often during a BBBJ the gal will use her hand and mouth together to get me off.

It's real nice.

I am just old enough for this board and have had to either have the lady finish me off manually or actually do it myself once simply because I became too stressed to even have her be able to help me.  The cover seems to be a bigger issue for me the last few years as I seem to have lost some sensitivity - or maybe its all in my head simply because I ain't like I used to be.  I

am not a very regular hobbist (but with many years of experience), so this has been a rather new issue for me the last 3 times I saw someone, which were spread out over about 20 months and covering some of my 59th year and now 60th.  However, I would also have to admit that I have slowed down a good deal with my SO too.  The last lady I saw in Atlanta was really great about it.  I told her about this issue (first time I did that with a provider - she was a little older and I did not feel quite so self-conscience about it) and she just said - "Great - thanks for telling me.  It is really nice when guys tell me what I need to do."  She then proceeded to give me a great massage and finish me off oral and manual.  The best thing is that I had an absolutely earth-shattering cum (and it wasn't even yesterday during the earthquake).  

From now on - regardless of the provider's age - we will have the "talk" first about what I can and can't do which I think will reduce the stress on my part and hopefully help us both.

...good old PA: Performance Anxiety.  Once you know you're vulnerable to a shutdown, there's a tendency to worry about it, and that leads to stress, the #1 enemy.

Viagra et al can overcome ED, but I don't think there's a drug yet to overcome the distraction of stress when it's time for the money shot.

Your web site is wonderful except it's in the wrong place.  It (and you) should be in Los Angeles.

Well, I’m 82 and with each passing year, there’s a little less lead left in the pencil.  Another poster on this board coined the phrase “young, dumb and full of cum”.  We were all there once and I remember it well.  My first BJ came from a beautiful girl who wanted me to last longer when I was in her.  She went on to become a Playmate of the Year no less.  Thinking back, she had to be jail-bait when I knew her.  Talk about young and dumb lol!

The 2 ladies I’ve reviewed know exactly how to achieve a happy ending for both us and DIY has nothing to do with it.  The “connection” at this age is the most important factor; that takes time but for me it’s more than worth the effort.  I’m still smiling as I recall the last morning of a multi day and night liaison with my atf; cowgirl with her strategically placing a vibrator between us as we both came together, Wow!!!

Well, I'm still 5 years too young for this board, but DYI is about the only way I can get a second one in in a day...

I haven't yet but sometimes it doesn't seem to be happening for me with intercourse ( condom, viagra, tightness, all of the above, who knows) and I have finished BBBJCIM whether spits or swallows doesn't matter. This has, so far, only happened a couple of times and I was with a provider that would do CIM. If CIM wasn't on the menu I might have to DIY but most likely a bbbj/hand (her hand) would have the desired effect.  great bbbj is great bbbj with or without CIM.

I'm 70 and have health problems.  I'm sure that or the meds I'm taking are contributing to my ED.  Either that or I have just worn my friend out.  I have to have a HJ or a DIY just to wake my friend up to get going.  I have found that it has lost its sensitivity.  I can't let my provider put any lube on it; it needs friction to get up; I even wrap it up in a coarse cloth sometimes to get more friction.

You have a great website.  I fell in love with your legs-----WOW!  Who was the movie star who had her legs insured for a million bucks-----you are right up there with her.

I would love to hear more about the "experience" you described on your website.  I'm sorry but I'm not man enough anymore to take on you and your gorgeous friend at the same time.

Huggy Bear

It does get harder with age but so far I still can come even with the condom on. One of my faves has remained very tight down below and has excellent muscle control and I never have problems with her. The other girls I see are more typical and while I  enjoy a lot of positions I have learned the positions that work best for me to finish. All the positions that work for me turned out to be positions that I had never tried until recently. Thanks to 101 sex positions for giving me ideas and a willing partner to try them out I was able to find angles that increase the pressure just enough. I also have to be more fussy about who I see, when I was younger I could get in the right mental attitude with just about anyone. Now I need the the right look and especially the right personality. The journey is longer and more difficult and I need to want to be with the lady even without the finish.

However, if and when it happens it will be comforting to know I'm not alone.  Thanks for bringing up the subject.

I am glad to hear some other old guys like me have trouble cummng. I have experienced this over the past year with increasing frequency to where on some sessions I did not cum at all. Recently I was having this problem with a long time favorite and she asked me if I wanted a prostate massage. Like most hetero men I have always guarded my asshole jealously, opening it only to those with MD after their name. This time, I let her try and I found that after she overcame my sphincter resistance, I was enjoying the sensation as she skillfully worked my prostate up to a great orgasm.
 I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks. Has anyone else found this to be helpful and I wonder if many providers are open to this? My friend says she likes it and is turned on by the feel of a throbbing prostate but I am afraid some would be grossed out.

Usually it's for a second cup when I had to take things in my own hand.  The providers got things started, but in order to finish, I had to help out.  Had that happen with my last date, mainly because she had some rules I was not expecting and I could not really get hard enough.  Did manage to penetrate but there was just not enough excitement for me, and this was just to get the first pop.  To her credit, she did try pretty hard.

Lou

I see no fault in it.  My Favorites are because of their attitude.   Early on I expressed concern to my companion, about being able to finish (within the time).  She said "It won't be a problem!"   At a certain point, completion becomes important...  a great provider will use every skill at her disposal to make it happen...  and not quit.  
This does not mean just a HJ finish...  Some guys feel that BJs should be "hands off".  And hands free can be very nice.  One has to just watch a bit of porn to see hands on BJs.  My take is a hands off BJ can become a "hands on BJ" to finish.  
Sometimes a change on position is all that is needed.  Lazy doggie is tight, crossed ankles is tight, etc.  Maneuvering to get the squeeze on the head helps a lot.  
Every coupling is different, every time is different.  The attitude makes all the difference.   Oh, yes, my favs leave plenty of time.  Once I was getting tired & was willing to quit...   she says "There's no rush... " we tried a different trick & it happened.  
jtp