....you have to ask yourself:will you really be able to relax and enjoy a session if every second you're waiting for the door to be busted down and swarmed by SWAT?? This hobby isn't for everyone.....you have to be willing to take certain risks that it appears you may never be comfortable with.
So having been around TER for a while now (just re-activated VIP recently)and I'm still a virgin (in the lifestyle) not having been with a provider yet. I recently came in contact with the ideal chick and she seemed very open and genuinely real on our first phone chat and she's great on texting it seemed. I have seen her a while now with posts on BP in the past but now like many others she's got a short video posted.
So my on-going issue is the fear of any LE getting involved and my getting caught. And based on what I have stated would she possibly be LE? A member poster a first and only review on TER but my mind wonder's if that could be fabricated through LE...is that possible?? To go out create an account on BP for so long then have a falsified account and experience posted on TER by LE...?
So that's my problem and I welcome everyone's feedback and any ass-kicking necessary, just go easy please.
Last thing regarding provider's posting more and more short videos on BP for example. Would it be safe to accept a video of that provider as legit and not possible LE?
My thanks again and I look forward to everyone's response.
Since you are now a VIP member again the lady you mention is she reviewed here?
I couldn't really figure out what you meant by a member poster first review.
Are you saying the lady you found on BP only has one review here?
Look for ladies here on ter that is in your area.
If so I would look for ladies that are reputable.Google her info maybe she is reviewed on other sites.
But if she has no reviews but one here it should be from a reputable reviewer meaning someone who has reviewed more than one lady.Maybe wait until she has more reviews or find another lady.
Also having a video posted on your BP ad does not equate to a provider being reputable.
It just shows she put up a video without reviews stating that the pics are real you really have no idea if the lady in the video is who you will be really seeing.
Sorry for the confusion jaydalee. Yes this provider was reviewed HERE by a member. This member has several other reviews of other providers as well, the same provider I'm interested in being his last review. I will definitely consider those providers closest to me but I really want this one to be my first!
I couldn't really figure out what you meant by a member poster first review.
Are you saying the lady you found on BP only has one review here?
Look for ladies here on ter that is in your area.
If so I would look for ladies that are reputable.Google her info maybe she is reviewed on other sites.
But if she has no reviews but one here it should be from a reputable reviewer meaning someone who has reviewed more than one lady.Maybe wait until she has more reviews or find another lady.
Also having a video posted on your BP ad does not equate to a provider being reputable.
It just shows she put up a video without reviews stating that the pics are real you really have no idea if the lady in the video is who you will be really seeing.
to the reviewer if you have some concerns
Backpage is not a "safe" place to play, especially for a newbie (whether man or woman). Your best bet is to find a well-reviewed and experienced provider to see for your first few forays into the hobby.
If you simply MUST see this one particular gal, follow Jaydalee's advice and PM her reviewer for additional info. Also, post a link here and/or on your regional board to see if anyone else has seen her and can vouch for her... most guys do not write a review for every gal they see, but may be willing to respond to help you out and let you know that she is safe.
Also, with a link a more experienced guy may be able to help you google pics, phone numbers, etc... and use other means to check her out (including finding reviews on other reliable sites). All of this can help build your comfort level.
Finally, you could see if she is willing to do an outcall... it isn't foolproof and it may cost a bit more, but it does lower the odds that she is LE.
Good luck and make good choices!
She will "be" your GF for an hour or 2. But it is an illusion. Going exclusive with a single provider (been there, done that) tends for you to be taken for granted & services suffer. You are a Newbie & nervious. You will make mistakes in your first few meetings. You need experiemced providers to guide you through the process. I recommend MILFs... young enough to be HOT, experienced enough to break in a newbie. Look for 6-10 reviews as a minimum... and some by experiemced hobbiests. Oh, yes, read the reviews of amy you are seriously considering. FIRST reviews, are always suspect until confirmed by additional reviews.
I find it best to have a few 3-4 "Favorites" who I rotate. They offer different experiences. If one is unavailable, I can book another.
I do book New to me gals but only if I think they are Fav possible.
After you have a couple of successful meetings behind you, book with this "Ideal" provider. You will not "blow it" that way.
I, too, am a Newbie. Although I now have several visits under my belt, I still have the same paranoia about LE.
That is why I absolutely refuse to even get on BP (I know, I know...some legit girls are there...I don't care). I made the investment of getting VIP on here and joining P411. I only travel to major cities and I see no benefit of even getting on BP.
The first girl I saw was certainly not the girl of my dreams and there were others I would have preferred to have seen. However, she had terrific reviews from many established reviewers and I was as comfortable as was possible that she was legit.
Due to the aforementioned paranoia, I also refuse to do incalls. I only do this when I travel, so if the girl will not do an Outcall, I move on. I know that doesn't necessarily make it 100% safe, but IMO the chances of being caught by LE while seeing a well reviewed/screened provider on an Outcall is as minimal as it can get.
providers with 6-8 reviews minimum from established reviewers (again, 6-8 minimum over time), then the chances of a bad experience are minimized.
....you have to ask yourself:will you really be able to relax and enjoy a session if every second you're waiting for the door to be busted down and swarmed by SWAT?? This hobby isn't for everyone.....you have to be willing to take certain risks that it appears you may never be comfortable with.
went through all the possible bad scenarios too.
I think this is completely normal for newbies.
Yet as soon as the fun started on my first date (only took about 2 minutes before she unzipped my pants and started giving me a BJ) - all was good with the world! P411 especially has made this hobby accessable to those who want to play EXTREMELY safely. My advice to the OP: read up all you can here, then go for it and have fun
Possible? yes. Probable?
Well lets put it this way. Cops don't get paid for effort, they get paid for results.
Number of traffic tickets, not the sneakiest, coolest, best way of hiding to catch the worst drivers.
So for PforP they want to catch the low hanging fruit, make a good haul (24 in one night!) or else satisfy a particular goal like prevent trafficking or zero tolerance like Mo Co MD.
So would they put in all that labor, time and effort to catch the same number or fewer, but get some of the more wary and savvy guys? Or just pick the low hanging fruit?
There is a lot of p4p, and relatively few arrests, so the probability is low to begin with.
Add in the odds of an elaborate cover effort to assist a sting of a misdemeanor crime?
Esp to grab the 'middle hanging fruit' (savvy guys who use backpage) rather than the low fruit (dumb guys who use BP) or High Rollers (a hi cost agency and its little black book)? Where's their pay off? Neither extra numbers nor extra "quality" of hi profile perps.
Probable? Nope.
Having followed the advice of posters here as far as I'm concerned BP doesn't exist. I'm a once a month hobbyist and I get all my leads from TER and 411. I've liked some ladies better than others but so far it's been mostly free of drama, no rip offs and any concerns about LE reside far back in my head.