I'm assuming your first inquiry was very general and no dates were set up.
The only time I've done that is when I've been looking for a last minute date and sent out several emails. After a date materializes, I send notes to the others saying "nevermind, but look forward to seeing you another time..." just so they won't waste their time replying and starting to plan for a possible date a few hours away.
But if you sent general inquiries WEEKS in advance, then there really isn't a need to tell them you have have other plans now.
hi all, a few questions from a noob. the first is simple, the second less so.
#1. what is the proper etiquette for multi scheduling? i will be in vegas in ~ 6 weeks. i want to ensure a best first experience as much as possible and so contacted a few women i'd like to meet. i figured i would start broad, go through their screening (and mine?) and narrow it down. is this ok? i've heard back and been told to recontact within about 1 week to go. should i just wait and notify them closer to the date or should i tell them now to open their schedule.
#2. i'm new to this. there are a few very particular things i need fulfilled, the whole reason for this hobby. i need to live out my foot fetishism and desire for greek. i have thus far been approaching it...let's see...akin to choosing your restaurant based on what meal you want (steak, lobster, etc). however, what if the restaurant you like doesn't serve your favorite on the menu? you can still eat, but it's disappointing.
after doing some research and general browsing i wonder if my mindset should be more like: "what restaurant do i want to dine at" and allow the chef to prepare the prix fixe menu. should i just let professionals do their job the way they do best (something i wish for in my own career)? or should i stay true to my "requirements."
thanks!
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On the first, They will not open their schedule just because a noob asks them to. Call them within a week like they said, schedules change, people cancel, you may change your mind between now and then. Accidents happen, ETC.
To your second, because you are just starting, Noob, Start small, meaning, lower your expectations, while many girls may be fine with your requests others may not, ask and if they say no, either enjoy what is offered and chalk it up or move on.
Better yet, read the reviews and see if the girl offers it, if she does than it probably will not be an issue, if she obviously does not, do not push it and move on.
I'm my experience fetishes (and I'm not personally into any) and other requests above and beyond a normal menu item are best left to discuss for repeat appointments after you've built a positive rapport with a provider. IMO best to keep it simple and fun on a first date unless the provider in question specifically advertises and specializes in your specific request
you sincerely plan on following through with it. Some guys set up multiple appointments for the same day and time and then go see their first choice and cancel on the others last minute (or never even bother to call.) That is bad form and get you on DNS lists if you are not careful. In fairness however, some guys do this on account of the fact that some gals also do this, but two wrongs do not make a right.
Re: #2, you have to be careful that you do not discuss sexual activities until you are BCD. This is what reviews are for. Some things can be discussed however such as clothing requests, and I don't see anything wrong with asking about foot worship (Be clear on whose feet are to be worshipped, by the way.) Do not ask about greek, even using cute euphemisms like "trip to the isles, etc. That will get you on DNS lists sure as shootin'.
Welcome to the hobby and TER. Let us know how things work out.
thanks for the replies, advice taken. follow up question, i just want to be clear. in my case 3 women currently want me to re-contact them with 1 week to go. should i, now, choose and tell 2 other providers i have other arrangements made? or should i just assume nothing is set at all, until 1 week from now when i re-contact to confirm (and at that time decide which date). i requested fairly long (IMO, 3-4 hrs) visits and want everyone to schedule appropriately.
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I'm assuming your first inquiry was very general and no dates were set up.
The only time I've done that is when I've been looking for a last minute date and sent out several emails. After a date materializes, I send notes to the others saying "nevermind, but look forward to seeing you another time..." just so they won't waste their time replying and starting to plan for a possible date a few hours away.
But if you sent general inquiries WEEKS in advance, then there really isn't a need to tell them you have have other plans now.
Regarding your original #2. If you have a certain itch pulling you into this hobby, then by all means look for a lady who can scratch that itch (based on her reviews). As you hobby more, things may change and you may value things differently. But you shouldn't go into a date with a sense of resignation that you don't think you will get what you really want.
A week out, I'd probably contact your top choice and see if she's still available. Then I'd cancel with the others asap. I don't do this, but I imagine that would be okay. I do have appointments booked out 2 weeks in advance and won't be surprised if they cancel on me. Shit happens. My session is one hour if she gets an offer for a day, she should cancel with me. Business is business, I'd be disappointed but I have a long list of ladies that interest me and I'd just start contacting them.
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When canceling there is no need to say you have picked someone else or give a lengthy explanation, a simple sorry my plans have changed should be enough.
I never contact multiple providers when I'm making plans I prefer to zero in one provider from the get go. But that's me. Vegas can be a challenge,but your smart to book a multi hour date as that will guard against you being bumped by the provider for a longer date. You might want to contact 100proofofLV one of the legit agencies in Vegas as a backup plan. Zack will work with you
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thanks all for the advice, it'll work for both questions. i wanted to have just 1-2 providers but i was afraid being new would keep some options away so i contacted more. i figured long visit b/c i really wanted to have an open window to have her. in all honesty i would ideally like my first to be a overnight/day experience but that just can't happen this trip.
It's fine to have things you would like to do but don't go into an encounter with a list of things you feel you have to do. Must do lists can lead to disappointment when you focus on what you didn't do rather than what you did do.
Find ladies who offer what you want by reading reviews, then gently steer things in the direction you want them to go. She may need a heads-up for greek though, so she can be properly prepared.