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Re: efficient screening
TwoMints 374 reads
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P411, told me that about 50% of ladies don't actually read your profile there after you request a date. I don't believe that they are actually logging into the site which pushes them down the list costing them potential clients. I guess they aren't even slightly curious about the guy that is coming to meet them.  

Posted By: LSMJD
Ms Smith makes a good point. When I'm doing something similar, I PM (or do a pre-verify request,) through P411 so the lady can see my profile, okays, etc.  I'll also see if and when she reviews my profile as the site pings me whenever the profile is reviewed.  If you're only doing a PM, then you'll need to include your P411 ID in the PM,but if you're doing a pre-verify or appointment request, that info gets imbedded in the message sent to the lady.  
   
 I'm not sure if your K girl uses P411, but is she does, use this approach.  
   
   
   
Posted By: NoelleSmth
We can receive many requests in a day.  
     
  Most of us, on our websites, lay out in plain english what information we need for screening - most of us even have a form - it really couldn't be simpler.  
     
  Generally the info requested consists of Name, handle, email, phone - or some variation.  
     
  So really, your email, while very polite, amounted to "blah, blah, blah, blah".  No doubt she also received website requests, COMPLETE with info needed for screening... as well as other emails, similar to yours, yet COMPLETE with info needed for screening. (see a pattern here?)  
     
  Why would any lady answer YOUR email first, when getting info from you would be more time consuming, when she has so many other requests that can be screened and scheduled much more quickly?  
     
  Food for thought.  
     
     
Posted By: 89Springer
Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.    
       
   Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:    
       
   "Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.    
       
   I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.    
       
   I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.    
       
   If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.    
       
   Thanks    
   Springer"    
       
   I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?    
       
   I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

89Springer1818 reads

Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.

Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:

"Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.

I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.

I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.

If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.

Thanks
Springer"

I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?

I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

I dont see anything at all wrong in your approach. Email might have went to spam, she might be on hiatus, might have deleted it by accident, who knows.

I usually give it 4-5 days and then i make a second attempt and next time include your screening info so she knows you are serious and not a time waster.

If no response in a timely fashion at that point, move on to girl # 2 on your list.

89Springer473 reads

Some things seem so logical to me, but turn out to be the wrong thing to do, at least in this realm

You keep asking your questions and we'll do our best to help you out. There is quite a lot to learn about this biz and this is the place to do it.

Now go get'em tiger!

89Springer521 reads

How hard can that be to arrange? ;)

When I'd go tooling around on my motorcycle years back, I'd stop at a biker bar that's since been closed, just to look at the custom cycles.

One time I got to talking with an Outlaw biker, and he said he had to get going, as he had to meet a girl at 2 pm who had said she'd give him a blow job. The idea of actually being able to schedule sex was completely foreign to me. He didn't say anything about taking her to dinner, or to an art festival, or shopping, or anything like that. He was just going to go to her place and get a blow job.  

Now I'm in that situation, and it feels pretty good. ;)

If she is available and wants to see you she'll let ya know.

dakine18720 reads

It is not at all unusual that you got no reply. Getting in the door is difficult at best. Being that you aren't local and were trying to set something up on a "maybe" in the future didnt help your cause.

We can receive many requests in a day.

Most of us, on our websites, lay out in plain english what information we need for screening - most of us even have a form - it really couldn't be simpler.

Generally the info requested consists of Name, handle, email, phone - or some variation.

So really, your email, while very polite, amounted to "blah, blah, blah, blah".  No doubt she also received website requests, COMPLETE with info needed for screening... as well as other emails, similar to yours, yet COMPLETE with info needed for screening. (see a pattern here?)

Why would any lady answer YOUR email first, when getting info from you would be more time consuming, when she has so many other requests that can be screened and scheduled much more quickly?

Food for thought.
 

Posted By: 89Springer
Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.  
   
 Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:  
   
 "Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.  
   
 I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.  
   
 I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.  
   
 If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.  
   
 Thanks  
 Springer"  
   
 I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?  
   
 I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

Ms Smith makes a good point. When I'm doing something similar, I PM (or do a pre-verify request,) through P411 so the lady can see my profile, okays, etc.  I'll also see if and when she reviews my profile as the site pings me whenever the profile is reviewed.  If you're only doing a PM, then you'll need to include your P411 ID in the PM,but if you're doing a pre-verify or appointment request, that info gets imbedded in the message sent to the lady.  

I'm not sure if your K girl uses P411, but is she does, use this approach.  

 

Posted By: NoelleSmth
We can receive many requests in a day.  
   
 Most of us, on our websites, lay out in plain english what information we need for screening - most of us even have a form - it really couldn't be simpler.  
   
 Generally the info requested consists of Name, handle, email, phone - or some variation.  
   
 So really, your email, while very polite, amounted to "blah, blah, blah, blah".  No doubt she also received website requests, COMPLETE with info needed for screening... as well as other emails, similar to yours, yet COMPLETE with info needed for screening. (see a pattern here?)  
   
 Why would any lady answer YOUR email first, when getting info from you would be more time consuming, when she has so many other requests that can be screened and scheduled much more quickly?  
   
 Food for thought.  
   
   
Posted By: 89Springer
Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.  
     
  Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:  
     
  "Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.  
     
  I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.  
     
  I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.  
     
  If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.  
     
  Thanks  
  Springer"  
     
  I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?  
     
  I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

TwoMints375 reads

P411, told me that about 50% of ladies don't actually read your profile there after you request a date. I don't believe that they are actually logging into the site which pushes them down the list costing them potential clients. I guess they aren't even slightly curious about the guy that is coming to meet them.  

