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For most people the first time you do anything can be a little nerve racking. You picked a well reviewed lady and the odds of having an LE issue are almost NIL. Don't worry about it.  

Of course you'll spend to much time thinking about it, how will she be, how will I be, how will I perform etc.. None of it matters. You are paying her, she'll be reading to go. If you are clean, screened and have the green it'll go just fine. Just express to her once you arrive that you are nervous. Its normal. Lots of guys are nervous on most every date. I'm really nervous anymore but on occasion it creeps up on me without explanation.  

Often times, your first experience isn't all that great, or at least not what you thought it would be like. For most guys it gets better once you learn to relax and learn to express your desires better.  

Set the date, and forget about it as much as possible until the day of. Make a routine or mental checklist for things you need to do before hand and things you need to bring. Then get in your car and go. pop a couple of mints on the way up, and knock on the door. Smile and be open to what ever may happen. Its a sure thing and whether you cum in a minute, 10 minutes or never won't surprise the lady you are seeing.  

 
Posted By: tman87
Hello everyone, I been a member for a while and I finally found a provider that I'm "willing" to take a chance on. Im in NJ if that helps. Anyway I'm scared as shit because I never did this before and I don't want to go to jail..lol.. Starting to shake just talking about it. Anyway Im just feeling a lot of pressure about not being able to before because of nerves or maybe this person a cop or something. She has a lot of good reviews and in my price range. So for you guys who done this a few times how was it your first time and were you a wreck of nerves going in? And the do and don'ts of being with a provider. I dont wanna mess this up or get caught out there. Thanks in advance guys, I love this website and the contributors of it.

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Hello everyone, I been a member for a while and I finally found a provider that I'm "willing" to take a chance on. Im in NJ if that helps. Anyway I'm scared as shit because I never did this before and I don't want to go to jail..lol.. Starting to shake just talking about it. Anyway Im just feeling a lot of pressure about not being able to before because of nerves or maybe this person a cop or something. She has a lot of good reviews and in my price range. So for you guys who done this a few times how was it your first time and were you a wreck of nerves going in? And the do and don'ts of being with a provider. I dont wanna mess this up or get caught out there. Thanks in advance guys, I love this website and the contributors of it.

Be kind guys!


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When you let your brain go nuts, it's hard to get it back.

You are fine. You researched a lady and picked a well reviewed, in your words, provider.

Relax and do things to keep your mind off of it.

Whatever you do, don't get drunk. That can be the worst mood killer.
xo

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Very good advice.. Also luckily for me I'm not a drinker, plus I want my alertness to be 100% going into something like this for the first time.

If she's got a lot of positive reviews, you really have nothing to worry about.  The biggest thing to keep in mind is not whether she's in your price range, but rather do you think she's the right provider for you.  

Be a gentlemen, make sure your personal hygiene is on point, if she has a website review it for etiquette, to include how to handle the donation.    Usually its asked to be in an unsealed white envelope and to be placed either in the bathroom or in plain site when you arrive.  

Read her reviews, you'll get an idea of what she allows and doesn't. Don't push for something that she doesn't allow for.  

Those are the main points that I can think of.

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Thanks AhappyCamper. Very solid advice.

If, in addition to a lot of good reviews here, she has a web site it's highly unlikely she's LE.  But keep in mind there are no guarantees in this game so if your nerves get to be too much of a problem this may not be the game for you.
You also might try PMing some of her most recent reviewers.

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I never thought of Pming the reviewer. Will try that.

Alyssa is correct, don't overthink it.  As long as you have done your research that makes you feel comfortable, jump on in.  Stay with well reviewed providers, or at least reviews written by "seasoned" hobbyists, and you will be fine.  PM some of those that have reviewed the provider you are interested in, and ask for some more feedback on their experience.

For what its worth, it took me seeing 3 providers to stop getting that nervous feeling.  As one member here has told me before, trust your gut, it will rarely let you down.  Last bit of advice from me, this is supposed to be fun for both you and the provider, so try to have a little bit of it.  All of the ladies I have met are amazing individuals, and are a lot of fun.

