So while I am not over 60, I am a LOT closer to this age group than say the 30 something crowd, I am almost 50. Not too mention my circumstances seem better suited to the experience and knowledge of this group of fellow hobbyists that are younger.
So I have been out of the hobby for about 20 years. In the last couple of years I have more or less got my health much more in the forefront of my mind. Found out that I needed ADAH meds (Aderal), depression meds (Welbutrin) and have low T. All together have they made a world of change in my life greatly improving the quality of life I see daily.
So I jumped back in about a month ago seeing a nice young spinner. Had no luck getting it up with her despite excellent provider effort. Searched thru this board and decided to talk to the doc about Cialis, got some, tested at home with a "one the day before and one an hour before" as someone recommended on C vs V thread.
Seen another sweet little spinner last night, and getting it up was not a problem, yes! But getting off was. She was a absolute champ, worked her ass off trying, got to love that 
Anyway I think like a lot of hobbyists a big part of the issue is comfort and frankly mental. In both sessions I took a very passive role, which lead to too much talking and letting the lady take the lead, which might be good with some providers, but it wasn't with these two.
I absolutely love women, the way the look, the way they smell, their sound, their taste, the way they move, well just about everything about them. I am a nice and kind person in a intimate situation. I like to see my partner get off. My goal is to get back if not to the same physical performance as when I was in my prime years, but at least the same/similar sanctification and enjoyment level that I haven't had in a long time.
So here is my plan for a revisit with the same provider from last night... I am scheduled for tonight, so if you have something for this, now is the time to post 
Now that I have established something with her, we talked a lot. I should be a lot more comfortable with her tonight.
1) Take charge right out of the gate.
2) Take my time and luxuriate in her beauty and sensual nature. Take the time to undress her, touch her, smell her, taste her.
3) Get her fired up, shouldn't be too hard, she is a real sensual monster!
4) Get to work on doing the things that feel great to me, be direct and deliberate. Not completely controlling or anything, but asking for exactly what I want, with a willingness to be guided and learn from a fairly experienced provider despite her age
So what do you successful and experienced fellow hobbyists and lovely providers think?
I agree your whole problem is mental. But I don't think its mental in how you orchestrate a session. I think its mental in the mere fact that here you are close to 50 and your banging (or at least trying to) an 18-21 year old. You prob. haven't been naked in front of any college coed in close to 30 years (when you were actually in college).
Moreover, and here is the key point, you haven't hobbyed in 20 plus years ( a VERY long time) and you are now trying to jump back in with someone who can be your daughter (and if you have daughters, is prob. younger than your real kid). I don't care how great you think the little vixen was; she prob. doesn't have a clue how to be a good provider. And because you haven't seen a provider in such a great length of time, you are obviously going to be extremely nervous as heck and the anxiety will cause you to have trouble popping (at least you solved the erection issue). A college coed is not the way to solve this problem (even if you think she is tremendous eye candy)
I really would consider seeing a much more mature provider (at least 35 years old) who has a grasp on the entire process in order to ease back into the mix. You will inherently be much more comfortable with someone closer to your age. Once you are comfortable with the entire hobby process again; i.e. the contact, the conversation and the main event (and it takes some time), then go ahead and bang the college coeds.
I understand the beauty of this hobby is in its variety. If you want to have sex with young college coeds, then by all means, go ahead. It's your cash. But I think you will get a lot more out of the hobby process by seeing a more mature provider at the start of your foray back into the hobby world
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