I think most people here consider 6-10 with at least half of them coming from hobbyists who have written 6-10 reviews themselves. There are lots of great ladies that have a lot less than 20 reviews. We also have no idea where the OP is from. You are in a big market area. Do you realize how hard it is to find a lady with 20 plus reviews in a smaller market
Evening,
I'm in my early-mid 20s, with almost no experience with women, to say the least I still haven't had my first time yet. I have thought about exploring this realm as a possibility to have my first time, and have had a couple of questions relating to this:
1. I initially was thinking someone older, early 30s to mid 40s, based on their likely experience. Is this correct thinking, and would the providers in this range be willing to work with a younger person like myself? In that same vein, would it be wise to let the provider know my situation beforehand in as subtle of a way possible?
2. I right now am unemployed, if I move forward with this would that have a major impact on screening?
3. Any additional tips or things I should think about that I haven't thought about otherwise?
1, Good choice. MILF's can be much more accommodating for newbies.
2. Join a referral service like P411 or Date Check.
3. Read the Newbie Manual (top right near the red & white life preserver) and several pages here to get an idea of how this game is played.
4. Newbies should only see well-reviewed ladies meaning ladies with at least 5-6 reviews from well established reviewers with at least that many reviews over time
Re picking a MILF, while I agree it should be someone experienced and certainly not under 25, it's also important QQ is attracted to the person he chooses. So I'd put more importance on her looks and that she's an experienced provider with several years experience and at least 20 reviews. To see all this QQ will need VIP here, which it seems he has.
I also agree about P411. You can work with them to get screened even if you have no job info to give them. They will offer alternative info they'll accept. You can then use their provider listings to find girls who are "Newbie Friendly" who require no OKs.
I think most people here consider 6-10 with at least half of them coming from hobbyists who have written 6-10 reviews themselves. There are lots of great ladies that have a lot less than 20 reviews. We also have no idea where the OP is from. You are in a big market area. Do you realize how hard it is to find a lady with 20 plus reviews in a smaller market
Not to make assumptions, but you did say that you are unemployed. You should plan to spend a few hundred dollars if you want a good experience. I agree with all of the advice above and I think a MILF is an excellent idea. P411 providers are best but will cost a little more. Be careful of BackPage ads, unless the provider has TER reviews.
Don't worry about the ladies working with someone your age. You're of legal age so to most it won't matter. If it does matter to any of them you simply move on to another provider.
As for their age and experience it depends on what you're looking for. Do you want someone who can extend this experience as long as possible and teach you a few tricks in the process, or are you just looking to get this milestone done and over with? Either way, my suggestion is that you spend a lot of time reading up on any info you can find here, get any questions you have answered, get VIP access here and read the reviews of various ladies, get verified, pick your ideal candidate, and (assuming you can pass her screening process) make sure she knows this is your first time with any woman, not just a provider.
Additional tips? It's hard to say because my first time was when I was considerably younger, but I would imagine that the typical "issues" would be valid for you at your age also. If so, expect it to be over before you want it to be, so you might want to make sure the lady allows multiple "pops." If she does, and you're up for it (pun intended) your second attempt will likely last longer and be more enjoyable than the first one.
Also, you said you're unemployed, and I don't know your financial situation, but I would suggest you don't get tempted to spend less by approaching high volume providers running BP specials. You could easily end up with a woman looking to get things done ASAP so she can move on to the next John (though that would be the least of your worries because you could also end dealing with LE or unsavory characters looking to part you from your money).
Lastly, you need to be thinking with the right head when you figure out how much risk you're willing to take (in terms of STIs). When you're horny and about to get it done (esp. for the first time) it's the worst possible time to decide if you're willing to take a certain risk or not. Of course this isn't entirely up to you because the lady you'll be with will have her dos and don'ts, but if she allows any part without cover you need to know beforehand if you're good with that, and you need to stick to it (remember, you'll be fighting your urges, not hers).
Hope this helps
Good insight in a lot of different areas, I appreciate it.