I think that SHOULD be everyone's priority. I am not the jealous type and I am all about spreading the love.
However there are some cases when men take advantage of references. For example: I met with a gentlemen once and then 7 months later I started getting multiple reference requests for him. I am reference friendly but my site very clearly states that I will only give a reference for up to 6 months after our last meeting. Using my VIP status on TER, I was able to see that he had in fact seen other providers within this time who were also reference friendly. Yes, these providers were reputable as well. I gave good references for him, also indicating the month/year of our meeting. I also told him that he needed to use more recent references and that I would be unable to provide anymore for him.I'm curious to know if providers really like giving references so the client can visit other providers or is there negativity because the provider would prefer a client to keep seeing her.
Understand that giving references and working together is the best way for everyone to remain safe. Not giving a reference for a good guy who deserves one is more likely to ensure that he won't be back to see her than that he will see only her.
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There are providers who reply almost instantly to reference request. They know it took a reference to get to see them.
I find myself using that provider as a reference more often than some that not only are slow on references, but are slow on date requests. I therefore end up seeing the provider who does respond quickly to references on return visits mor often. IMHO the providers who willingly and quickly do referrals in most cases are doing well and in most cases by giving referrals are not losing business but in the long haul getting more. Maybe it is tit for tat or better yet professionalism. My we share a strawberry soon Portia.
she would never have the opportunity to see me again.
I can only think of one possible exception. There was this one lady several years ago that after our session told me she never gave references. She also told me that if I ever wrote a review she would hunt me down and castrate me. I'm pretty sure she was a sociopath of some sort and I believed her, but . . . . It was by FAR the hottest sex I've EVER experienced. I was later told she retired. I certainly hope so because if our paths ever cross again it will be very hard to take a pass. LOL
some providers are not reference friendly which is their choice.
I have no issue with giving a reference and have given many references.
However,I do feel that after a certain period of time such as if a guy has seen a lady one time and it is two years later he should be using a more recent reference.Versus trying to use the same provider from all of those years ago who might not remember him
Acting like that is stupid for two reasons: 1) word will get around and no one likes a Possessive Polly, 2) it's just bad karma. We're supposed to be looking out for each other, not stabbing each other in the backs.
Fortunately, most of the women in this industry are smart and therefore know better than to get shitty when asked for a reference.
I'm having this problem right now. I saw a well reviewed provider last Friday, and afterwards asked if she'd give me a reference here. She readily agreed and said she'd do it that day. I contacted her yesterday to remind her, and she seemed put out, said she was pretty busy and that she'd get to it. Unfortunately, there wasn't much about her that was what I expected.
I think that SHOULD be everyone's priority. I am not the jealous type and I am all about spreading the love.
However there are some cases when men take advantage of references.
For example:
I met with a gentlemen once and then 7 months later I started getting multiple reference requests for him.
I am reference friendly but my site very clearly states that I will only give a reference for up to 6 months after our last meeting. Using my VIP status on TER, I was able to see that he had in fact seen other providers within this time who were also reference friendly. Yes, these providers were reputable as well.
I gave good references for him, also indicating the month/year of our meeting. I also told him that he needed to use more recent references and that I would be unable to provide anymore for him.