Good luck and be safe.

If you are an adult and you are that scared to take the first step, you are not cut out.

How many other things in life you wanted to do and haven’t because you are scared?

Hell that's half the fun of it and as long as you have chosen a quality girl who has been escorting for a little while you will be just fine.

 The not drinking thing is a good suggestion as you already sound like you might piss your pants when you arrive lol.

 Hey just relax and have fun.

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You are definitely correct. I may do it sometime this weekend. If we were In canada it would be a whole different story for me, Not really afraid of the escort per say, Just the possible jail time.

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For most people the first time you do anything can be a little nerve racking. You picked a well reviewed lady and the odds of having an LE issue are almost NIL. Don't worry about it.  

Of course you'll spend to much time thinking about it, how will she be, how will I be, how will I perform etc.. None of it matters. You are paying her, she'll be reading to go. If you are clean, screened and have the green it'll go just fine. Just express to her once you arrive that you are nervous. Its normal. Lots of guys are nervous on most every date. I'm really nervous anymore but on occasion it creeps up on me without explanation.  

Often times, your first experience isn't all that great, or at least not what you thought it would be like. For most guys it gets better once you learn to relax and learn to express your desires better.  

Set the date, and forget about it as much as possible until the day of. Make a routine or mental checklist for things you need to do before hand and things you need to bring. Then get in your car and go. pop a couple of mints on the way up, and knock on the door. Smile and be open to what ever may happen. Its a sure thing and whether you cum in a minute, 10 minutes or never won't surprise the lady you are seeing.  

 

Posted By: tman87
Hello everyone, I been a member for a while and I finally found a provider that I'm "willing" to take a chance on. Im in NJ if that helps. Anyway I'm scared as shit because I never did this before and I don't want to go to jail..lol.. Starting to shake just talking about it. Anyway Im just feeling a lot of pressure about not being able to before because of nerves or maybe this person a cop or something. She has a lot of good reviews and in my price range. So for you guys who done this a few times how was it your first time and were you a wreck of nerves going in? And the do and don'ts of being with a provider. I dont wanna mess this up or get caught out there. Thanks in advance guys, I love this website and the contributors of it.

tman87419 reads

Thanks truu11. Your post really put me at ease knowing we all are new at this at some point. I read your second review from the first and it was awesome how much more comfortable with it you seemed from the first.

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Hi guys, I'm sorry. I just realized I posted in the wrong area. Honest mistake.

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If you already did your homework and chose somebody with good history of reviews (hopefully going back months if not years) the chance of being caught in a sting is very, very low.  

Even if you're ever caught and arrested chances are good you will be cited and will have to appear in court but you won't go to jail. Nowaday no jurisdiction wants to waste their time and money to jail an alleged john.

As for preparation to see the provider just think of it as a real date. Shower, shave, brush your teeth, put on cologne and nice clothes and let the providers lead once you meet. As an experienced provider she should have no problem guiding a rookie..

so, spend time reading up on here about how to cover your internet tracks among other trails a spouse could follow.

Then, have a stiff drink or two before the date and you'll do fine.


If you are still scared out of your wits, then maybe this is not for you.  It's supposed to be fun, not a trip to the dentist.

internet and it is done on the daily. That is perfectly legal sweetheart. What happens between two consenting adults behind closed doors is also no ones business nor should it be.

 
   If you start doing things like actively seeking sex acts to be oerfromed on you for money , sex for a fee. Your now opening yourself up to admiting your seeking to break the law.  

    It also is not ilegal to have sex with a person you meet online. However accepting money for it now your in some shit.

 
Make it a point to not discuss money in your travels.  
Make it a second vow you will not have any hand to hand transactions in your travels. Place the donation in bathroom so you can both be consenting adults and have a fun time but no one is breaking the law..........................xo
have fun every cop judge lawyer politician in town is as well and dont forget that for a minute.

