Anyone with a heart votes love.
If you really love her, then go for it. Just be prepared for the enevitable heartache that will follow. Any rules that you think might apply with a genetic female simply don't. Being involved with a provider is difficult because when you really start to develop feelings, it becomes very hard not to be jealous or to feel hurt when you realize that you are not their priority.
Men woven of my cloth find liberal consumption of alcohol, orgiastic intake of drugs, and stumbling inhebreated from bed to bed more fulfilling. Sometimes we become heartless, live and die bitter and alone, but we never suffer from the dreaded affliction love. We take solace in the knowledge that in the end the lover suffers the harsher fate: he fails, becomes heartless, lives and dies bitter and alone.
"Men woven of my cloth find liberal consumption of alcohol, orgiastic intake of drugs, and stumbling inhebreated from bed to bed more fulfilling. Sometimes we become heartless, live and die bitter and alone, but we never suffer from the dreaded affliction love. We take solace in the knowledge that in the end the lover suffers the harsher fate: he fails, becomes heartless, lives and dies bitter and alone."
Good times.....
"Good times....."
Sarcasm...
"Sarcasm..."
Correct...
The period key on your keyboard is stuck...
"The period key on your keyboard is stuck..."
So is yours...
Love is beatiful thing,You have nothing to think too much just go for it,do it, and get it... Really Nice to hear people fall in love, wow ++
Goodluck with your love and take care them well ...cheer ! s!.
Sara, that is so sweet. I agree but I fear that most people don't realise that love is a two way street. Hopefully when we meet we'll be in love for the hour we are together. Yours, Larry
Do it.
I did...with a very well-known provider too. The feeklings were mutual, but it just didn't last.
(more my baggage than hers).
She and I are still friends, and even intimate on occasion, but it's very difficult...but, sometimes even more difficult NOT to do it.
Best of luck.
TA
Best advice?
Go ahead and follow your heart if you are in love with a TS, but DON'T fall in love with a TS *ESCORT*. That's where all the trouble starts.
I love trouble. Trouble never sways me. It's the falling in love part that deters me. Now I realize such a relationship means loveless trouble I want one.
Good Advice.
However, to say don't fall in love with a TS ESCORT (while for the most part good advice),
puts the burden unfairly on the escort (as if
she is somehow unworthy of love), rather than on the would-be "boyfriend". As I found out, when the love is reciprocated, it gets only more difficult...not easier.
Fortunately for the two of us, there was sufficient maturity and understanding with both parties for a warm and enduring friendship to replace the "relationship". We enjoy one another's company, support and advise each other,
and have focused on helping each other be the best we can be at anything we set out to do,
whether together or individually.
In sum I feel each of us is better off today
for our paths having crossed than not...
TA
Re:Best Advice For The, "I'm Falling For A TS. What Should I Do?" Crowd
Posted by TheAviator, 9/15/2005 8:42:54 PM
Good Advice.
However, to say don't fall in love with a TS ESCORT (while for the most part good advice),
puts the burden unfairly on the escort (as if
she is somehow unworthy of love), rather than on the would-be "boyfriend". As I found out, when the love is reciprocated, it gets only more difficult...not easier.
Fortunately for the two of us, there was sufficient maturity and understanding with both parties for a warm and enduring friendship to replace the "relationship". We enjoy one another's company, support and advise each other,
and have focused on helping each other be the best we can be at anything we set out to do,
whether together or individually.
In sum I feel each of us is better off today
for our paths having crossed than not...
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I'm glad everything has worked out well for you TA. Of course escorts are worthy of love. I only meant that dating an escort has many built in problems that are not in a normal relationship. There are very few people that can deal with those particular problems.
The other day a friend on the street happened upon me. With wide eyes and enthusiasm he told me he found the love of his life and did not know how best to proceed. I listened to his boring tale which included the insipid details of their brief weekly meetings. A strange indignation came over me when he informed me that she works as the librarian at the library he frequents. He met her when returning late a hardcover. My well meaning advice to him was, "That woman can never return your love; she's there only to check out your books.". I sent him on his way much the wiser.
"The other day a friend on the street happened upon me. With wide eyes and enthusiasm he told me he found the love of his life and did not know how best to proceed. I listened to his boring tale which included the insipid details of their brief weekly meetings. A strange indignation came over me when he informed me that she works as the librarian at the library he frequents. He met her when returning late a hardcover. My well meaning advice to him was, "That woman can never return your love; she's there only to check out your books.". I sent him on his way much the wiser."
You're right. Having sex with lots of different guys and checking out books are very similar. What was I thinking???
I guess you think guys get just as jealous when their GF works with books as they do when their GF is having sex with other guys.
Silly me.
You assume all men get jealous. Those facts are not in evidence. You think too lowly of men. My ex was an escort. I met her on the job. Never did the fact she was an escort bother me. Escorting is a job, nothing more nothing less. The man who cannot handle the fact he was well aware of beforehand is the shortcoming, the shortcoming doesn't exist within the structure of the relationship. Your cause and effect is erroneous; it invalidates your conclusion.
I'm sorry, but you are incorrect. You assume NO men ever get jealous. That has not been my experience and not the experience of any of my friends. Jealousy is very much in evidence. I also think very highly of men... that's why I think they deserve better than what you think men deserve in a relationship. Unless both parties agree to an "open" relationship, it is disrespectful and unrealistic for the girl to expect and demand monogamy from their mate while not practicing the same. It also shows a lack of respect for the girl when the guy doesn't care who she sleeps with. It's true that a lot of men THINK they won't be bothered by their GF seeing other men, especially if she is the bread winner in the relationship, but sooner or later it becomes a major factor... as most normal people would expect it to be.
I think guys deserve SO MUCH MORE than what you expect to get. When I'm in a relationship, I make sure my guy is treated and respected like the most important person in the world... because to me, he is.
You assume that no men get jealous. That is erroneous, therefore it invalidates your entire conclusion.
GUYS DESERVE TO BE TREATED WELL !!!!!!
-- Modified on 9/17/2005 11:57:16 AM
Please reread carefully what I typed. I never said that no men get jealous. I said that I do not get jealous specifically. I also said if a man gets jealous the shortcoming is the man's, hence I recognize some men do become jealous. The shortcoming is not within the nature of the relationship. Some do get jealous, some do not. My conclusion still stands valid, your attemped refutation is unsound as you do not understand my counterargument. Your argument in that the cause of failure lie within the nature of the relationship is still invalid. You're still synonymizing correlation with cause and effect.
Your attempted implication that I do not respect my lovers is unfounded. I trust my lovers to have their own best interest in mind and I trust they know how to properly run their affairs. This is the respect that I provide. I would feel no attraction to them if I think they need me to function as a parent, nor would I respect them.
I think you have no idea what I expect. If you take my satyrical posts as indication remember that they are satire. Your belief that I do not want a lover to view me as the most important person in the world is the only correct derivative. I want them to view themself as the most important person in the world. Ideally I come a close second, though this point is never instantaneous nor essential.
Well said Star, I couldn't agree more.
Sometimes our intelligence gets in the way of our common sense. It's really no deeper than that.
Let's stop arguing. We fight like two Brahma Bulls locked at the horns. It would be a red letter day in the history of human relations if you would just admit I am right and you are wrong. In exchange I promise to ask for your permission to date the next TGirl I fall for. I think this resolution will satisfy us both.
Sarcasm...
Darn key still sticks...