Great idea, I'm also going to carry my gym bag from now on so if I get the "I'm on my way home" text, (never gonna happen) and I can't follow my usual routine, I'll just go to the gym and hop on some cardio machine for a hour. I'll sweat that shit right off me!!!
Hello all, I am new to the escort scene and currently looking for providers. Thanks to TER I have a few I am interested in and am working on moving forward with seeing some of them. Since I have never had an escort before, I had some questions about what is proper when seeing them.
First, as I don't want to leave smelling like sex when I go to work or home, I know that most escorts offer a shower. I assume this is for a quick rinse afterwards. Stupid question, but are we as clients supposed to bring our own toiletries in? I mean, I will have a stick of my deodorant in the car but am just wondering...
Also, is there typically incentive to giving a tip above the recommended donation? Am wondering if an extra 100 or more might change things, aside from when a provider explicitly lists favors (i.e. Greek) with prices.
Finally, I want to build up some references to start with so I can use certain providers who require them. If I saw two escorts in the same agency, is that considered two references (the provider) or one (the agency)? Is it assumed by providers that they may be used as references or do I need to ask to make sure?
Sorry for rambling on so long, and thanks.
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1. Some ladies will supply toiletries, often you'll just have what the hotel supplies. If you're particular, it would not be weird to bring your own toiletries.
2. Short answer is that it's not required or expected (but like any service, a big tipper is remembered fondly). Lot's of threads on this topic; scroll down the page and search "tipping" for more discussion.
3. Agency references are a trickier topic. I'd say that an agency counts as a single reference as they are usually given by the booker, not the actual lady you saw. Beware, some independent providers won't accept such a secondhand reference. Also, giving references are a courtesy, so you shouldn't expect that everyone you visit will be diligent in providing one for you. Signing up with a screening service like P411 or Datecheck with open a lot of doors.
Regarding #1, you may also want to request that the provider not wear any perfumes, etc., and if you are getting a massage, request (or even bring with you) unscented massage oil. (Pure almond oil is a very good choice along these lines.)
Women have very sensitive noses, and for those of you who will be coming directly home to your SO, you will want to be sure that you smell like you.
It's always good to have a cover story like you stopped at the Y to work out which is why you are showered - or similar ruse.
I prefer that the ladies use perfume, it turns me on. That being said, I don't need to shower when I leave the "date". I'm going directly home, to wash all of my clothes and scrub myself down. Laundry and shower in the afternoon isn't uncommon for me but you'll need to figure out how to not change your routine. I don't hobby at night it wouldn't be possible. Suddenly smelling like another woman or showering at odd times would probably be a big red flag. Plan it out, think it through. BTW, sudden joining a gym may be a red flag as well if you all of the sudden start doing unusual things. If you are going to join a gym and work out alone, you need to do that for a few months so it because routine, no one so you continue working out but so that it becomes background noise and odors to your SO.
Women have very sensitive noses, and for those of you who will be coming directly home to your SO, you will want to be sure that you smell like you.
It's always good to have a cover story like you stopped at the Y to work out which is why you are showered - or similar ruse.
She doesn'ty like kissing or any touching for that matter. This day she wanted a kiss... I had the sence that even though I'd showered after, I could still taste my date on my lips. It's not unusual for me to use the bathroom when I arrive home so I played the "Gotta Go" routine. Before I came out, I took a shower & got clean clothes on. I approached her in the kitchen & she was no longer interested in kissing.
A Fluke? Who knows?
...she could have dropped to her knees!
Thanks all for your answers so far. Each is helpful in its own way. Harborview, I especially appreciate your answer. My SO is the same way... but occasionally (not often) is interested.
Anyway, I wanted to see if you guys could tell me more about review sites like p411. Do I have to pay to be a member? How much are we talking? How does it go down and work in regards to building a reference base? In the end, I would like to have 3 references reliable enough to give to anyone, and if these sites would help I'm all ears.
First, as I don't want to leave smelling like sex when I go to work or home, I know that most escorts offer a shower. I assume this is for a quick rinse afterwards. Stupid question, but are we as clients supposed to bring our own toiletries in? I mean, I will have a stick of my deodorant in the car but am just wondering...
Also, is there typically incentive to giving a tip above the recommended donation? Am wondering if an extra 100 or more might change things, aside from when a provider explicitly lists favors (i.e. Greek) with prices.
Finally, I want to build up some references to start with so I can use certain providers who require them. If I saw two escorts in the same agency, is that considered two references (the provider) or one (the agency)? Is it assumed by providers that they may be used as references or do I need to ask to make sure?
Sorry for rambling on so long, and thanks.
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The answer is simple -- join P411! I am a long-time hobbyist, but a few years ago I took a multi-year break from the hobby in the US. During this time all of my old escort friends in the US retired... so when I recently decided to re-join in the fun, I had to start from scratch. I joined P411, and within a few weeks I had 3 P411 "okays". It's now rather simple to meet with about 90% of independents and perhaps 50% of agencies.
Interestingly, while joining P411 I learned that the owner there is actually someone I knew of from the hobby many years ago when we both were active in another site. She happens to be a terrific lady, and her business seems to work very well while being a great service for the hobby.
P411 charges a fee of $129 billed discreetly to your credit card. It will open many doors for you in the hobby and is most definitely worth it. I got verified this past fall. Saw a provider that was newbie friendly to get my first"OK" and have been a sure thing with all subsequent contacts. Much easier than having individual providers screen you. Once you're on p411 you can use the site to have subsequent providers give you additional OKs.
location, I will smell the same as at home or at the gym. Can't be too careful now a days.
Great idea, I'm also going to carry my gym bag from now on so if I get the "I'm on my way home" text, (never gonna happen) and I can't follow my usual routine, I'll just go to the gym and hop on some cardio machine for a hour. I'll sweat that shit right off me!!!