couple of days together to see how that goes.
Some people might be taking anti-depressants, insulin for diabetes, or any other type of medicine that you may not know about. That in of itself is not a concern for me, but she does need to manage those things without any major issues or problems. So a day or two together would be a good "test".
Chemistry is a vague word often tossed about on these boards. But that concept IS very important. Specifically, ask yourself if you both enjoy talking to each other, are you able to make her laugh, and most importantly--are you able to just be yourselves and still have a great and w onderful time together.
And it would be a good idea to talk about your expectations on how much sex you are expecting. But don't be surprised if she is expecting more than you. Thart part is minor in my opinion.
Lastly, extended visits or getaways are be wonderful and your memeries of such will last a lifetime. However, when it's over and you both return to your "real" lives, be prepared for that sudden change. And that is only a problem if you make
it one.
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Very well said. Having little experience in extended and getaways. I couldn't agree with you more especially with how many dates the two of you have been on and are you able to fully be yourself. If not you are headed for a unpleasant time.
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I joke, of course, but still be sure it is a very well reviewed gal.
The idea of starting with longer daytime session and then an overnight leading to a long weekend, and then a week long or whatever is the best advice.
life on the road with someone you come to find that you don't like can be hell.
And as for the kidney thing, what the hell, you have two of them anyways.
But when one is gone, we have to be very,very careful.
the MOST memorable days of my life!!! Not just the hobby, but my LIFE!!!
I totally agree with previous posters about progressive dates, and "chemistry", and all the other caveats. But, when all those stars line up - WOW!!! SHAZZZAM!!! What an INCREDIBLE experience