...You should have read everything you can about her before you make contact. If you have questions that have not been answered in her ad, web site, profile, or reviews try contacting a couple of her reviewers and ask them. If you still don't get an answer you will have to decide if you want to take a chance and see her anyway.

Newbie mantra = only see well reviewed providers whose reviewers have many reviews under their belt. Best place to find them is TER and/or P411.

Don't ask about services specifically. She will ignore a statement like "I'd like to part those cheeks..." Some here will say if you don't ask about money and sex acts you're ok. Maybe, but asking about sex acts is not acceptable. She will think you're LE attempting to cach her. Some ladies are ok with specifics once you pass screening but you don't know that unless her ad or site mentions it so don't ask. Some things you just can't know until you get there.

Asking about 420, not smart. Illegal activity. You a newbie, her not knowing you, she is going to be especially cautious. You set off her alarms she cut communication.

Sounds like you need to read the Self-Help Center. Start with the links listed under Provider Relations 101.
Read back several pages on this board. Then come back and ask questions.

I'm not the slightest bit surprised that she stopped responding. To her, that question may as well have been "I'd really like to get you on solicitation AND drug charges when I come to arrest you. How does that sound?"

Asking about things that you shouldn't ask about is a common rookie mistake, so chalk it up to a lesson learned. In the future, though, never EVER discuss money, sexual activity or drugs. It's not only tacky, it's potentially dangerous.  

As for preferred methods of contact, are you reading their ads/websites thoroughly? The vast majority of quality ladies will very clearly spell out their booking process and availability therein. I'm not sure where you're "shopping," so that may make a difference in terms of common practices.

Nothing turns me on more than a man that can read and respects my boundaries. Most will put every thing you need to know. From if she travels to  what to expect. I barely send dirty texts to even regulars.

You're gonna get a lot of sanctimonious posts about this. Bring up weed when she shows up.  Some girls are into it, some aren't.  Just like guys!  Anyway, no, text or email is bad.  It's a record. Nobody likes records.

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to use email with someone new to me.  You do NOT make a comment like you asked about.  You are just trying to set up an encounter with her.  If you have done your research on her prior to first contact, you should know pretty much what's on her menu and what's not.

If she says in an ad somewhere she is 420 friendly, fine, but if it's not mentioned anywhere, it's best to assume she is not interested in a puff or two.  Totally not surprised at her reaction, just hope she didn't tell any provider friends of hers that you asked about 420.  IMO, that's as bad as asking about specific sexual acts.

You want to keep the dialogue as simple as possible.  Give her a time and date you would like to get together with her, and she will let you know if that's a possible for her.

Swim