Posted By: LSMJD
Ms Smith makes a good point. When I'm doing something similar, I PM (or do a pre-verify request,) through P411 so the lady can see my profile, okays, etc.  I'll also see if and when she reviews my profile as the site pings me whenever the profile is reviewed.  If you're only doing a PM, then you'll need to include your P411 ID in the PM,but if you're doing a pre-verify or appointment request, that info gets imbedded in the message sent to the lady.  
   
 I'm not sure if your K girl uses P411, but is she does, use this approach.  
   
   
   
Posted By: NoelleSmth
We can receive many requests in a day.  
     
  Most of us, on our websites, lay out in plain english what information we need for screening - most of us even have a form - it really couldn't be simpler.  
     
  Generally the info requested consists of Name, handle, email, phone - or some variation.  
     
  So really, your email, while very polite, amounted to "blah, blah, blah, blah".  No doubt she also received website requests, COMPLETE with info needed for screening... as well as other emails, similar to yours, yet COMPLETE with info needed for screening. (see a pattern here?)  
     
  Why would any lady answer YOUR email first, when getting info from you would be more time consuming, when she has so many other requests that can be screened and scheduled much more quickly?  
     
  Food for thought.  
     
     
Posted By: 89Springer
Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.    
       
   Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:    
       
   "Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.    
       
   I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.    
       
   I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.    
       
   If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.    
       
   Thanks    
   Springer"    
       
   I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?    
       
   I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

They may not read your profile, but in most cases will see at least the number of OKs.  In my situation I started whith P-411 with their free six months and now have multiple OK's. As an older white male have not had a refusal for a date. More than one provider has not shown up as reading my profile but knew that I had X  OKs. I have only recently have signed as a TER member and as of now do not have of my P-411  providers whitelisting me but would guess that with the same number of white lists the result would be the same.  I in your own community and you have whitelist they may not need a formal reference as they may beclose friend of your last visit or know that Povider x is careful and does not give OKs or white lists lightly. Comfort!!

client_number_9418 reads

Or to put a finer point on it, K-girl agencies expect you to follow protocol to the letter. If you don't come absolutely correct you'll get no response.

Most lay out precisely what requirements they expect to see in your initial contact. Treat their appointment form like your 1040 and you'll probably have better results.

One more thing, if you're trying to gain access to especially difficult agencies there are usually one or two independents around who have good relationships. Figure out who they are and go get yourself a strategic reference or two, this will improve your chances significantly.

...in the loop.  Also, you generally aren't dealing with the provider herself.  Most K-girls have bookers who handle their appointments.  If the guy who referred you is an approved K-hobbyist, he can call the booker and put in a good word for you.

GaGambler400 reads

or be "juiced" into the loop by a guy already in the system as BPS has suggested.

In many cities, the K girls have started becoming more mainstream and even advertise on sites like P 411 and accept that for screening, but in many cities LA and DC are a couple that come to mind, getting screened the first time can be challenging.

apparently some of the above responders do.  Were you approaching a non-K-girl, your message might have gotten some attention.  However, a little more info (for screening) from you might have been appropriate.  You really didn't give her much to go on.  I realize your travel plans are not set in stone far ahead of time, but if you are going there for medical treatment, it seems to me that you might know a little ahead of time when you were going to be in her city.  Giving a more specific time frame, date and time of day, would go a long way in letting her know you are not just another time-waster.

For the K-girl, I'd say move on, until you can get some sort of introduction to that world.

Swim

89Springer476 reads

I'd thought afterward that not providing full screening information may have been the reason for not getting a reply. I didn't know that the K girl community could be so closed.

I know a couple of you said to move on, but I don't see a downside to sending one more email with full information. I doubt she'd blacklist me for such (correct me if I'm wrong), so the downside is that she won't see me, and the upside would be that she would.

Her rate is low for that city, and I won't have much time. With my favorite, there's no way I can just do one hour; even three or four are not enough. So, I was just looking for a "blow-and-go". Her reviews and photos are really good, so there's always the potential of me becoming a repeat customer, if she's agreeable

Sorry Dude, but it's the "if" that made her press delete. She responds to emails that she knows are going to be appointments. All time is money after all. Next time put it into short, Positive language i.e. "Hi, I'm ____,I'm coming to your town and I REALLY want to see you. Here is all my info so you can prescreen me, (TER name, P411 #oks, DC # verifies) I come on short notice so I want to be prescreened in advance. Please. Then you can go into who referred you, but she may not even read it. Just my 2 cents.

Posted By: 89Springer
Every time I think I know how to do things right, something throws me off.  
   
 Another TER member suggested a try a K girl in the city I go to most often. I'm going to be going even more often, as I have to get some medical treatment that's only available there. So, I emailed the following:  
   
 "Hello, SuzieQ. Another member of TER---  [member name] --- gave me your name, and suggested I contact you.  
   
 I live in the next state but I'm often in your city. I often don't know until the last minute, so it's difficult for me to make appointments.  
   
 I'm wondering if it's possible for you to pre-screen me so I can contact you if I know I'm going to be in your city, just in case you're available.  
   
 If this is possible, please let me know what information you need.  
   
 Thanks  
 Springer"  
   
 I never heard back. Did I say something wrong? Is asking for open-ended screening not proper? Would I be better to contact her again with a specific date and approximate time (ie, late afternoon), or should I just not contact her again?  
   
 I feel like I'm 13 years old sometimes.

and am I missing something?  From my basic research, it seems as if they're 'just' Korean girl providers?  What make them different to warrant a whole 'world' of their own. I guess I'm a newb on this one!

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