     More importantly - make certain the ladies you see are well reviewed and not under age or being trafficed by a pimp and under age.

 
for the idiots that get popped after they call an unreviewed provider who could be underage and in trouble well i hope they rot in jail and dont feel sorry for thier dumb asses.

 
just be educated about it and meet with women whom are here because they choose to be and over the age of 18...at least do enough research to be certain your not contributing to sex tarfficing,  

 
join a screening site too . no half way decent escort will meet a newbie with out some screening,

I'm curious about something. You do state that it is not illegal to have sex with a person you meet online and that sex between two consenting adults is not illegal, as we all should already know. However, how do you get around the "money not exchanging for sex" scenario if money is placed in your bathroom by the guy. If LE does come in how do you explain that the money in the envelope was either not for sex or not given by the guy?  

Posted By: angelexotic
internet and it is done on the daily. That is perfectly legal sweetheart. What happens between two consenting adults behind closed doors is also no ones business nor should it be.  
   
   
    If you start doing things like actively seeking sex acts to be oerfromed on you for money , sex for a fee. Your now opening yourself up to admiting your seeking to break the law.  
   
     It also is not ilegal to have sex with a person you meet online. However accepting money for it now your in some shit.  
   
   
 Make it a point to not discuss money in your travels.  
 Make it a second vow you will not have any hand to hand transactions in your travels. Place the donation in bathroom so you can both be consenting adults and have a fun time but no one is breaking the law..........................xo  
 have fun every cop judge lawyer politician in town is as well and dont forget that for a minute.  
   
      More importantly - make certain the ladies you see are well reviewed and not under age or being trafficed by a pimp and under age.  
   
   
 for the idiots that get popped after they call an unreviewed provider who could be underage and in trouble well i hope they rot in jail and dont feel sorry for thier dumb asses.  
   
   
 just be educated about it and meet with women whom are here because they choose to be and over the age of 18...at least do enough research to be certain your not contributing to sex tarfficing,  
   
   
 join a screening site too . no half way decent escort will meet a newbie with out some screening,

It's where newbies go for advice from "experienced" guys.  Not really very complicated, my lord.

Just realx and go with the flow....you have to find clients who you are comfortable with....make them send you a pic of their drivers license and subscribe to intelius to screen them....  call me I am in florida and am a long time conoisseur of the ladies in our hobby...just relax and be yourtsel  three eight six three four one one three four eirght

Is there a presence of LE on preferred 411 and this site as Ive been told? I'm in Phoenix btw

I was NERVOUS AS HELL the first time.
Yes, there is a lot that can go on in your mind when just getting started - so you are well within the normal range, don't worry about that.

For me, after I got in that room with a beautiful lady and she ushered in the action with a kiss and and then unzipped my pants for a BJ - all was right with the world!  Most of the nervousness just melted away like butter...

an asian massage parlor a few times. Not sure it that will help you but that's how I started and then eventually ventured in to see a provider.

Between the INS raiding places for illegals and the FBI looking for trafficking, only a skilled hobbyist should think of going to them.

It's regrettable but true.   I remember the heady days of 20 years ago when AMPs flourished and I had a ball visiting them, but now I'm very gun shy to go to them.

Maybe it's a regional thing. Don't know how it is in Boston, but very little risk here.

However, if the guy is looking for a GFE experience, I'd recommend he find an escort who is the right fit.
That is not part of the typical AMP experience.

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The chance of being caught in an AMP/AAMP raid is exceeding rare. Your luck has to be real bad!

And even if that is the case the authority usually let the cutomers go with a warning.  

That is because LE does NOT have the evidence (wiretap, video recording...) of you giving the masseuse money while asking out loud for sex act. Would be very difficult to prove in court of your guilt.

99% of the time the purpose of such raid is to 1) uncover any possible trafficking victim or illegal alien and 2) shutting down the establishment

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