"I'm turned on with the vision of her satisfying multiple partners"
Yeah, me too. I see a little spinner quite often. Time before last, during doggie, I said something to the effect that it must be hard to take some of the big dicks she gets since her pussy is so small. She started telling me about the biggest ones she's had. Did I ever get turned on!! Came like a fountain. That's why I like attending gang bangs so much...to see one woman being the center of attention for so many men and getting royally f**ked in the process is a big turn on. I love watching man after man cum in her mouth. To DFK her afterwards is heaven.
Okay, refer to GFE_to_be_named_later's thread "I have a dilemma" on 5/22. Reading about her infamous client's foibles, suddenly I realized I had done one of his obnoxious things, though not for the same reasons, I hope.
I have asked providers how many sessions they have had, or will have in the last day (or few days.) I've done it twice during dirty talk, and it's impromptu, once as a lead in. It has brought them up short, and with the one, a very prominantly experienced provider, she was at a loss. She suddenly got serious and said she was low volume. Another one, I got to explain it to, but she was taken aback by it too. In a way, I couldn't believe neither of them ever had that question. It froze things up for an instant, but thank goodness, things heated up again very quickly.
I ask it because I'm turned on with the vision of her satisfying multiple partners. I seem to be unusual about that. Not meaning for them to answer it seriously, I wanted them to play along, to role play it, give me fantasies about it, but wasn't immediately clear to them at all. They just thought it was a rude question.
Judging by the response of the women, and what I've read in other posts, I seem to be unusual for having this as a turn on. Do any other guys here have this fetish? For providers, do you encounter it?
And yet a different question for providers: what boundaries do you have for this? I'm not that experienced in this hobby, and the lead ins to it all seem really awkward. If you could think of any, are there directions, which for you, it should never go? Is there a good way to segue from dirty talk into role-playing without having to break character? Is it too dangerous when dirty talk and fantasy touch too close to your actual business or sexual life?
I've got a bit of the same fetish. Not only that, but just talking dirty in general. I sometimes like to use what most would consider derogatory comments toward the lady and also have her reciprocate with some degrading comments about herself. This in no way reflects how I feel about her personaly and is not meant to diminish her as a person, it's just something that gets me off! But I'm definately not comfortable doing it unless it's been agreed to before hand, and she understands and can take it without feeling like it's a personal attack on her character. I've found that it's not a very easy thing for me to bring up, as I don't want to scare her off or make her feel uncomfortable. Furthermore, doing it impromptu can definately ruin the mood if she takes it the wrong way. (Yeah, you like that don't you slut!! I respect you very much as a person.) Sounds pretty stupid because it's a contradiction. I would love some advice on how to tactfully approach women/providers with this fetish.
I think it's always a good idea to just "grab the bull by the horns" and say what your preferences are, when you're on your date. That is, if you are turned on by her talking abbout a certain topic, just tell her--if she is able to help you, she will. If she feels uncomfortable, then she won't. (Do NOT email her about such details beforehand--it would be considered bad form).
Just make it very casual, like it's just one of several things that get you going (short skirts, painted toenails, whipped cream, whatever). As for me, because I share that particular fantasy you mention (!), I would be quite happy to indulge you! Plus, I've actually experienced very naughty situations where I was ... oh! (clears throat) I forgot where I was! Anyhoo, that's my two cents.
"I'm turned on with the vision of her satisfying multiple partners"
Yeah, me too. I see a little spinner quite often. Time before last, during doggie, I said something to the effect that it must be hard to take some of the big dicks she gets since her pussy is so small. She started telling me about the biggest ones she's had. Did I ever get turned on!! Came like a fountain. That's why I like attending gang bangs so much...to see one woman being the center of attention for so many men and getting royally f**ked in the process is a big turn on. I love watching man after man cum in her mouth. To DFK her afterwards is heaven.
Personally, I'm *very* fond of dirty talk, unless it's done in poor taste. If a client asks about other clients that I've seen or will see, I see it as a turn-on. I like to discuss my sessions (discreetly, mind you!) if I think it's something that my client wants to hear about. Then again, I also go to swing clubs on my personal time, and enjoy group sex as well, (though *always* safely, sanely, and consensually!)
The best segue into roleplaying and fantasy is to discuss it first with me in e-mail or on the phone, politely. If it's a roleplay I like, I'll definitely get into it and will probably start up myself!
I too love dirty talk. Usually you can feel the lady out. I have one regular who just loves to talk dirty. It was obvious from the start that I could say just about anything to her and not offend. One of my favorites is asking how many guys she has seen before me or what she is going to do to the next guy she sees. She seems to get real off on this. As is is with most things, when in doubt, just ask.
Have you ever been called Bitch/Slut/Whore or any other derogatory name while having sex? If so, how did you respond? Was it a turn on? Were you offended and pissed? Or did you just shrug it off like, "whatever"..ignore it etc...?