quick question - I had a really hot threesome with two providers that went very well and was very chill with lots of orgasms to go around. Also provided generous tip. I attempted to contact one of the ladies for a solo follow up thinking / hoping I could become a regular. She went totally silent and has not responded to any phone or texts. I stopped since I don't want to appear like a stalker and there are plenty of fish in the sea but any advice or commentary on why this occurred and is this common? I know the whole arrangement is contrived and everyone has their issues and circumstances but this was weird.
I've known providers for years who then one day disappear. Sometimes I knew that back story but most times I didn't.
You'll never know, but life happens and maybe you'll hear from them one day and maybe you won't.
Like you say, it is a big ocean out there.
Go fish.
The key thing to remember when this occurs is NOT to take it personally!! This underground society that we are a part of (and which I truly love LOL!!) has a fair amount of, shall we say, "quirky" individuals in it!! So it could be a MILLION different reasons why the communication stopped. Ultimately, as mrfisher points out you'll most likely never know why. But look at it this way-- the door now has opened for someone perhaps even MORE exciting to step in!!
Ahhhhhhh---the life of the "hobby"----a universe truly like no other!!
Don't think anything of it. It's part of the hobby life. And it can happen at any point along the path to pleasure, even after a great session. Even after many great sessions. Look at it this way. How many thousands of escorts have you seen over the years? How many times did you go silent? Thousands. That's the funny thing about this hobby. Everyone thinks that with such a big ocean, this is a sure thing. That I can call up whomever, whenever, and get laid. That's not really how it works. Sometimes it works, and sometimes silence plays into it way more than one would ever expect. You're lucky. Your session ended up loud, hot, and wild before it went silent. My last one went silent right before the session. Like I said, at any point! Or, you can be like Mr. Fischer, and marry your atf. The irony is that I'll bet there are times when he wishes he had the luxury of silence we enjoy. Isn't that the old cliche? We don't pay for sex, we pay for the silence?
You thought the session was hot. The two ladies did a great JOB. The one you wanted to see was possibly not as enthralled with you as she seemed at time she was getting paid to be. Hence she may not want to see you.
I know this because I have done this myself. There was such a disconnect on my part that I could not deal with seeing him again and just "disappeared".
Just move on and don't bother trying to figure this out.
Especially when he mentioned "there were plenty of orgasms to go around" I think the MOST likely scenario is the one you suggested, she was not anywhere near as into him as he seems to be into her.
Correct me if I am wrong, but guys who believe they are really supplying orgasms to the ladies are usually doing anything but, except for the pleasure they get by being able to pay their bills.
At least he already seems to be taking your advice and has ceased trying to get in contact with her. Whiny, needy, clingy guys who can't take NO for an answer have got to be the scariest men that a woman can encounter in this business.