You need a separate bank account, preferably with a mailing address at your office or place of business. You don't want bank statements showing ATM or cash withdrawals coming to your home. You may need to withdraw small amounts from joint accounts over time to build up a stash for hobbying. Also, you can get a separate cell phone, which I do not recommend because it will be hard to explain if discovered and requires you to keep it in a secure location. Instead, there is a cell phone app (Hushed) that you can get from the Apple store that gives you a cell number from any location in the country and texting capability for $30 a year. Calls to this number have a distinct ring tone. You can place the app icon right next to your regular text message icon. You should make sure that the your phone is password protected and that there is no banner showing on the locked screen when you get calls from this other number.
Hello Everyone,
I have a couple of questions. I was wondering if anyone has had a problem with getting an STD from a provider even when wearing protection?
Are any of you, who are visiting providers, married? If so, how do you keep the money from the spouse?
Don't. You're not cut out for this and it will not go well.
I have my own separate accounts... always have.
You need a separate bank account, preferably with a mailing address at your office or place of business. You don't want bank statements showing ATM or cash withdrawals coming to your home. You may need to withdraw small amounts from joint accounts over time to build up a stash for hobbying. Also, you can get a separate cell phone, which I do not recommend because it will be hard to explain if discovered and requires you to keep it in a secure location. Instead, there is a cell phone app (Hushed) that you can get from the Apple store that gives you a cell number from any location in the country and texting capability for $30 a year. Calls to this number have a distinct ring tone. You can place the app icon right next to your regular text message icon. You should make sure that the your phone is password protected and that there is no banner showing on the locked screen when you get calls from this other number.
I have a hobby phone that I destroy and throw-away periodically. A decent simple-use Trac-Fone is $10 and $20 for usage. I intentionally register it in another city, and switch the city and phone number periodically. Every 3 months I destroy it and throw away the pieces and buy a new one at WalMart with cash. The LAST thing I want is a provider to call me on it, so it is always left off expect for a day I plan to use it. (And I never give the number to anyone unless I have a scheduled date!) I also delete the memory entirely after EVERY use... and leave it locked-up in my gun safe between uses. When I buy it I tell the Wally-World CSR that it is for my son... and I only buy it at stores far from my home that I never shop, and I never register it in my real name. To me a smartphone app is just TOO risky! I NEVER EVER use my regular phone for this hobby!
As far as money goes, I have an account I use for my other hobbies, so it is pretty easy to turn those hobby profits into spending money that goes unnoticed. I also always keep a decent amount of cash in my gun safe and also in a safe-deposit box just in-case something (or someone) I really want pops-up.
I also have a few different hobby email accounts at Hotmail, GMail, Yahoo, etc... and I periodically wash them and swap among them, too. (Yes, I am a bit paranoid and safety-focused, but I have been doing this without any issues for well over 20 years, so this works!)
Play safe!
When I started. But we have separate accounts for most things so that's a plus. You need the money in cash... Trips to ATM can screw you up. But you can't hide your cash in your sock drawer (though there should be a little there so she thinks tha's where you keep it. A locked phone is suspicious as hell. I don't like smart phones anyway. I do use a simple hobby phone & yes, it must be hidden. It's not as hard as you think. And hobby email.
You'll need to have a loser schedule... no questions asked... Do not use others as a "Cover" for hobbying. You never know when they'll slip up... and a former friend with that kind of knowledge is dangerous. Most any hobby could be a cover... but must be appropriate to you.
travel allowance checks from work, rental income, part-time jobs, etc. I never take money out of a joint account.
Yes, easy to keep a hobby phone hidden. A drawer at work is safe as is a gym bag that you take to the health club or even in a sealed plastic bag under your spare tire. Mine is only "on" when getting ready for an encounter.
A hobby phone, as I've know the term, is more expensive then something like Hushed but I can't imagine that you can't find a place to hide a phone. I have a tiny hobby phone costs me about a 100 a year to renew. (prepaid) I have something like 3000 minutes on it now that I'll never use even a 10th of. (trac phone) I'm certain there are cheaper options available. A own a business so getting the money out isn't a problem either. I only use the phone for this hobby so it may go a month or more without being on and I only turn it on when necessary. I use email to communicate, and use a separate email only hobby related. Both the phone and email are easily discarded in a crisis. Hopefully that never happens. I'm limited on when I can hobby and it sucks that so many ladies don't really like early appointments but we all work with what we have.
I use TF... I have kept the same for a several years. I did ditch it when some spammers go a hold of the number but only that once. I also delete all calls before I leave her. It means I need to look up a number for each date, but if the phone is ever found, it can be an emergency phone for the truck or found it. (Did you know even an expired cell phone can make 911 calls!) I keep it hidden in my hobby area & it's pretty safe. A gym bag would be suspicious as I not a gym rat for good reasons I'll keep to myself... except to say it would not make sense.
I'd be concerned about spare tire... but then, I can't remember the last time I needed a spare. There are areas inside my auto trunk where things could be hidden behind the carpeting.