I realize where to find them, my question is do the ladies offer a "mailing address" LOL or is there a different way to get it to them..thank
Guy makes a date for day one with a traveling lady who will be in town three days. Bright and early on day one heavy snow makes driving a pastime only for excessively "cocky" folk, the kind who usually tailgate on the highway. Lady is in downtown hotel near subway. Guy not near subway.
Guy cancels, and cannot reschedule due to other obligations. Is lady entitled to compensation
would certainly make you look like a gentleman and would greatly increase the odds that the said lady would be happy to offer you an appointment at a later date.
Think about it from her end of the equation... her day is very likely ruined and will be full of cancellations. And there she is, sitting in an expensive hotel room, just racking up costs.
It's tough to be touring and have your income go "poof!"
So, "entitled" or not, I think you'd be a pretty considerate guy to make the offer and follow through
Thanks. If a guy offered you this type of gift compensation, what process would you use to receive it, seeing as how you (hypothetically) travel? Are most ladies set up to receive anonymous gift card payments via Internet?
I can accept credit cards and for those who don't wish to have even a discreet billing name show up on their statement, I also gladly accept Vanilla Visa.
Ask her, and I'm sure she'll find a way.
You can buy egift cards from Amazon , Victoria's Secret, Bergdorf Goodman to provider's email address.
You are a gentlemen for even thinking about it.
xoxo
But as Tabu said, you'll earn goodwill points by offering her something.
In this game, guys take risk and the gals take risk. As well stated by CP, acts of God are a part of doing business, not just in p4p but any IRL biz as well, and thus fall on the girl side (i.e. the "business" side) of the risk ledger.
Ladies charge what they do and what they can, knowing full well things that have nothing to do with the client can hurt their bottom line.
The gal has access to the Weather Channel or inet and can make her own risk/reward assessment as to whether or not to gamble with the inclement weather with her travel schedule. Her roll of the dice should NEVER be the clients problem.
Any professional gal knows this going in and would never be expected to get compensation from the situation you describe.
are one of those things that are completely out of our control, especially this time of year. We can study the weather like crazy the day before an appointment and sometimes those weather people still don't get it right the day of lol. I'm going through that this week myself. Planning can only go so far sometimes where mother nature is concerned.
What I find that works for me is just good ol' communication and putting your appointments on alert in case you think there may be a chance you can't make it. I try and stay on top of it and pre-act if I can by letting them know instead of panicking on the day of. Most gentlemen are beyond appreciative and willing to workout a backup plan. And do it together. Sometimes you get it right and sometimes you get it wrong but if the communication is there, it usually pans out I have found.
In your case if neither of you knew snow was coming, I'd say do whatever seems fair to you. There is no right or wrong but what you feel is the right thing to do with this woman you were planning on seeing. Talk to her about it and work it out together. If you have communicated enough in advance beforehand and the repor is there, I'm sure there is something you can both fairly work out. But I don't think anyone is entitled to anything here on either side of the fence. Do what you feel is fair and right as two human beings who had a date schedule together and go from there. I guess ask yourself how you would handle it if the tables were turned. I hope that helps just a bit. Good luck to you.
xx kisses
Stevie
Guy cancels, and cannot reschedule due to other obligations. Is lady entitled to compensation?
how would someone send their "appreciation" to that person if they don't see them?? Via mail?? Assuming Credit cards aren't an option.. Thanks
by heart. Use cash to buy a gift money card and email the secret code. Never tried it, but makes sense I think.
I realize where to find them, my question is do the ladies offer a "mailing address" LOL or is there a different way to get it to them..thank
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ahhh ok... I get it sorry for being so dense!! I appreciate your info!!
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It was a sudden rain event that litterally stopped traffic on the interstate. I tried to drive through & couldn't. We cancelled.
I was fortunate in I was able to get free the next day & rebooked. I also made it a practice to allow extra time, find the call point & then withdraw to the corner coffee shop to pass the time. Hanging around a hotel lot IS NOT DISCREET! The re-booked meeting went off perfectly & I still see her when I'm in her area... several years later.
