I am very happily divorced, and I don't try to hide my whore mongering from anyone. Others of course are in much different situations and bringing hookers home is not such a great idea for them.
I'm not a "newbie".. but this is a new idea to me.. I'm curious about the thought others may have about having a provider do an outcall to my home. I'm a trusting person... Pretty much all of the girls I have met are top shelf with no issues. and frankly I am thinking about asking someone I have already been with to come to my house for an outcall instead of the regular trip to their hotel, etc..
So, just curious is all.. Thoughts?
Thanks
I've had several come to my place, it's never been a problem. Just make sure your place is neat and clean. It's also helpful to set a warm and inviting ambiance.
I also make sure to have fresh linen available for her afterwards. Small gestures like that help if you want her to return again.
I do it all the time, but if you are married I would STRONGLY recommend you never bring a hooker into your "marital bed" women can smell another woman and you are just begging for problems.
I am sure I've done it dozens if not hundreds of times without any problems, and if you are single I don't see why you can't do the same. Obviously you only want to bring a person into your home that you trust, and I would leave my expensive jewelry laying around, but that's just common sense stuff that applies to any guest in your home.
What other words of wisdom that you have would be welcomed
I would treat her as another other date/guest that I would have to my home. As you mentioned, making sure the place is clean can not be overstated, a lady who is clean herself is likely to think that your personal hygiene is suspect if you invite her into a pig sty.
I lucked out, as my experiences went well. Looking back, it probably wasn't the smartest move for either of us. Thank goodness we both were good people. Be careful if you're thinking about doing this, but enjoy if it works!
I recently invited to my home a well reviewed provider that I've been seeing for more than a year. I wanted to do something a bit different and special after one year. We totally trust each other. At first, she agreed. Then, as the day got closer, she declined.
Since I am married, there are lots of factors to consider, including the warnings from many on these boards. But she expressed concern about something that never even crossed my mind, but now makes a lot of sense. It was not about neighbors, leaving lingering scents, or the wife suddenly showing up.
She felt uncomfortable coming into my/our home because it was a feeling of intrusion on her part. Meeting away from my home and life was more okay because that only involved us, and OUR decisions on how to spend our time. Of course, we both recognize the "intrusion" of her into my life. However, everyone's situation and circumstances are unique to them and no one should judge.
I am grateful and glad she was willing to provide her concern and perspective; we should all realize that we are never too old or experienced to appreciate the thoughts and opinions of others.
In summary, we planned something even better for the occasion.
it's not a good idea. From what I have read, a SO will know if another woman has been in her house. Doesn't matter what you do to cover it up, she will know. If you want to do an outcall, you are better off renting a motel room for it. Stay there the night if you want to, just don't let her have the room after you're done with her.
LLAP,
Swim
I have to agree with Swim. Better off getting a motel room. If you invite her to your home (single or married) she knows where you live.
I am very happily divorced, and I don't try to hide my whore mongering from anyone. Others of course are in much different situations and bringing hookers home is not such a great idea for them.
out of the ten providers I have seen so far, I have only felt I know two well enough to have them to my place.
One lives in another state and the other has been to my place many times, all with excellent results. I saw her 11 times before inviting her to my place (but for much of the previous period I did not have my own place, because I was living with my wife at the time). Memories of our times together in my apartment makes my apartment much more comfortable.
When I was but a newbie, I saw a reputable, long time provider who gave me a few rules to hobby by and I've keep them near and dear to my heart:
NEVER bring a provider to your home, for any reason, whether you're single or married
Don't fall in love with a provider
Don't let one fall in love with you
Never use your real first name (ok, I've violated that one)
Have a hobby email account
Have a hobby phone number
All this is with the idea of protecting yourself down the road. Sure, you trust her today. But, what happens if her world crashes and she becomes desperate. Do you want her knocking on your door at 3am?
Always meet at a neutral location. IMHO
NEVER bring a provider to your home, for any reason, whether you're single or married
Don't fall in love with a provider
Don't let one fall in love with you
Never use your real first name (ok, I've violated that one)
Have a hobby email account
Have a hobby phone number
All this is with the idea of protecting yourself down the road. Sure, you trust her today. But, what happens if her world crashes and she becomes desperate. Do you want her knocking on your door at 3am?
Always meet at a neutral location. IMHO
Sincerely, a newbie.
That's a great question. Some providers may let an experienced hobbyist with many positive references to slide by with a partial name or alias. However, a newbie has no track record.
I, for one, would never agree to see "Joe Newbie" without thorough screening. That means a real name, and other verifiable information.
Don't believe everything that some hobbyists put out there. Many have an agenda to convert all newbies to their unrealistic approach. In the end, you must satisfy the lady's need to know... and you must decide whether you are willing to comply.
Question, If we are to never use our real name, what happens when the provider has to verify our work etc.? It's not like she could call and give them the false name. Just curious. Thanks..
Sincerely, a newbie.
Well there are a few hotties where it wouldn't bother me of course, but let me point out that it is much less likely that a hooker you fucked is going to shop up at your door uninvited than it is a civvie GF, and I don't see anyone giving advice not to let civvies know where you live.
I have had dozens of hookers to my home and none of them has ever shown up at my door without notice.
For the record I don't follow ANY of the rules given to you by this unknown hooker, and I have had a GREAT time with much less stress than I have had in my civvie love life. No never say never, rules that work for you don't always apply to everyone else.
I do agree that bringing another women into the bed you share with your wife is a HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE idea.