Thanks for those who replied and offered me genuine suggestions! I really appreciate that.
I would hope that any provider can please provide me with your suggestions on this issue! You can PM me if you feel more comfortable. Also, I was a little unlucky the past month ... When I asked them for reference, of the 5 ladies I have seen, 3 were out of business. (they have very good reviews on TER, but when I called their numbers, I found their numbers have changed. I saw them within 3 months from now ...) The other two simply were out of contact, I simply cannot reach them for a continuous 3 days ... When you think you have references, but none of them is helpful when you need them, it's awful! I am just curious how do you guys deal with such issue? Thanks always!Hi! I am fairly new to this. When I schedule with ladies, they usually require references.
I am just wondering what kinds of references will they consider as legit? Do my references have to be high-end? I mean I have a few references who posted on backpage, but they also have good reviews on TER, but they don't have a personal website or a personal e-mail listed on their page... Would such be considered as ok for ladies?
Also, I am afraid that some ladies are not responding when I need their referral. How do you guys deal with this? Do I have to see them multiple times before I can get their referrals?
Thank you so much. Any suggestions or opinions from either gentlemen or providers are welcome!
Your options are limited. You either need to get a service like P411 or actually give, if asked, your personal information. Most ladies aren't going to take some random reference. It will need to be someone that they recognize or can communicate with. The BP ladies, may not give references or simply have no idea who you are. Sometimes, ladies don't even accept P411, but those ladies are fairly rare. P411, you'll need to give your info, but they do have a 6 months for free offer right now.
I am just wondering what kinds of references will they consider as legit? Do my references have to be high-end? I mean I have a few references who posted on backpage, but they also have good reviews on TER, but they don't have a personal website or a personal e-mail listed on their page... Would such be considered as ok for ladies?
Also, I am afraid that some ladies are not responding when I need their referral. How do you guys deal with this? Do I have to see them multiple times before I can get their referrals?
Thank you so much. Any suggestions or opinions from either gentlemen or providers are welcome!
Contact the gals you have seen and ask them if they will be a reference for you... chances are they will be happy to do so. Any reference is better than none.
Second, invest in a reference service like P411 or Date-Check. You will have to give up your personal info to be verified, but only once to the service and not to every gal you want to see. If any of the ladies you have seen before are P411 members, they can vouch for you on P411 and you may get in with little additional information provided. I believe this is the best path for a hobbyist.
Third, post reviews and interact on the boards here... build some credibility.
Finally, lose the alias. Use your "real" handle. Unknown alias' with no visible review history or posting history are suspicious. Especially when they are asking for access to the keys to our little world here. We want to help out Newbies, but we want to protect our own as well.
Read the self-help center (all of it, for Hobbyist and Provider both) so you learn about how the site works and what the general rules are. Read a few pages back in the Newbie board; you will find that most questions have been asked and answered many times over.
Good luck!
Thanks for those who replied and offered me genuine suggestions! I really appreciate that.
I would hope that any provider can please provide me with your suggestions on this issue! You can PM me if you feel more comfortable.
Also, I was a little unlucky the past month ... When I asked them for reference, of the 5 ladies I have seen, 3 were out of business. (they have very good reviews on TER, but when I called their numbers, I found their numbers have changed. I saw them within 3 months from now ...) The other two simply were out of contact, I simply cannot reach them for a continuous 3 days ...
When you think you have references, but none of them is helpful when you need them, it's awful!
I am just curious how do you guys deal with such issue?
Thanks always!
Providers have different requirements. You can usually find that information on their website or from asking them. The suggestions offered cover many of the common requirements.
Most want at least 2 other ladies that they can contact, personal information that they can verify or a verification from a service like P411. How they use that information varies. They aren't likely to tell you how they use the information.
So your references are useless, you'll need to move to one of the other two options or continue to use BP and hope the next few ladies provide you with references. Reviews alone are meaningless as a reference, providers don't accept them.
I would hope that any provider can please provide me with your suggestions on this issue! You can PM me if you feel more comfortable.
Also, I was a little unlucky the past month ... When I asked them for reference, of the 5 ladies I have seen, 3 were out of business. (they have very good reviews on TER, but when I called their numbers, I found their numbers have changed. I saw them within 3 months from now ...) The other two simply were out of contact, I simply cannot reach them for a continuous 3 days ...
When you think you have references, but none of them is helpful when you need them, it's awful!
I am just curious how do you guys deal with such issue?
Thanks always!