and that holds true even when there are no screening issues. Some women are just slow to respond.
I would wait another couple of days and then send a gentle reminder allowing for the possibility that she has been out of town or that your email inadvertently ended up in her junk folder. After that I would simply move on. The one thing I would NOT do is blow up her in box demanding to know what is going on, that will almost certainly assure that she never gets back to you.
I am new to the US scene, as I am traveling there next week but have had many encounters in Europe. Question is on screening. I have found a provider that is very well established and I sent an email to her answering in a very polite and honest way all of her questions, real name, phone number, home location. I also made it clear that I did not have any references in the states, but would like to work with her on getting screened. Her website states that using p411, or RS2K is preferred to speed up the process but that she welcomed newbies and would work to help getting screened.
I sent an email two days ago but no answer, I suspect that I may not be welcomed for some reason, perhaps because of the lack of provider references, but I am not sure. I really want to get some advice with this and what I may be able to do/offer to work on getting screened without seeming like I am some sort of weirdo that keeps bugging her. No phone number is provided she does all via email according to her site and handles here and on TER.
Any advice on what I may be able to do to sweeten that proposal for a meeting. Maybe a public meeting first? I have initiated a membership with P411 but do not want to pay if she will not even send a reply to my initial email. Moving on to another provider will be inconvenient since I live outside a major metro area and her location is also remote and only a 45 minutes drive for me.
I'm in the US and have had to wait 3-4 days to be screened. That and she could be busy.
So it is not normal not at least get an email stating that I am being screened?
and that holds true even when there are no screening issues. Some women are just slow to respond.
I would wait another couple of days and then send a gentle reminder allowing for the possibility that she has been out of town or that your email inadvertently ended up in her junk folder. After that I would simply move on. The one thing I would NOT do is blow up her in box demanding to know what is going on, that will almost certainly assure that she never gets back to you.
So it is normal to not hear anything at all? I can understand waiting, just seems like a short email back stating something would be normal business practice, no?
it would have been courteous on her part to respond to your contact, one way or the other. Suggest you do a follow-up email, but if she does not respond within a reasonable, move on even though it will be inconvenient for you. It's too bad about your location problem, but there doesn't seem to be much you can do about it. Since I assume you do not have any provider refs, P411 is a very good idea. With no provider references, you will need to be patient, as many providers will not see guys based on a verification site reference. Everyone has to go through this when first starting out.
P411 does have one edge, they allow their providers to indicate if they are newbie friendly. Look for those. Until you get some providers to vouch for you, you may find yourself traveling a little farther to see someone than you prefer. Eventually, you will find things easier, again, be patient.
Swim
Thanks Swim, I would agree particularly since this provider has over 200 reviews posted here. I was very careful in doing my research first here to find a provider that had good reviews and many also mentioned no major problems with communication and screening.
I will wait one more day and then try one last email.
P411 does have one edge, they allow their providers to indicate if they are newbie friendly. Look for those. Until you get some providers to vouch for you, you may find yourself traveling a little farther to see someone than you prefer. Eventually, you will find things easier, again, be patient.
Swim
Thanks for the advice, that is why I thought an email back stating there was a problem would had helped me figure out what to do next. Seems like making a decision to pay 129 USD without even an answer back is not money well spent for this circumstance. Of course I understand that it is a down payment to I guess ensure less chances of this problem repeating itself again, but I am looking at is with a short term view only. Too bad we cannot add circumstance such as this to reviews on providers, or can you? Seems like reviews are only for those that have been screened .
if you are writing a review of a lady you visited with you can certainly talk about the communication leading up to the date. But you can NOT review a lady you didn't visit with. Also, this really isn't like dealing with other businesses - sometimes, for whatever reason you may not get a reply. Don't take it personally or spend too much time thinking about it, just accept that as part of this hobby and move on as best you can - even if you do have limited options (I should add, a single brief follow-up note after 2 or 3 days is fine, just to make sure you didn't accidentally fall throuhg the cracks).
And P411 really is a great investment - I highly recommend.
Just in case her reply to you was sent there. And it's also possible your original email to her was filtered out by her server too. This is where contacting someone through P411 has the edge: the P411 email is guaranteed (better than any other path) of reaching her.
Given your EU background, just be aware that in the US if you make any mention of a sexual nature then it's likely she'll delete your email and block the account. This is for her security in light of the legal environment.
Use of P411 is sporadic in the EU but visiting women there who are members can give you the edge when it comes to your next US trip. Don't give up!