Just for giggles, last winter I booked with this same gal. It was snowing steady but the roads were passable. I'd allowed enough time & she was surprised & not ready when I reached the call point. She'd assumed I wasn't coming & had made personal plans. I offered to pass but she decided we had enough time for our meeting... I should have called & confirmed / reminded before driving all the way there.
I was the one in the car in the down pour, not her. Litterally, most cars had pulled off the road & then the cars still trying to drive STOPPED in the travel lanes (which was where I was when I called her). BTW, you CAN get ticketed (if you don't crash) driving under the speed limit in bad weather. "Speed too fast for conditions" is what it'll say on the citation.
The sun was shinning where she was... an hour later it was where I was too. But I would not have reached there before the appointment time was nearly over, & she couldn't rebook later.
Had she demanded a cancelation fee, I would not have rebooked with her. I would not have seen her the many times over the years. A lady can run her business however she chooses... and I'll make MY decisions accordingly
....I know, that my expenses, and then some, will be covered.
I traveled to New York last year, by private invitation, and then stayed an extra day to entertain. It was snowing on way up, but my gentleman came through, and I arrived on time. I did have a few gentlemen come into the city by train, the following day, with considerable effort. I did, however, charge a cancellation fee to those that did cancel, because it was obvious that gentlemen could make it into the city.
I feel, that if I can travel through the snow/rain to keep a date, my gentlemen should be able to do so, as well.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Just because several gents could make it to you certainly does not mean all could. Maybe the ones who came by train could walk to the train station while ones that cancelled felt they were placing their lives/health in jeopardy by driving into the city or driving far to a station.
A true professional, imho, would give a client the benefit of the doubt and graciously accept a gents cancellation, especially on an inclement weather day with snow.
To put a financial penalty on a client for choosing his physical safety over getting his dick wet is the very definition of a bad business practice.
I would NEVER think about doing that to a client or potential client and on that basis alone, I would instantly place you on my DNS list and would tell my very long list of friends in this biz about the episode.
Threats? Charging dudes because they cant make it through a snowstorm? I cant say we have always seen things eye to eye BWB, but I always thought you were professional. Until now.
Asking if you were "threatened" because I merely said I would put you on my DNS or tell my buddies about your business practices is the ultimate dodge and sign of desperation.
If you act professional, you wont have any issues from me. Act unprofessional, and yes, I would inform fellow hobbyists in a heart beat.
Maybe you didn't know that's one of the main reasons why TER exists to begin with?
like pissing in the wind. it won't change anything.
Although your opinion is allowed on this board, Kelly can run her business the way she wants. I'm 99% certain she would make her policy clear to her client beforehand to avoid an issue. At that time he could make a determination on whether or not to "risk" a potential cancellation fee.
As an example, i can't stand the idea that Uber charges "surge" pricing but, guess what? I don't have to use their service or call them to complain about it. I just decide I won't give them my business.
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How many people are getting their dicks wet with you?
If the answer is none, then you do not have sufficient experience to respond.
If the answer is one or more...................
I traveled to New York last year, by private invitation, and then stayed an extra day to entertain. It was snowing on way up, but my gentleman came through, and I arrived on time. I did have a few gentlemen come into the city by train, the following day, with considerable effort. I did, however, charge a cancellation fee to those that did cancel, because it was obvious that gentlemen could make it into the city.
I feel, that if I can travel through the snow/rain to keep a date, my gentlemen should be able to do so, as well.
Hugs and Kisses, Kelly
Sorry but YOUR experience traveling the PREVIOUS DAY Does not prove what the DRIVING CONDITIONS ARE the FOLLOWING DAY. I call BS! You aren't out there driving in it & you don't pay my insurance either. Just because some were able to get to your location, does not mean the others could. Nor that they could be away from their other lives if the travel time was say doubled from 1 hour each way to 2 hours which might mean being off the grid for a half a day.
IMHO, you are unreasonable. I am entitled to my opinion, just as you are yours.
Our paths will never cross.
H
For instance, what is the guy willing to do in order to keep the date? Bad weather would never keep me at home. And on the other hand, we can find out how understanding the lady is in those situations. Also, if the guy does have to cancel, the lady will find out about his understanding and generosity
is probably not a good time to try to see someone for a romp in the hay.
"Closed by snow: all public schools, government offices, and Hobby Houses". 