You do not say how long it has been since the NCNS. As we all know, there is always the possibility of an emergency (including medical - hopefully not).
Hopefully he will own up to his NS and contact you with an explanation and offer of help with your costs. I know there are many of us out here who would do just that, in similar circumstances. Anything else is pretty much unacceptable.I recently had a new client specifically request that I do an incall in a certain region that was a bit out of my way, even offering to offset some of the hotel cost and booking a longer date. He seemed very interested and enthusiastic and we were in communication up to one hour before our date; then he never showed and I received no further communication from him. He passed screening (solid, not token screening) and showed no sign of anything other than active interest. What on earth is a lady to think of this? I understand that NCNS does happen, but this was not someone I would have expected it of going by his history. Other than refusing to rebook or requiring a deposit if he should ever contact me again (unlikely as that seems), what is a lady to do? It put me in an uncomfortable financial situation as well, as I turned down others who asked for the time slot he'd requested and they were regretfully unavailable for an unexpected pleasant interlude.
Is this sort of thing common in this world, or did I just draw the short straw this time? It certainly doesn't incline me to accede to location requests again!
*Maureen*
contacts you again. It's a shame that there are people out there (on both sides of the fence) that do NCNS to others. A lot of us who post here have had it happen to us at some point in time. It's not a common occurrence, but it does happen, and when it does, it usually is very inconvenient for the one who got ditched. I'm sorry that it cost you, but have some solace in the fact that you are not the only one who has suffered this, and surely will not be the last.
LLAP,
Swim
You do not say how long it has been since the NCNS. As we all know, there is always the possibility of an emergency (including medical - hopefully not).
Hopefully he will own up to his NS and contact you with an explanation and offer of help with your costs. I know there are many of us out here who would do just that, in similar circumstances.
Anything else is pretty much unacceptable.
It's been long enough that there should have been unless he's unconscious in the hospital or worse -- several days. I'm extremely disappointed in him, too; I would have expected better. Most of the people I've met have been marvelous, perfect gentlemen who made me wonder why I didn't start sooner!
(Mind you, if he IS unconscious in the hospital or worse I'm going to be terribly unhappy and try to figure out how to send anonymous flowers, because he seemed to be very sweet.)
Warmly,
*Maureen*
Seriously. It would be anice gesture, but what would his wife, or girlfriend think? If he is in the hospital, he already has enough discomfort!
In the future, if a gentleman ask you to travel outside of your area, I would suggest asking for a deposit; especially, if you are securing the hotel room. Deposits can be taken care of via credit card, cash, and/or gift cards.
Hugs,
Kelly
It would definitely be more a "thought that counts" thing, believe me! I wouldn't even know how to find out which hospital he'd be in. (Well, I could if I truly wished to, but that's well over the line and not something I'd do.)
It was technically not *quite* outside my area, but definitely in a location that would not have been my first choice (though it's convenient for some of my favorite clients, which helped.) I'm not set up for credit cards yet, though it's on the agenda; I'm not sure how to do a deposit with the other two methods you mention, though?
Many thanks!
Warmly,
*Maureen*
So I would love to hear thoughts on this topic. I had what I thought was a great method until I learned this evening that is being phased out and will no longer be an option as of April 1st. I would love to here what some of you are using and the pros and cons.
Thanks, as always,
Gabrielle
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I'd like to hear about this too! I currently just ask for paypal or an online visa gift card as a deposit. Would love to know if there are better alternatives!
but if his appointment was the main reason for your travel, this is one of the exceptions to the rule. If a couple of days have passed, he's had sufficient time to get in touch with an appology & offer to help. Short of putting him on your personal DNS (Do Not See) List, not much to suggest.
I think it is appropriate to get a deposit to cover 1 night at the hotel... if it is expressly for his appointment. I believe many gals prebook enough appointments to cover costs... or they cancel the tour.
Technically I did prebook before booking the hotel, it's just that he booked the prime evening time slots. If he hadn't, there were others who would have been delighted to spend time with me. Very frustrating!
Warmly,
*Maureen*
He can travel to you for the first visit. Use that accommodating-mode head space to take good care of your regulars.
What are you to think of it? Keep all clients in the black at all times. Meaning- they give, you give, they give, you give. Never the reverse. That way they can waltz away at any time with no hard feelings on either side- one of the main reasons a man would see a professional. 
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